Can you forgive him if he hired an escort and had sex too?
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
Are faithful men really extinct?
The strange thing is men always complain when they have a demanding, unreasonable or materialistic girlfriend yet they cannot bring themselves to leave them and are totally hooked.
I'm independent.... work.... have my own ride.... I believe in mutual respect and don't ever take him for granted but it seems the bad girls get the better end of the deal.
I'm not ugly, I'm not overweight, I have guys coming up to me in the street asking to know me and I wouldn't even give my number because I would feel I cheated on him if I did. And he's not a looker. I just can't figure!
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Beyond pain, can't cry because my heart is a dead weight.
Are faithful men really extinct?
of cos there is
guys that act or live like that is becos their mind set is still like kids want to play around de as a guy i know that as lot of friends that i knew mid 30 still fling like nobodys biz hope that answer your question.n age may not tally wif the maturity -
Deadweightheart - ur question begs the answer lar - if a guy or gal, has SELF- respect, love, responsibilty , esteem - the question of faithfulness is redundant!
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Originally posted by youyayu:
Are faithful men really extinct?
The strange thing is men always complain when they have a demanding, unreasonable or materialistic girlfriend yet they cannot bring themselves to leave them and are totally hooked.
WTF u talking?
and there is faithful men around OKAY!
if you not happy with that. go and turn lesbian. no one will stop you
I also want to find one. I don't need 5Cs because I believe I can earn them myself. But my one criteria seems also the hardest to fulfil. I need Faithful.
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Well, I think you are trying to convice yourself to forgive him.
Faithful man has not extinct yet, just that all this while, you have devoted yourself to that guy. He is the only guy in ur eyes, no one else.
If you think he is the only one, may be you should just give him a 2nd chance. Otherwise, just forget about it and open up your heart for someome who worth it. :) -
Originally posted by Lorry`:
I find this statement weird/funny too.
Whats wrong with having boyfriends before him? You are not in any fault.
A silly part of me is thinking that since I've had other men before him it would be fair for him to be curious about sex with girls other than me. It made a lot of sense a while ago.
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
I also want to find one. I don't need 5Cs because I believe I can earn them myself. But my one criteria seems also the hardest to fulfil. I need Faithful.
i prefer my wife to be staying at home to take care of house.
fat salary i take in...
emmm i bet there is one.
just that you can't see it
must have been admiring u
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
Are faithful men really extinct?
The strange thing is men always complain when they have a demanding, unreasonable or materialistic girlfriend yet they cannot bring themselves to leave them and are totally hooked.
I'm independent.... work.... have my own ride.... I believe in mutual respect and don't ever take him for granted but it seems the bad girls get the better end of the deal.
I'm not ugly, I'm not overweight, I have guys coming up to me in the street asking to know me and I wouldn't even give my number because I would feel I cheated on him if I did. And he's not a looker. I just can't figure!
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Beyond pain, can't cry because my heart is a dead weight.
i can't figure you too. you seems confident of yourself (independent, good look, slim) and you said he is not a looker and unfaithful. so what're you waiting for? dump him and move on.
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Originally posted by GreyMeow:
i can't figure you too. you seems confident of yourself (independent, good look, slim) and you said he is not a looker and unfaithful. so what're you waiting for? dump him and move on.
maybe u and her can be together?
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Originally posted by youyayu:
i prefer my wife to be staying at home to take care of house.
fat salary i take in...
emmm i bet there is one.
just that you can't see it
must have been admiring u
yeah... homemakers are great people. Please do appreciate your wife and all the sacrifices she has made.
Going out to work is so much more fun, you get to socialize with other people you earn a salary and you tend to pamper yourself once more.
Homemakers usually have their life centered around their family and always put their family first before themselves. My mom is a homemaker person and I truly appreciate her for it.
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
I also want to find one. I don't need 5Cs because I believe I can earn them myself. But my one criteria seems also the hardest to fulfil. I need Faithful.
i'm sure there are many faithful guys around. i think myself one..but other may not think so 'cos i'm having problems with my marriage life. :(
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Originally posted by youyayu:
maybe u and her can be together?
not possible. i having my own problems too...that's why i came to this forum to post my problems.
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Originally posted by GreyMeow:
i'm sure there are many faithful guys around. i think myself one..but other may not think so 'cos i'm having problems with my marriage life. :(
So will u carry out the 2weeks plan or u think is not visible?
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TS, is time to find a better man. We can go search for that together
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maybe if i can resolve my problems. we can be friends...but i don't know if that's wise or when that will happen
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Originally posted by GreyMeow:
maybe if i can resolve my problems. we can be friends...but i don't know if that's wise or when that will happen
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Originally posted by Bak la va:
So will u carry out the 2weeks plan or u think is not visible?
i'm not sure yet. i have this other problem about causing hurt knowingly. it's so against my upbringing. i know in this case i'll hurt regardless...i just don't know how to overcome my lifetime of upbringing to carry out the plan...
