define clingy?
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Originally posted by plus22:
Is it considered petty and unreasonable if the gf is upset that the bf went to ask for the contact of another girl that he met when he was out clubbing?
If the gf did not tell the bf how she felt,but pretended nothing happened,is it good for the relationship?
Opps, my net connection went down yesterday so i could put in the 2nd half of my comments.. =(
1.) Depends. Are you in an exclusive relationship? If no, then its to be expected from the guy. Though any girl wouldn't be happy to see someone they like go hit on another girl and vise versa, so i'd say the guy lacks sensitivity. If yes, then try to find out why. Communication is important but try not to do it in a accusing tone. Anyway, either way, i'd say the guy's insensitive.
2.) Ah.. the typical recipie for a big fight. As i said on top, communication is important for a healthy relationship. Communicate that you do not like it in a 'do not care' tone and it'll only show more of the guy's intention as this may have been his way of seeing you be jealous. He'd either -
A. Continue to do the same thing if he's really dumb / Not that into you / Just plain insensitive. In this case, i'd recommend to seek greener pastures.
B. He'd realize it doesn't work and give up on this.
Guys have an different view to clubbing as opposed to girls. Most guys go clubbing just to pick up / hook up. Most girls are just there to have a great time. So, it very much boils down on HOW are you feeling right now.
On a side note, how old are you and your boyfriend?
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Originally posted by plus22:
Is it considered petty and unreasonable if the gf is upset that the bf went to ask for the contact of another girl that he met when he was out clubbing?
If the gf did not tell the bf how she felt,but pretended nothing happened,is it good for the relationship?
If you're not happy you should confront him.
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did i read wrongly lol, he told u that he asked another girl for her number? U didnt state that he told u, i thought that u found out.. -_-
why would he do that?
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well.. i feel that yes, he is insensitive.
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Originally posted by plus22:
don't remind me.i was so scared about the relationship but he told me he was serious when we got together.and i felt damn crap when he told me that he asked for another girl's number.now i KNOW what's my problem already.i can't not do anything and expect him to be a better man and guess how i feel.next meeting,i'll try to bring up that topic and yes i won't throw a tantrum.
Ah.. that changes the whole dynamics. He's just trying to make you jealous. Just tell him you don't like it.
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oops my bad.yah he told me that he talked to her and asked for her number and he had no idea how that happened.
tell him that i don't like him making me jealous?and guys go clubbing to hook up?! gawdd.that's sad to know :(
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Originally posted by plus22:
oops my bad.yah he told me that he talked to her and asked for her number and he had no idea how that happened.
tell him that i don't like him making me jealous?and guys go clubbing to hook up?! gawdd.that's sad to know :(
Waah...assuming he wants to cheat he should have thought of a better excuse..'no idea' indeed
really, the best way would be for the two of you to talk..
I'm sure you would be able to spot whether he's telling the truth or not..
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Originally posted by plus22:
oops my bad.yah he told me that he talked to her and asked for her number and he had no idea how that happened.
tell him that i don't like him making me jealous?and guys go clubbing to hook up?! gawdd.that's sad to know :(
That's MOST guys. Dont generalise.
And what is the thing you don't like? Him hitting on girls? Clubbing? Making you jealous? Only you know it yourself.
Well.. it is said that men are from Mars and women from Venus. That's why each side is looking at each other on opposites sides of the river called relationship. Man need sex to be able trust and be close with the woman, and the woman needs to trust and be close to have sex with the man. Such is the complexity of male-female dynamics..
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MOST.ok got it.
i don't like him hitting on girls and calling me a kid.i wouldn't mind giving him anything!
complexity indeed..
brr.
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Originally posted by plus22:
MOST.ok got it.
i don't like him hitting on girls and calling me a kid.i wouldn't mind giving him anything!
complexity indeed..
brr.
There you have it.. work on that. Good Luck.
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Originally posted by plus22:
oops my bad.yah he told me that he talked to her and asked for her number and he had no idea how that happened.
tell him that i don't like him making me jealous?and guys go clubbing to hook up?! gawdd.that's sad to know :(
Well.. guys who ask other girls for their numbers have only one thing in mind.
And that's to hook up with that gal.
If a guy is not interested in the other gal.. he won't ask her for a number.
I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship.
That crappy feeling you had is very normal, who wants to be second fiddle ?
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break up with him and come find me
why the fuck all the bad guys and good girls?
i don't smoke, drink, club.
i study, go church and do social work
aaaaaaa life is not fair!
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Originally posted by youyayu:
break up with him and come find me
why the fuck all the bad guys and good girls?
i don't smoke, drink, club.
i study, go church and do social work
aaaaaaa life is not fair!
