Can you forgive him if he hired an escort and had sex too?

• Fantagf

  13 May 09, 23:45

  now he goes for escorts, may be next he will go for pros, ha ha ha ha

• pheeoner

  13 May 09, 23:46

  ditch him. he will definitely do it again.

• nOrmalbOi

  13 May 09, 23:46

  Originally posted by Bak la va:

  TS, is time to find a better man. We can go search for that together

  Bak, if im not mistaken i read some weeks back you were on the verge of getting hitched? i know to take everything online with a pinch of salt, so either im missing something or i didnt grab enuff salt lol

• Q.C.Pak

  13 May 09, 23:58

  To love a person is to accepting his everthing, good points as well as bad.

  If one were to measure who had loved/sacrifice more. This not love, this is self-love.

• Q.C.Pak

  14 May 09, 00:02

  Originally posted by Noahtay:

  
  

  n age may not tally wif the maturity

  
  

  
  

  
  Please pay copyright fee.

• tinuviel07

  14 May 09, 00:04

  some people can justify all they want in their heads. if you can accept their justification, stay with them. if not, move mon...

• Deadweightheart

  14 May 09, 00:52

  Thank you everyone for your valuable advice and for clearing my head when I wasn't sure. I think the answer is clear to me now.

   

  I don't think any woman can accept a man who patronizes escorts or prostitutes. Thanks for preventing me from making a mistake.

• Q.C.Pak

  14 May 09, 00:56

  Originally posted by Deadweightheart:

  Thank you everyone for your valuable advice and for clearing my head when I wasn't sure. I think the answer is clear to me now.

   

  I don't think any woman can accept a man who patronizes escorts or prostitutes. Thanks for preventing me from making a mistake.

  
  Reserve your last sentence. Thank you.

• marcos_84

  14 May 09, 01:03

  But love is blind. Talk to your frens whenever you have doubts.
• MissZ

  14 May 09, 01:08

  Originally posted by Deadweightheart:

  Thank you everyone for your valuable advice and for clearing my head when I wasn't sure. I think the answer is clear to me now.

   

  I don't think any woman can accept a man who patronizes escorts or prostitutes. Thanks for preventing me from making a mistake.

  
  Right on, Deadweight! You deserve someone waaay better & interested in making this work!

• Master -_-

  14 May 09, 01:16

  eh ask ur bf whats the name of the escort company? please provide FR if possible ah...

  CIF la

  GFF la

  CIM la 

  everything ok? and if possible, provide the "company" as well..

  thanks thanks 

• Q.C.Pak

  14 May 09, 01:17

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  eh ask ur bf whats the name of the escort company? please provide FR if possible ah...

  CIF la

  GFF la

  CIM la 

  everything ok? and if possible, provide the "company" as well..

  thanks thanks 

  
  Not to forget RTF,BFF...

• caleb_chiang

  14 May 09, 01:18

  The thing is... if he is able to pay for sex while you and him are together, what is stopping him to have a affair while you guys are married?

• iamsorry

  14 May 09, 02:20

  I am the guy in question.

  I do not defend my actions because I believe that they are wrong.

  But I am begging you, please please please give me 1 chance. I have not been the best boyfriend, but I really do love you.

  Marriage has been a touchy subject that I've never broached mainly because I feel that you have this perception that I'm not ready for it, so if and when I bring it up, I fear you might think I'm just trying to fu yan you.

  I am younger than you, but that doesn't make me any less interested in getting married.

   

  This will be the first and last time I ever make this mistake. While people might claim that when there's a first, there's a second, I know that this will never occur again, because I've realised how much you mean to me. This relationship means more to me than anything I can ever find.

  I don't ask that you forgive me right off. I will prove to you that I can change.

  I will change. I will be better. I really really do love you. Please give me a chance.

• Deadweightheart

  14 May 09, 02:21

  Originally posted by Q.C.Pak:

  To love a person is to accepting his everthing, good points as well as bad.

  If one were to measure who had loved/sacrifice more. This not love, this is self-love.

   

  I didn't fuss about who had sacrificed more or who loved who more last time. But now that this has happened I think it's time for me to show some self-love.

   

  But it's also not correct to suffer everything in silence. Would you tell a woman who was beat up by her husband to not be calculative because she has to accept that his only bad point is violence? Emotional hurt is not any less than physical hurt!

• jojobeach

  14 May 09, 02:29

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  I am the guy in question.

  I do not defend my actions because I believe that they are wrong.

  But I am begging you, please please please give me 1 chance. I have not been the best boyfriend, but I really do love you.

  Marriage has been a touchy subject that I've never broached mainly because I feel that you have this perception that I'm not ready for it, so if and when I bring it up, I fear you might think I'm just trying to fu yan you.

  I am younger than you, but that doesn't make me any less interested in getting married.

  This will be the first and last time I ever make this mistake. While people might claim that when there's a first, there's a second, I know that this will never occur again, because I've realised how much you mean to me. This relationship means more to me than anything I can ever find.

  I don't ask that you forgive me right off. I will prove to you that I can change.