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Originally posted by GreyMeow:
i'm sure there are many faithful guys around. i think myself one..but other may not think so 'cos i'm having problems with my marriage life. :(
yeah I saw your post too. This is what happens when you marry the unreasonable demanding girlfriend? no offense intended, that was just a speculation. I think you should let her have a small taste of life without you then she'll truly appreciate you.A relationship should always have mutual respect from both parties.
Or you could try communicating with her. Communication is very important and you should never try to guess what another person is thinking or jump to conclusions.
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
yeah... homemakers are great people. Please do appreciate your wife and all the sacrifices she has made.
Going out to work is so much more fun, you get to socialize with other people you earn a salary and you tend to pamper yourself once more.
Homemakers usually have their life centered around their family and always put their family first before themselves. My mom is a homemaker person and I truly appreciate her for it.
What a loving and filial daughter. Ur mom must be very touched and proud of u if she sees this. :)
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Originally posted by Bak la va:
then u take care..... ciaooops..sorry, my comment about being friends was referring to deadweightheart...
thanks for your suggestion, bak la va
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
yeah I saw your post too. This is what happens when you marry the unreasonable demanding girlfriend? no offense intended, that was just a speculation. I think you should let her have a small taste of life without you then she'll truly appreciate you.A relationship should always have mutual respect from both parties.
Or you could try communicating with her. Communication is very important and you should never try to guess what another person is thinking or jump to conclusions.
hey, you got your answer too - .A relationship should always have mutual respect from both parties.. your bf don't respect you at all. i think you should dump him though...and find someone better
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Originally posted by GreyMeow:
hey, you got your answer too - .A relationship should always have mutual respect from both parties.. your bf don't respect you at all. i think you should dump him though...and find someone better
find Ferret, he's cute, furry and vicious -
i did try communciation before but it didn't work out. she heard but didn't listen. she'll think she is right and there is no discussion after that. if she think she is wrong somehow, she'll simply get angry to cover it up and tell me to shutup...
anyway, sorry to 'hijack' your post.
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I feel for you. Its not nice for a gal to be talking abt marriage or the future as if the gal is so desperate. The guy should be the one with the intiative. I think he is giving a lot of reasons and the more reasons he give, the scenario just feels worse. Please don keep thinking that bcos u did certain things in the past, it gives him the authority to do things now. It DOES NOT work this way. Its different as you were not with him then!!! As many had said, if he can do it now, while u are still together, he can and will definitely make the same mistake in the future. At the end of the day, being together for one year plus is nothing. Since you have broken up, you should move on. You are still young and there are many trees available. Jia you ba!
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Dump him. He is a jerk. What does he mean by saying he wanted to experience other female encounters? If he truly loves you, he would not even want to experience other females. If he thinks about other females (friends or strangers), that is fine, cause sometimes a guy would think about such things and fantasize. But what the hell is he trying to do, when he said he wanted to experience other female encounters? This is totally absurd.
I had a gf and I love my gf only. What ever female encounters I had, I did it with my gf. Though I do think about some other girls sometimes, I stay true to my gf. Even during photo takings with my very good female friends, I do not even put my hand across their shoulders because I want to stay true to my gf.
There are somethings a bf should do only to her gf and not to other female friends. Your bf is a total jerk because he slept around with other girls while still being with you. He had betrayed the trust in the relationship and has let this relationship down. Therefore, you should not harbor any hopes of getting back together with him. Once the trust is broken, it can never be repaired.
Stop finding excuses for yourself so that you can go back to him. This is plain stupidity. So what if you have had other guys before. That was all ya past relationships. The difference is this jerk slept with other guys while in relationship with ya. Whereas you slept with those other guys you had when you are not with this jerk.
So forget about him and give yourself a new lease of life. No point crying over spilled milk. Just be firm and break off the relationship. The pain will go off after a while. Fuck this man.
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
Are faithful men really extinct?
The strange thing is men always complain when they have a demanding, unreasonable or materialistic girlfriend yet they cannot bring themselves to leave them and are totally hooked.
I'm independent.... work.... have my own ride.... I believe in mutual respect and don't ever take him for granted but it seems the bad girls get the better end of the deal.
I'm not ugly, I'm not overweight, I have guys coming up to me in the street asking to know me and I wouldn't even give my number because I would feel I cheated on him if I did. And he's not a looker. I just can't figure!
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Beyond pain, can't cry because my heart is a dead weight.
Purely from what u describe, your the kinda girl that most men would want. Maybe it's just not your time to get hitched, or you are just a magnet for the wrong type of guys.
I say drop this one, enjoy life, enjoy a hobby, mix around with ppl with the same hobby, make friends. Then if the right one comes, your there. ;)