Dad & Mistress
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Originally posted by Agenda:
I know if I threaten my dad that I trade my life for the mistress's, he would get scared. But I'm just afraid it might backfire, but I really don't mind trading.
Don't bother trying, he could just always get another china woman.
You will have fail in the end.
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Originally posted by Agenda:
But I think about it, they divorce. My dad gets together with the bitch. Eventually she sure kop his CPF money then my dads gonna grow old alone.
Don't think so much about the money.
If your father is to behave like this, than be the financial support for your mother. There is no need for your mother to rely on money of that unfaithful man.
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Originally posted by jojobeach:
Your grandmum is your father's MOTHER. What do you expect your grandmum to do ? Gang up against your dad ?
It is strange why your mother choose to tell your grandmum about the mistress , even tho your mom knew she don't have the greatest relationship with your grandmum.
It is not your choice to make your parents divorce. The marriage is between your father and your mom. You can only talk to your mother.. she may not want a divorce if she sees no need for such drastic action.
Your support for your mother is most imperative right now. She may feel abandoned by her husband whom she had stayed faithful all these years. But she must know.. that her own flesh and blood will stand by her through tough times.
For a woman that age.. your mother's only hopes and future lies in her own children.
When everything falls apart.. mothers are the ones who picks up the pieces and carry on for the sake of their children.
As for your father.. know that his actions are foolish. And he had just chosen to die a lonely death.
Though TS's mother got consoled by her children, relatives and friends, she still need someone more elderly and experienced than her to talk to.
Unfortunately, both her parents are dead, and the only elderly person whom she is close to is her mother-in-law.
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Originally posted by Dead_Man_Inc:
you stalk the mistress
we go to where she work, and embarrass the hell out of her
And get himself into trouble with the law?
What the mistress is doing now ( sadly ) isn't illegal, mind you.
But she could sue TS for harrassment.
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forbiddensinner, u are so hardworking
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Originally posted by xxxxxlamer:
actually, nth ts can do ... if ts do anything... situation might be worse.
actually i can understand ts's problem.. my dad had a mistress for 5 yrs le ( also china )... the thing is ... ts shouldnt interfere cos its btn the adults... let them handle... if ts tries to find the china girl or etc... it might just add fuel to fire.. just let the adults settle the problems.
Ths TS is also an adult now. He has a right and say in this kind of situation.
5 years ago you were only 16, there wasn't much you could do either way.
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Originally posted by genie-chou <3:
forbiddensinner, u are so hardworking
The problem is that a lot of the forummers here are posting while in an "emotional" state ( TS inclusive ), and a lot of their posts are not as helpful as they wish for it to be, and may bring about more problems instead.
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Originally posted by flapdoodle:
if that china girl runs away with TS Dad's money, then its problem for TS and his familty too, now the father will have to rely on TS for survival...
If TS's father foolishly allows himself to be scammed, then it is his own fault, and he has no right to ask TS to support him after he has thrown away the family.
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Originally posted by mancha:
Respect, what respect?
His feet ain't touching the ground man.
And his blood is flowing into the brain down there instead of the one up there.
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Originally posted by lookslikegod:
have sex with her, videotape it down.
Report to MOM with that tape claiming shes into prostitution. get her deported.
Please do not give crap like this, Mr Troll.
It will only make matters worse.
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Originally posted by Suffocate:
Maybe rape and kill her than eat her up
As I said, it will be pointless.
TS will be charged by the law, and his father will just have to look for another china woman.
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Originally posted by Dead_Man_Inc:
wtf?
What he means is that TS's father is not in the right mindset to actually think about all these things.
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Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:
Ths TS is also an adult now. He has a right and say in this kind of situation.
5 years ago you were only 16, there wasn't much you could do either way.
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Originally posted by Squirrel<3Nuts:
Pyscho out the bitch & your dad. Scare them, make them feel uneasy, uncomfortable. Try different ways.
But even if he breaks off with her, he can easily go find another since they are flooding the island like nobody's business.
If your mom choose to divorce, she probably can get a sum of money frm your dad. Gather evidence 1st. & since AWARE probably will make a big fuss out of this, contact them to help loh lol
What many of you seem not to understand is that there is no way for TS to legally harrass or challenge the woman.
If he tries anything foolish, like psychoing as you suggested, he will only get into trouble with law.
If the TS is put behind bars, who will have the last laugh?
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Originally posted by Suffocate:
Another way is to get all the children and mother to pressure the father to leave the china bitch.Tell him that their mother will divorce him and his children will no longer acknowledge him if he do not break up with her. Let him chose between his family and her.
He is not in the right mindset currently.
Odds are high he will choose the China woman.
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hi!agenda i m very new to the blog but make me feel that so close to this blog ..becouse i got same group of the ppl having the same kinda of "problem".. agenda i m mather of 2 son divorce because of 3rd party too .. i growth up in a family of broken family too .life today in me have to suffer the same heppaning .. i thought i got the same happening in my young time wont happen now in my late age life ,but the truth is .. happened ..and still got to move on my life in emotional . and mentoly .also responsible for my love one and still got to face the fanacialy suffer.see life is not only we can see or known or now is suffer but wont be happening any more .. this time is not the last but that is more to go .. take that as your life even ..and move in a better life with some one is good ..and dont let this time stop your life going .. remenber you may be one day to be some one husband and be a father . or ... inlow ... so move your life with what u are and what u have ..improve them .. many watching it ..stand for some one is WEAK dont trade in with evil if not we suffer like osama binlading ..is a longer suffer even the kid die for his thought ..
