Fallen for a call girl
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you kenna gong tau already .....
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Originally posted by Giddyboy:
I met a thai girl whom i got to know from a escort website. I booked her for 2 hours for sex. But instead of doing anything, we actually just chat, massage each other's back and joke around for the whole 2 hours. After that, we went for makan and i sent her back to her work place at orchard towers. Then she sms me telling me that i am a real gentlemen and feels good been with me and hope we can be good friends.
The next day, i realised i can't stop thinking of her. I called and chat with her ever since then. I even had foolish ideas of finding her a decent job in singapore or some way to stop her from working there. ( Of cos thats impossible i know ). And worst of all i was her only customer for that whole week. As business is pretty bad at orchard towers and she doesn't do business with those ang mohs. i asked i could go down and visit her, but she refused saying she only wants to see me outside and not in this kind of place.
Then i decided to invite her to my house for dinner. She responded very happily and even went to shop for some decent clothes so she can wear it to when she meets my family.
On that fateful friday the 13th, i brought her to my place, intro her to my mum and had dinner. Then we went to my room and chat , surf net. She was really very happy and we even discussed about the next day program. Then my mum asked " Is she staying overnight?" I told her maybe. Her face turned really black and said "NO"
I was somewhat shocked and i suddenly felt everything is going to go wrong. I begged my mum but she refused. I really dont know wat to do.. cause i actually told the thai girl she could stay over, and my parents will be ok with it ( I brought ex gf to my place before to makan and overnight but my mum never make noise ). I went back to my room, and asked her if she wanted to go clubbing. She looked at me and asked whats wrong. I just told her the truth that my parents dont like you to overnight here. After that the thai girl said she's ok with it and that i can tell her the truth. Then she continued serving net and suddenly broke into tears.
I was SHOCKED. She cried. I asked her whats wrong she refused to tell me. Then my mum sms from the living room telling me to ask her to leave. i really didnt know what to do, i felt like as though my life is over. Then i asked her to dry up her face and we leave the house now.
I brought her to hotel 81 and when we entered the room, she was still crying. After she settled her crying, and a long persuading, she finally told me. She told me she put a lot of hope in seeing my family and she even spent money to buy decent dressing for me. She even took a day off from work just for this day.
I apologised and kissed and hug her. She then said, hooker and customer shouldnt have fall in love. I just told her that it's my decision to love her. We chatted about each other's problem, about my strict family and her finanical budern. She has to drink herself drunk every night so she can sleep otherwise she cant sleep. Its really sad. i really wished i can do something for her, and i thought i could make her life happier on friday but it turned out to be like this.
I send her home and gave her 100 bucks. I went home without shedding a single tear throughout everything. The moment i lied down on my bed, i simple broke down. I just couldnt stop crying. In my heart i kept on cursing myself.Cursing myself why am i born in such a strict family and when i didn't study well enough to have a higher paying job. Then i thought of putting a stop to our relationship. I called her told her that today will be the last time we see each other again. She kept quiet for a minuite, and told me she really dont wan me to leave her etc etc etc.
In the end i couldn't bear it, and i told her i will call her again. I really am at loss. i really dont know what to do. To be frank, i broke down several times typing till here. I hate my parents and i hate myself. I really wished i can do something to let her have a better life.
Hmmmmmm.................................You didn't tell us what's stopping you from giving her a better life.
Although we know that your Mom doesn't like her from the first impression, but that only means your Mom is not going to give her a better life.
But you can give her a better life, so why are you upset?
Unless you tell me you need your Mom to approve your relationship.....like you're her daughter like that...............
So share more on what's stopping you from giving the girl a better life.
Are you sure you are not thinking too far into the future already? If you are, could you please tell me the winning numbers for Toto in the future?
Please don't make your own lives even more miserable than it is already is.
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Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
she cried coz her fat hope has been dashed.
u is work wat de?
me see ur english, me knw u beri lousy liao.
diao
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You have to be extremely careful about hitching up with a prostiute.
There is always the hope that things will change for the better. It may, it may not.
You cannot be moralizing to her, after all you went to prostitues.
She may be genuine, she may be seducing you.
Trust your mum..
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Originally posted by mancha:
You have to be extremely careful about hitching up with a prostiute.
There is always the hope that things will change for the better. It may, it may not.
You cannot be moralizing to her, after all you went to prostitues.
She may be genuine, she may be seducing you.
Trust your mum..
i second that.
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I just went out with her today. I told her i won't give her a single cent anymore and she can choose whether she wants to go out with me as casual friends. She seems ok with it. So far she hasn't asked money from me.
You have to be extremely careful about hitching up with a prostiute.
There is always the hope that things will change for the better. It may, it may not.
You cannot be moralizing to her, after all you went to prostitues.
She may be genuine, she may be seducing you.
Trust your mum..
Well, i think i will just take one step at a time and get to know her more first before i conclude anything. What if she is really genuine?
Even she is not i believe time will reveal everything as long i don't empty my pocket for her.
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not taking ur monies doesnt shows anything.
I paid for the 1st servicing and for the next 1 week session, she didnt even take a single cents too.......(u think about it).
