i'm gettin married but...
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Your not ready for marriage, right?
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Ask yourself.
We got a thousand reasons for you to say "no", but you only need one to say "yes". Make choices you can live with
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Originally posted by Bubblyl3:
lemon tea.. i think she got a crush la.. not love la.you are probably right..
let's see whether TS prefers long-term love or short-term lust...
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ts, is this your force marriage or smth??
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Originally posted by parn:
Don't watch too many family guy, the bird is not the word.
haven't you heard??
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Originally posted by Detached:
Ask yourself.
We got a thousand reasons for you to say "no", but you only need one to say "yes". Make choices you can live with
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Originally posted by parn:
Don't watch too many family guy, the bird is not the word.b b b b ..bird is the word.
The bird is the mother *teetoot* word.
*shuffles back n forth*
uh huh... *slow mo....* Disco lights !
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Originally posted by MeowMe:
haha, agree....
Hehe
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hey guys & gals,
thx 4 all e responses.
2 elaborate further, i knew e so-called 'new guy' b4 i knew my bf aka hubby-2-b. When previously when we were in contact, i admitted 2 him dat i quite like him. He din respond 2 dat & we din contact each other 4 a while. He sorta juz 'went away'. My current came along when i was single, so we got together. When we were juz tog 4 abt 1 mth, e guy called mi & asked mi 2 b his valentine on V-day; i had 2 reject cos i was attached alrdy.
Life moves on 4 both of us. Yet, we managed to find each other via online. Started chattin as if nth had happened b4...
i m lost rite nw cos i din tink dat e recent mtg was a fatal mistake on my part. i do luv my bf a lot & i do wanna go ahead wif my weddin. i juz wanna learn how do i move on n get 'him' out of my sys?
Wld appreciate all who advise.
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Originally posted by Luvslegna:
hey guys & gals,
thx 4 all e responses.
2 elaborate further, i knew e so-called 'new guy' b4 i knew my bf aka hubby-2-b. When previously when we were in contact, i admitted 2 him dat i quite like him. He din respond 2 dat & we din contact each other 4 a while. He sorta juz 'went away'. My current came along when i was single, so we got together. When we were juz tog 4 abt 1 mth, e guy called mi & asked mi 2 b his valentine on V-day; i had 2 reject cos i was attached alrdy.
Life moves on 4 both of us. Yet, we managed to find each other via online. Started chattin as if nth had happened b4...
i m lost rite nw cos i din tink dat e recent mtg was a fatal mistake on my part. i do luv my bf a lot & i do wanna go ahead wif my weddin. i juz wanna learn how do i move on n get 'him' out of my sys?
Wld appreciate all who advise.
This answer is very obvious. Who you love more?
If your bf, then go ahead and marry. If not, call off the wedding and go to the other guy. U must go deep into your heart and find the answer. Confirm there is only one guy between these 2 that makes your heart pounding more.
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just curious
Luvslegna if one day your hubby-2-b said to you.
" Sorry lets break up cos I wish to go back to my ex"
how would you feel?
let go?
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When one goes into a marriage - and hope to find love, happiness or security or even escape situations ... without fulfilling it (all WITHIN) oneself - one is being selfish - why? cos one is certainly going to be a burden on another.
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Uncertain: I will tink abt dat. It's my hubby-2-b still...
drx: i wld let him go, cos kipin him by my side wun make him hapi; it wil bring more pain 2 both of us. (*i understd faintly wad u r tryin 2 make mi c... thx...)
Fugazzi: i muz admit, i m lookin 4 security...everythin else i haf. Bt isnt it a person's nature 2 b selfish?? Can 1 b so unselfish dat dey wld gif everythin 2 juz 1 person n hold nth 4 demselves??
Thank u all, i wld ponder on e above & reflect on my thots & feelins...
It has been gr8 chattin wif all...
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fall in love with the new guy no problem mah
just remember to have safe sex.
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I think you should call off your marriage since your heart is not 100% for your fiance
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Originally posted by Luvslegna:
i seem to have fallen for this guy...
what should i do?
I feel sorry for your fiancee ...
he deserves a better, more faithful wifey .....
haven't even sign on the dotted line and already your heart's straying ....
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To go into or stay in a relationship cos of security, to go into or stay in a marriage cos of security - aiyah, the ultimate insult lar, insult to oneself, insult to another- in other words, the other is a means to an end, its using another , its exploitation lar - so much for legalized love.
What happens to the relationship or marriage when the security is gone or someone or something can provide 'better' security? Need i say more?
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Originally posted by Luvslegna:
i seem to have fallen for this guy...
what should i do?
You can always volunteer to foam-wash his car in your bikini...remember the key item is BIKINI.Just pretend you just returned from a beach can already.
If nothing happens, that means you're third-world ugly.
