Can you forgive him if he hired an escort and had sex too?
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Zzzz
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u pay an escort for her and then after tat forgive her can? if cannot, then u know why she can't....
seriously it's no excuse.... it's one thing to wonder wat other woman is like, it's totally another to actually tried them out... to be crudely direct, a cb is a cb wat's thr to compare? if it's sexual experiences u r after, u can achieve those with HER...
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TS dun be naive and forgive him . Just move on. U deserve better.
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Talk is cheap..... really cheap.
The problem is that for guys who stray... tendancy of them straying again is very high, especially when they earn forgiveness...then after that they will take their gf for granted and it becomes a vicious cycle coz forgiveness is earned by begging, crying and grovelling
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Elindra!
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Originally posted by iamsorry:
if there was some way i could prove how much i love you i would do it.
if it was admitting my mistake to you in front of my family I will do it.
Please give me one chance. I will do ANYTHING.
give you 1 more chance to have excuse to find escorts again?
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
I bought him a Gucci belt, arranged suprise birthday party, I always tell him I love him (I really do).
I really wanted to make it work, I really went to great lengths too.
Heh, u remind me of one of the korean movie i've just watched recently. The title is "Seducing Mr. Perfect". I think u must watch the movie. The lesson is don't "give" too much to your guy. He will take it for granted cos he knows you're always be around for him.
A cheating partner is a very unforgivable regardless of whatever EXCUSES he has.
DUMP HIM. Since you are so pretty and attractive, you can always find a new guy.
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It is a fact you are unfaithful to your girl. Appologizing is of no applicable anymore, you have displayed the act unable to resist the temptation.
The lady has the right to leave, its no use of appologizing and kept pestering her. Get a life for yourself and for the lady.
You may feel everyone here is heartless, but it applies to the act you have done to deserve these comments.
I am also a virgin 28/m had a gf in shanghai, rarely had a chance to meet up with her, but she stays in my soul and body. I always had to go to countries like indonesia and vietnam. Businessman in these places always visit places where you can have fun with ladies there. I am always able to resist it, when I ask myself. Do I really love my gf?
This question kept me going, being faithful to her. Almost 2 years, I've been finding ways to get her a job in Singapore. Its difficult even more harder due to the recent recession. But I will keep walking on.
Since I can resist it and be faithful to her, why can't you?
Theres no reason to applogize for your mistake. It is something you intend to do hoping to get away with it.
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Originally posted by iamsorry:
why are the people in this forum so heartless?
is it so difficult to give just 1 chance? I'm not asking for repeated forgiveness. just 1 chance to let me prove that I will not make this same mistake again.
is it because you guys are not involved that you can make these painless decisions for people and think that no one will be hurt?
We are not heartless. We are just giving a very objective opinion.
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Originally posted by Kutter:
It is a fact you are unfaithful to your girl. Appologizing is of no applicable anymore, you have displayed the act unable to resist the temptation.
The lady has the right to leave, its no use of appologizing and kept pestering her. Get a life for yourself and for the lady.
You may feel everyone here is heartless, but it applies to the act you have done to deserve these comments.
I am also a virgin 28/m had a gf in shanghai, rarely had a chance to meet up with her, but she stays in my soul and body. I always had to go to countries like indonesia and vietnam. Businessman in these places always visit places where you can have fun with ladies there. I am always able to resist it, when I ask myself. Do I really love my gf?
This question kept me going, being faithful to her. Almost 2 years, I've been finding ways to get her a job in Singapore. Its difficult even more harder due to the recent recession. But I will keep walking on.
Since I can resist it and be faithful to her, why can't you?
Theres no reason to applogize for your mistake. It is something you intend to do hoping to get away with it.
Men like you are rare these days.
Your gf is a very lucky girl :)
Kudos to you.
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Thanks elindra, though so, the two of us has been suffering the pain of missing each other endlessly. Once a year I will go over to shanghai to see her, can't afford the $$$ to see her everytime.
Shes a nice girl, I can't allow myself to go astray.
Hopefully I can get her a job at the end of the year.
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Originally posted by iamsorry:
if there was some way i could prove how much i love you i would do it.
if it was admitting my mistake to you in front of my family I will do it.
Please give me one chance. I will do ANYTHING.
Try to admit your mistake in front of HER family :) and see how it goes^^
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Ms.shells: you think i didn't think of it? i will if she tells me to. in front of my family too.
if i get this chance i will not make the same mistake again. talk is cheap yes. but i can't use actions to prove anything if i don't get the chance.
why are people so quick to give the death penalty to everyone that makes a mistake?
do you think that once a criminal always a criminal? have none of you made mistakes??