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Originally posted by xxxxxlamer:
what do you think he could possibly do? stop him? force him? threaten him?Talk it out with his dad, simple as that.
Notice that I am not advocating violence as most of the forummers are doing.
If nothing goes through TS's father's brain, then all he could do is to be a pillar of strength for his mother.
Some of the forummers have suggested a two-women and one man family, but I can tell you out of all the cases I deal with thus far, only 1~2 manage to succeed in having such a family setting.
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Originally posted by Forbiddensinner:
Talk it out with his dad, simple as that.
Notice that I am not advocating violence as most of the forummers are doing.
If nothing goes through TS's father's brain, then all he could do is to be a pillar of strength for his mother.
Some of the forummers have suggested a two-women and one man family, but I can tell you out of all the cases I deal with thus far, only 1~2 manage to succeed in having such a family setting.
r u a social worker or lawyer
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
r u a social worker or lawyer
forbidden lawyer meh? -
Originally posted by Etbackhom:
hi!agenda i m very new to the blog but make me feel that so close to this blog ..becouse i got same group of the ppl having the same kinda of "problem".. agenda i m mather of 2 son divorce because of 3rd party too .. i growth up in a family of broken family too .life today in me have to suffer the same heppaning .. i thought i got the same happening in my young time wont happen now in my late age life ,but the truth is .. happened ..and still got to move on my life in emotional . and mentoly .also responsible for my love one and still got to face the fanacialy suffer.see life is not only we can see or known or now is suffer but wont be happening any more .. this time is not the last but that is more to go .. take that as your life even ..and move in a better life with some one is good ..and dont let this time stop your life going .. remenber you may be one day to be some one husband and be a father . or ... inlow ... so move your life with what u are and what u have ..improve them .. many watching it ..stand for some one is WEAK dont trade in with evil if not we suffer like osama binlading ..is a longer suffer even the kid die for his thought ..
Ello there, this is a forum, not a blog. And welcome to sgforums.
I apologise for saying so, but your words are very messy and your sentence structures are very bad. Please do put in spacing between paragraphs next time round. Thanks.
What you were trying to say : ( At least I think so )
Hi Agenda, I am very new to this forum but this thread reflects my previous situation.
I am the mother of two, and I suffered a failed relationship due to a 3rd party.
I grew up in a broken family, and I told myself the same thing won't happen to me, but alas, the same tragic that broke my family apart befell me once again.
But I still got to move on in my life, both emotional-wise and mental-wise. I also have to be responsible to my loved ones ( Namely children ) and deal with financial problems.
Life is about suffering, not just in the past, not just in the present, but also in the future. Take all these as lessons in life, and don't let your life stop here over the sake of this incident. Move on in your life.
Just remember that one day you will be a father and a husband, keep all these lessons you have learnt in mind and improve upon them.
Stand up for those who are weak and do not fall into the evil side like Osama Bin Laden, who allows his preachings and actions to cause the sufferings of amny children. ..
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Originally posted by JerryYan:
r u a social worker or lawyer
Social worker. Non-registered Community Counsellor.
Currently preparing for studies in NIE though, so can't really help out much in the community.
Edit: Off for lunch, will be back later.
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Mistresses, secret offsprings... but i was suprised that the dad even brought her home where u n ur mum lives.
haiz.... sigh...
damn...
DAMN!
Maybe one thing ur mum can do as some for of remedy, is that she accept the fact, but she is queen bee. N all monetary funds go through her n she will come to some sort of understanding, agreement and /or settlement.
I know its fudged up... but all other alternatives lead to losing either parents n lose lose lose..
at least ur mum gets to control assets and finance.
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I would advise talking calmly to the father and if fails then advocating divorce to the mother and supporting the mother.
Should also try to take as much money as possible for the mother and get alimony. Not to get back at the father or the woman, but because it would help the mother to survive and live on well.
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why rush into divorce......
Divorce causes more than bitterness and broken hearts: The trauma of a split can leave long-lasting effects on mental and physical health that remarriage might not repair, according to new research
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if u are advicising yr mum to divorce yr dad make sure u get some evidance 1st before taking action.
with the picture of yr dad having a mistress outside u all are better at winning the suitation and the court will make sure he issue u and yr remaining family a lump sum of $$$ either by 1 time payment of a period of time .
(this is some secure for yr family)
let the sult cheat yr ex-dad remaining $$$ and when the day she left yr ex-dad because he have no $$$ left then im sure he will come back and beg to re-united with u all.
then its up to yr choices.
if u and yr mum are keep mmmmm about this matte and let yr dad do as he wish, then its would 100% be a unfavour suitation because
1. that sult is younger . slut, and know how to twiste old man in her hand. u all wont be able to win her in any suitation because deep in her mind she die die will wan yr dad to feed her.
2. yr dad have already cast u all aside already. before he commited himself to this sult im sure he have already consider his family 1st. and the decision he make is to be with the younger sult because he can enjoy fresher (but stink) fruit.
there a lot to type ... ah yo i no time .......
ask yr mum to think of u and her furture instead of sticking to the hate that u all have on yr dad now.
(THINK OF U AND YR MUM FURTURE~!!!!!) dont follow the hate~!!!!