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Rethink your reason for marrying your partner. For Love? Stability? Company?
By revisiting all the moments, feelings and thoughts you had with/towards your marriage partner, you may be able to reaffirm your choice in this marriage and find it easier to distinguish your feelings. Good luck.
*Happy and stable relationships are hard to come by and harder to maintain. Make your choice well.
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That which goes thru your mind right now with the issue of your renewed interest in your old flame is normal, and is something that happens to many.
Being young, we love to experiment and to know experiences, many of which may be unpleasant and filled with regrets, but many too, would bring a joy and a smile to the face.
I guess that old flame that re-entered your life lighted the embers that never die out, it never does, deep down in your heart, re-ignited it and set the flames soaring right up to your mind, clouding your rational judgement in the revival of the pleasant times with him.
You cannot forget such memories. No one does. It brings hope that the future will hold forth such lingering memories into a reality you will live once again. We are only human, and such hopes lie within all, from the meanest to the kindest soul.
You are now at a cross-roads, which you must choose, probably between 2 good men in your life, one that is good enough to want to marry, and the other, good enough to be given a chance filled with renew hopes.
It will be a difficult choice that only you can make. Make a right choice, you will enjoy wedded bliss, with its high and lows. Make a wrong one, and you may end up losing both men.
You had mentioned you wanted to forget your old flame. That itself is already a choice. But a choice that does not render the disappearance of him in a cloud of smoke. He will forever linger in your mind, and haunt you with the 'if's and the 'what might been' in times when you feel down in your marriage as it will happen in life's roller coaster ride.
Sit down, chill out, have a nice cup of coffee or light drink, listen to some soft music, open that door in your mind to refresh those memories, but in the end, when you feel tired and sleepy, close that door, forever, and never to open it again, no matter what happens, for it will only hinder your marriage life in its trials and tribulations.
Be strong, and be decisive you must. If you ever meet your old flame again in real life, smile but treat him as a friend and never to give him or yourself a chance to rekindle the flame. Honour your vows to the sacred oath of marriage, or it will be a life time of hurts and regret to all 3 of you......
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maybe the 'new guy' juz wan to flirt with you..since initially he nv even wan to be ur bf when u tell him u like him.
this new guy must be some kuku that happen to know that u r gonna marry soon and start to come out with some childish ideas to distract u from your current relationship. i do know love can be sometimes very blinding and if u dun pull urself out of the picture now, u will nv be sane.
believe me, the so-called new guy wont last long with you. in return u oli brandish urself as a whore,idiot, when your frenzs and relatives gossip about u at ur back..
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Originally posted by Luvslegna:
hey guys & gals,
thx 4 all e responses.
2 elaborate further, i knew e so-called 'new guy' b4 i knew my bf aka hubby-2-b. When previously when we were in contact, i admitted 2 him dat i quite like him. He din respond 2 dat & we din contact each other 4 a while. He sorta juz 'went away'. My current came along when i was single, so we got together. When we were juz tog 4 abt 1 mth, e guy called mi & asked mi 2 b his valentine on V-day; i had 2 reject cos i was attached alrdy.
Life moves on 4 both of us. Yet, we managed to find each other via online. Started chattin as if nth had happened b4...
i m lost rite nw cos i din tink dat e recent mtg was a fatal mistake on my part. i do luv my bf a lot & i do wanna go ahead wif my weddin. i juz wanna learn how do i move on n get 'him' out of my sys?
Wld appreciate all who advise.
if u want him to get out of ur 'system'... think abt ur current bf more... remember why u agree to be his gf in the first place..
it really doesn't matter if u knew that guy before ur bf... it doesnt mean anything. And if that guy pester u, dont entertain him.
in fact, if ur really serious abt getting married, i suggest cutting all contacts with the guy (email, hp, msn, etc).
it takes perseverance and focus, over time you will get 'him' out of the system...
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Originally posted by Ms.shells:
I think you should call off your marriage since your heart is not 100% for your fiance
call off?
haha.... alot of ppl married another one when their heart is only 20% sure....
some even married with the intention to sleep ard after marriage...
if ur heart are weak to began, it will always wavie when another potential MR Rite comes by....
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Originally posted by EarlNeo:
call off?
haha.... alot of ppl married another one when their heart is only 20% sure....
some even married with the intention to sleep ard after marriage...
if ur heart are weak to began, it will always wavie when another potential MR Rite comes by....
Yes, i agree with you. Better make sure that our partner is the right one for us before we make decision to get married. I think she just don't think her fiance is the right one for her...
For me, marriage should be based on a strong foundation. It's not fair for our partner if we sleep around, or date another person.. (yeah, provided if our partner is as loyal as us!) :D
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call off wedding
dun do anything
that u will regret in the future