I really really regret my actions. This will never happen again. i'm just asking for one chance to prove myself.
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Originally posted by Ms.shells:
Try to admit your mistake in front of HER family :) and see how it goes^^
Admit and dun expect any forgiveness. Go ahead.
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How many times did you regret in doing things throughout your life?
This situation is created by your own actions, being treated by a criminal or not isn't what you put the blame on people for.
Why not blame yourself for your actions?
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Originally posted by iamsorry:
Ms.shells: you think i didn't think of it? i will if she tells me to. in front of my family too.
if i get this chance i will not make the same mistake again. talk is cheap yes. but i can't use actions to prove anything if i don't get the chance.
why are people so quick to give the death penalty to everyone that makes a mistake?
do you think that once a criminal always a criminal? have none of you made mistakes??
I really really regret my actions. This will never happen again. i'm just asking for one chance to prove myself.
U gave yourself the death penalty, dun sound as if u are the one suffering pls. U are not even close to the word "suffering".Everyone make mistakes .. And they learn .. From your case, learn from this and treat your future gf better but i seriously doubt so .. Cos u simply can't take control down south. At the point of undressing and going into action .. U got a few mintues to back off but did u? No, u didn't.
U dun deserve any chances at all cos its just gonna bring more damage to her.
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Originally posted by Midlusionz:
U gave yourself the death penalty, dun sound as if u are the one suffering pls. U are not even close to the word "suffering".Everyone make mistakes .. And they learn .. From your case, learn from this and treat your future gf better but i seriously doubt so .. Cos u simply can't take control down south. At the point of undressing and going into action .. U got a few mintues to back off but did u? No, u didn't.
U dun deserve any chances at all cos its just gonna bring more damage to her.
pls it's more than a few mins...he will have to fondle with the thot long enuff to actually take the action / time / effort to go find and book an escort... so wat it's a one-time 1st mistake? it's a delibrate and planned 'mistake'....
so are we 'quick' to judge? compared to the amt of time he put in, oh yes we're too quick...
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Lol .. Got bashed further
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Originally posted by Deadweightheart:
Because I've had other men before him so I cannot bring myself to fault him for what he did.
Any opinions or words of advice will be deeply appreciated.
The issue I see here is you - you say one thing but practise the opposite !!!
First you are already wrong with trying to justify your sex with other men as right and his is wrong .
Next you you say you cannot fault him as you have sex with other men, then what you doing now ? faulting him !!! - you say only but apply double standard.I think the moment you sleep around and feel that it is ok for you .... you already lost the rights to fault your bf for doing what you had been doing.
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tare made a good point..... it was planned...all the while.........
no point defending that creep...
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Originally posted by storywolf:
The issue I see here is you - you say one thing but practise the opposite !!!
First you are already wrong with trying to justify your sex with other men as right and his is wrong .
Next you you say you cannot fault him as you have sex with other men, then what you doing now ? faulting him !!! - you say only but apply double standard.I think the moment you sleep around and feel that it is ok for you .... you already lost the rights to fault your bf for doing what you had been doing.
U see the diff anot ler .. BEFORE him .. while the guy is TOGETHER with her.I cbf how many guys my gf may sleep with before getting together with me and no other guys except me when she is in a r/s with me.
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oh mine, i am softhearted, perhaps the iamsorry deserve another chance.
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Originally posted by storywolf:
The issue I see here is you - you say one thing but practise the opposite !!!
First you are already wrong with trying to justify your sex with other men as right and his is wrong .
Next you you say you cannot fault him as you have sex with other men, then what you doing now ? faulting him !!! - you say only but apply double standard.I think the moment you sleep around and feel that it is ok for you .... you already lost the rights to fault your bf for doing what you had been doing.
Having relations with other men was when the lady was not being in a relationship with the guy. while the guy was having this sort of relation with a planned schedule to get experience with the escort when in a relationship with the lady.
Did you get it wrong?
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got one time surely will still hav second and mre.. 江山易改本性难移
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Originally posted by iamsorry:
Ms.shells: you think i didn't think of it? i will if she tells me to. in front of my family too.
if i get this chance i will not make the same mistake again. talk is cheap yes. but i can't use actions to prove anything if i don't get the chance.
why are people so quick to give the death penalty to everyone that makes a mistake?
do you think that once a criminal always a criminal? have none of you made mistakes??
I really really regret my actions. This will never happen again. i'm just asking for one chance to prove myself.
the chance is already given to you. she made her choice already and you should respect that if you love her. also, you now have the chance to find another woman to prove if you can be faithful. good luck