It's not about good guys vs bad guys.
You are too uptight.
Uptight guys are just .. boring.
Live life a little.. and you will become a more interesting person.
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one thing for sure. he doesn't have you in his mind when he asked that girl fer her number. and to be honest. i don't think you should let the matter off like that. if you're unhappy about it, let him noe. if you're worried abt letting him noe, maybe after all this r.s isnt strong enough
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Originally posted by pheeoner:
one thing for sure. he doesn't have you in his mind when he asked that girl fer her number. and to be honest. i don't think you should let the matter off like that. if you're unhappy about it, let him noe. if you're worried abt letting him noe, maybe after all this r.s isnt strong enough
Actually , I think TS should just let the matter go.
Since he is interested in that girl.
TS should ask herself... why is she being a third wheel ?
Let him go so that he may pursue his dream girl.
TS hang on to relationship .. is only get in their way.
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married couple should be consider ONE and there shouldn't be any thing...
There shouldn't be such things called white lies or "it will keep the relationship better if i dun say"...
Both should be totally open and tell each other about everything the other party wanted to know...Well i said married couple, if a couple dun plan to get married, why even bother to go together in the first place?
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Originally posted by plus22:
Is it considered petty and unreasonable if the gf is upset that the bf went to ask for the contact of another girl that he met when he was out clubbing?
If the gf did not tell the bf how she felt,but pretended nothing happened,is it good for the relationship?
Think you should voice out, keeping it inside may not be best for you and it will eat away at you.
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Originally posted by popikachu:
married couple should be consider ONE and there shouldn't be any thing...
There shouldn't be such things called white lies or "it will keep the relationship better if i dun say"...
Both should be totally open and tell each other about everything the other party wanted to know...Well i said married couple, if a couple dun plan to get married, why even bother to go together in the first place?
i beg to differ.being together in a r/s is to get to know each other more before concluding whether he/she is the one.
white lies.. i strongly believe that some things are better kept unsaid, as truth hurts. Always have to consider the other's feelings. Some white lies are meant to be good.
Disclaimer: The above are not in any way related to plus22's case.
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I agree about the white lies thing that bao said too!
Anyway,i told him that i was kind of sad when i read his msg that day.then he said "nothing wrong mah.she was just drinking with us" so i guess he doesn't get it that i wasn't sad about the socialising part,but rather because he actually got her number.didn't clarify though,because then he said he shouldn't have told me anything.he didn't apologise,but never mind already.he asked me to have faith,and that i shall do.
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If u still love him, and u believe he loves u, then give him the benefit of the doubt for once lo.
time will tell whether he's true to u.
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Originally posted by plus22:
I agree about the white lies thing that bao said too!
Anyway,i told him that i was kind of sad when i read his msg that day.then he said "nothing wrong mah.she was just drinking with us" so i guess he doesn't get it that i wasn't sad about the socialising part,but rather because he actually got her number.didn't clarify though,because then he said he shouldn't have told me anything.he didn't apologise,but never mind already.he asked me to have faith,and that i shall do.
My dear girl... a cheater will not tell the world he is one.
A cheater will not admit what he did is wrong.
A cheater will not apologise for his mistake unless he has truly repented.
Why are you letting him puppet you like you have no brain of your own ?
He asked you to have faith/trust ? Based on what, does he deserves faith and trust from you ?
If he wants trust.. he's gotta earn it with his actions , not words.
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Originally posted by plus22:
Is it considered petty and unreasonable if the gf is upset that the bf went to ask for the contact of another girl that he met when he was out clubbing?
If the gf did not tell the bf how she felt,but pretended nothing happened,is it good for the relationship?
the guy is asking for it...
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Life flows, nothing abides. Only fools go on clinging. If change is the nature of life, then clinging is stupidity, because your clinging is not going to change existence (life). Your clinging is only going to make you miserable. Things are bound to change; whether you cling or not does not matter. If you cling you become miserable: you cling and they change, you feel frustrated. If you don't cling they still change, but then there is no frustration because you were perfectly aware that they are bound to change. This is how things are, this is the such ness of life.
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Originally posted by Fugazzi:
Life flows, nothing abides. Only fools go on clinging. If change is the nature of life, then clinging is stupidity, because your clinging is not going to change existence (life). Your clinging is only going to make you miserable. Things are bound to change; whether you cling or not does not matter. If you cling you become miserable: you cling and they change, you feel frustrated. If you don't cling they still change, but then there is no frustration because you were perfectly aware that they are bound to change. This is how things are, this is the such ness of life.
easier said then done. hahaha