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If thats the case then what is it that she is really after?
I really don't understand.
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if u ask around....ppl will tell u alot of stuff.
if u ask urself...u willl think she wants u truly.
the point is only she knows the answer.
pls bear in mind, is not now that u think u can cope and love her. is the future. can u give her wat she wants? can she gives u wan u want?
ur time with her is wayyyyyyyyy too short. time will tell u the truth. dun commit urself too much when there r better more things to concentrate i.e ur carreer, ur parents etc etc
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Originally posted by Hello Kitty:
she cried coz her fat hope has been dashed.
u is work wat de?
me see ur english, me knw u beri lousy liao.
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Originally posted by Giddyboy:
If thats the case then what is it that she is really after?
I really don't understand.
first of all, do u reli love her tat much?if not, just forget abt it la.. find another decent one?
i have frenz who married thais n viets, some turned out good, some turned out super bad.
the good ones are happily married with kids la..
the bad ones stil struggling and in many many debts..
think abt it..
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Originally posted by Giddyboy:
I just went out with her today. I told her i won't give her a single cent anymore and she can choose whether she wants to go out with me as casual friends. She seems ok with it. So far she hasn't asked money from me.
You have to be extremely careful about hitching up with a prostiute.
There is always the hope that things will change for the better. It may, it may not.
You cannot be moralizing to her, after all you went to prostitues.
She may be genuine, she may be seducing you.
Trust your mum..
Well, i think i will just take one step at a time and get to know her more first before i conclude anything. What if she is really genuine?
Even she is not i believe time will reveal everything as long i don't empty my pocket for her.
Don't forget to sign pre-nuptial agreement before you marry her.Only if you're rich.......
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Originally posted by Giddyboy:
I met a thai girl whom i got to know from a escort website. I booked her for 2 hours for sex. But instead of doing anything, we actually just chat, massage each other's back and joke around for the whole 2 hours. After that, we went for makan and i sent her back to her work place at orchard towers. Then she sms me telling me that i am a real gentlemen and feels good been with me and hope we can be good friends.
The next day, i realised i can't stop thinking of her. I called and chat with her ever since then. I even had foolish ideas of finding her a decent job in singapore or some way to stop her from working there. ( Of cos thats impossible i know ). And worst of all i was her only customer for that whole week. As business is pretty bad at orchard towers and she doesn't do business with those ang mohs. i asked i could go down and visit her, but she refused saying she only wants to see me outside and not in this kind of place.
Then i decided to invite her to my house for dinner. She responded very happily and even went to shop for some decent clothes so she can wear it to when she meets my family.
On that fateful friday the 13th, i brought her to my place, intro her to my mum and had dinner. Then we went to my room and chat , surf net. She was really very happy and we even discussed about the next day program. Then my mum asked " Is she staying overnight?" I told her maybe. Her face turned really black and said "NO"
I was somewhat shocked and i suddenly felt everything is going to go wrong. I begged my mum but she refused. I really dont know wat to do.. cause i actually told the thai girl she could stay over, and my parents will be ok with it ( I brought ex gf to my place before to makan and overnight but my mum never make noise ). I went back to my room, and asked her if she wanted to go clubbing. She looked at me and asked whats wrong. I just told her the truth that my parents dont like you to overnight here. After that the thai girl said she's ok with it and that i can tell her the truth. Then she continued serving net and suddenly broke into tears.
I was SHOCKED. She cried. I asked her whats wrong she refused to tell me. Then my mum sms from the living room telling me to ask her to leave. i really didnt know what to do, i felt like as though my life is over. Then i asked her to dry up her face and we leave the house now.
I brought her to hotel 81 and when we entered the room, she was still crying. After she settled her crying, and a long persuading, she finally told me. She told me she put a lot of hope in seeing my family and she even spent money to buy decent dressing for me. She even took a day off from work just for this day.
I apologised and kissed and hug her. She then said, hooker and customer shouldnt have fall in love. I just told her that it's my decision to love her. We chatted about each other's problem, about my strict family and her finanical budern. She has to drink herself drunk every night so she can sleep otherwise she cant sleep. Its really sad. i really wished i can do something for her, and i thought i could make her life happier on friday but it turned out to be like this.
I send her home and gave her 100 bucks. I went home without shedding a single tear throughout everything. The moment i lied down on my bed, i simple broke down. I just couldnt stop crying. In my heart i kept on cursing myself.Cursing myself why am i born in such a strict family and when i didn't study well enough to have a higher paying job. Then i thought of putting a stop to our relationship. I called her told her that today will be the last time we see each other again. She kept quiet for a minuite, and told me she really dont wan me to leave her etc etc etc.
In the end i couldn't bear it, and i told her i will call her again. I really am at loss. i really dont know what to do. To be frank, i broke down several times typing till here. I hate my parents and i hate myself. I really wished i can do something to let her have a better life.
Falling head over heels with a prostitute are occasional topics that
would pop its presence into Aunt Agony every other moment. In my 8
years here, I remembered telling those guys, having exact same scenario
as yourself (you can consider them as your predecessor), to report with
a reply/topic/post if they are successful in their relationship with
these ladies. You know the happily ever-after kind? None did.