  I will change. I will be better. I really really do love you. Please give me a chance.

  Well dude.. you had your chances.. and you blew it.

  Go find some one else.. to start all over again.. and don't screw up next time !

• iamsorry

  14 May 09, 02:36

  why are the people in this forum so heartless?

  is it so difficult to give just 1 chance? I'm not asking for repeated forgiveness. just 1 chance to let me prove that I will not make this same mistake again.

  is it because you guys are not involved that you can make these painless decisions for people and think that no one will be hurt?

• jojobeach

  14 May 09, 02:50

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  why are the people in this forum so heartless?

  is it so difficult to give just 1 chance? I'm not asking for repeated forgiveness. just 1 chance to let me prove that I will not make this same mistake again.

  is it because you guys are not involved that you can make these painless decisions for people and think that no one will be hurt?

  No, you have plenty of chances..

  For every girl you decide to have a relationship with.. you are given ONE chance. So if you have 10 relationship.. you have 10 chances.

  So what else are you complaining about ?

  You had your chance.. with your girl.. and you blew it.. now if you want another chance.. you need to find another girl.

  If your girl go sleep with another man when she is with you..are you going to say "oh I give you another chance." ?

  If you think everyone else must show respect for you.. when you dont' show respect for others.. you are essentially screwing yourself over.

   

   

   

• Fantagf

  14 May 09, 02:51

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  why are the people in this forum so heartless?

  is it so difficult to give just 1 chance? I'm not asking for repeated forgiveness. just 1 chance to let me prove that I will not make this same mistake again.

  is it because you guys are not involved that you can make these painless decisions for people and think that no one will be hurt?

  are u able to guarantee that you will not stop going for escorts?

• Master -_-

  14 May 09, 02:57

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  I am the guy in question.

  I do not defend my actions because I believe that they are wrong.

  But I am begging you, please please please give me 1 chance. I have not been the best boyfriend, but I really do love you.

  Marriage has been a touchy subject that I've never broached mainly because I feel that you have this perception that I'm not ready for it, so if and when I bring it up, I fear you might think I'm just trying to fu yan you.

  I am younger than you, but that doesn't make me any less interested in getting married.

   

  This will be the first and last time I ever make this mistake. While people might claim that when there's a first, there's a second, I know that this will never occur again, because I've realised how much you mean to me. This relationship means more to me than anything I can ever find.

  I don't ask that you forgive me right off. I will prove to you that I can change.

  I will change. I will be better. I really really do love you. Please give me a chance.

  how the escorts? do a simple FR la..expensive? got reco?

• Fantagf

  14 May 09, 02:59

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  how the escorts? do a simple FR la..expensive? got reco?

  
  ha ha ha, master.     u  .  .   .   u    .   .   .  ha ha ha

• iamsorry

  14 May 09, 03:07

  this is my first relationship so essentially its my first mistake. But thats not my justification.

  I can't honestly say because its never happened to me. but I will definitely consider it based on the relationship.

  fantagf: yes i can.

  I am willing to let her govern all my finances in future and even not use my own personal computer. I will prove that I will be better.

   

• oldbreadstinks

  14 May 09, 03:07

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  why are the people in this forum so heartless?

  is it so difficult to give just 1 chance? I'm not asking for repeated forgiveness. just 1 chance to let me prove that I will not make this same mistake again.

  is it because you guys are not involved that you can make these painless decisions for people and think that no one will be hurt?

  -_- you know, there's a reason why we call these sort of stuff personal relationships. she may need to let steam off here but you? shouldn't you be discussing your problems with her offline? whats the point of forgiveness from faceless people you don't even know? you think the same people asking for people to die faster in another thread are going to coming in here and sayang you?

  anyway this kind of thing is proven by action not mouth say only. your presence here would only incite people making things worse. want forgiveness pls do it offline.

   

• oldbreadstinks

  14 May 09, 03:14

  Originally posted by Deadweightheart:

   

  I don't think any woman can accept a man who patronizes escorts or prostitutes. Thanks for preventing me from making a mistake.

  i think you don't know other women very well. there are those who are willing to tolerate all sorts of shit to keep the guy by their side.

  plus one of my friend's friend(married with a kid) left a wtf expression on my face when she mentioned she thinks its ok for guys to fool around outside as long as its not serious end of the day come home can already.

• oldbreadstinks

  14 May 09, 03:19

  Originally posted by iamsorry:

  this is my first relationship so essentially its my first mistake. But thats not my justification.

  I can't honestly say because its never happened to me. but I will definitely consider it based on the relationship.

  fantagf: yes i can.

  I am willing to let her govern all my finances in future and even not use my own personal computer. I will prove that I will be better.

   

  when you say yes you can you mean you won't hire escort again? or you'll be faithful?

  if someone attractive you're working with slowly slowly get closer to you then suddenly tell you she like you how?

  anyway draconic measures to control you won't work one, can't last for long. if you're going to let her govern all your finances in future and even not use your own personal computer. 5 bucks , i say you'll stray again.