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Before
we start claiming human rights issues about the fact that prostitute
are also human beings requiring basic socio-emotional needs - this is
in fact a red herring to the real fundamental issues in love, which are
classic technique naturally 'used' by our individual cosmic lessons,
which could conveniently put us in intensive karmic relationship
without resistance. The informal fallacy that prostitute also deserve a
partner, in this case, is but a smoke screen to conceal the root of
issues - the deficit in learning about love. Everything occurs within a one week time frame and such pace of advancement is likely to an Uranus-influence relationship. Your failure in previously relationship seemed to share a common factors that (1) you based your decision entirely on affect and (2) you don't exactly know your partners very well when you end up in a relationship with them.
First law of CloUdism states "it is we who chooses our partner, not the other way round.' As much allocation of blame you have attributed to your previous girlfriends, wouldn't you agree that having nine unsuccessful relationship are blatant signals that the root of problem are probably strong hint of suggestion that you are likely the main reason for it?
You mentioned that such disappointment has prompted you to dial a call girl; hence your real agenda is that you wanted a girlfriend, so what you did was to attempt to switch from a paid sexual service to 'convert' them into 'legitimate' relationship. You have used monetary payment to get pass your first door (the approach) because in any given chase, for the masculine role always suffer from approach anxiety (fear of rejection). Your failure in several preceding relationships has created what I termed as love fatigue and in response, people always hasten the process to get to where they last stopped in love.
This creates several structural problems in love, often only expressed itself in later stages.
The condition of this fact doesn't alter, even if you get to know her better before committing anything.
Also, I believe there are certain amount of Transference (shifting your emotions towards this woman, bounded by paid services to response in a certain manner, simultaneously illicit your desire to forge deeper companionship). She reciprocated in a manner (both physical and personality) close to your ideals, but I must remind you that these are merely perception exuded on her part, which might not be consistent with her actual thoughts and feelings.
Man just loved playing the knight in shining armour; don't over identify yourself with the role of a rescuer. Albeit it feels good on the ego, but you subject yourself to blind compliance. Blaming yourself for her helplessness is step one.
P.S: You are pretty much fixed in what you plan to do and like all others before you, I shall say the same: do let us know if this has evolve into a successful outcome. I should still be around.
Cheers
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I actually sympatise with TS, my current gf she's thai chinese/ thai indian/ hongkong chinese mix currently working in HK at the thai embassy. (NOT bargirl or whatever, common misconceptions)
I met her in HK while asking for directions, and of course i chose the prettiest person sitting around to ask for directions, she looks chindian more to the chinese side, which I think is damn exotic hehehe
For some reason, most women with Thai blood in them are very gentle and caring, I mean yes some Singaporean ladies are like that too I believed, I've had SG gf before but I got sick of them complaining about every damn thing. Haha no offence to fellow locals
So next time if your BFs or husbands head to thailand frequently for "business trips"... I guess its the same theory as why some girls prefer ABCs or Ang moh.
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My point of view is much simpler, u are looking for a gf then just go ahead, whoever she is doesnt matter, coz it might occur to u after a mth or 2 that u both aren't meant together..
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Another cheongster fall into a KC trap..haiz..As a cheongster, this is just one of a path that u will face one day, just walk through and dun think so much.
Whenever a prositute cry infront of me, i will remain neutral.Because i once fall into KC trap before,so be careful.
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gentleman because you paid her for s ex but end up chatting?
which 'gentleman' will solicit the services of call girls?
just this fact alone shows you are a ���.
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To TS, what is the escort site, what's the charges ha.....
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Originally posted by Giddyboy:
I just went out with her today. I told her i won't give her a single cent anymore and she can choose whether she wants to go out with me as casual friends. She seems ok with it. So far she hasn't asked money from me.
You have to be extremely careful about hitching up with a prostiute.
There is always the hope that things will change for the better. It may, it may not.
You cannot be moralizing to her, after all you went to prostitues.
She may be genuine, she may be seducing you.
Trust your mum..
Well, i think i will just take one step at a time and get to know her more first before i conclude anything. What if she is really genuine?
Even she is not i believe time will reveal everything as long i don't empty my pocket for her.
Prostitute? If you have feeling with her, how can you say that? Love is blind man. But as you say, better know her more lol before going to next step. BTW, escort website address pls.
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lol wow bian u hor.....go 1 big round....
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knn la
come out play play finish already la
still bring home and fall in love
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Originally posted by dragg:
gentleman because you paid her for s ex but end up chatting?
which 'gentleman' will solicit the services of call girls?
just this fact alone shows you are a ���.
hannor, me tink so too.last time got 2 guys liked me de.
but... they are so filthy.
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Originally posted by gunner77:
knn la
come out play play finish already la
still bring home and fall in love
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Call girl needs a love n family also wat, don't look down at them leh, they are human also lol.
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Bro... if you seriously need some advice.
Kindly post in Sammyboy forum 'matters of the heart'.
The forumers here cant help you much.
