I dont love my wife already... what should i do??
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I believe yr "conclusion maybe a GOOD 1" (I do), but if yr conclusion includes really have to divorce... then I MUZ object.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Tell me the reason what are the events leading before you married her & WHY you married her; then I will analysis and tell you what to do.
(I have my own conclusion about this: but I want to hear from you)
Tink abt da child, Mr. holymann... Dun solve a prob by replacing it wif a new prob... bad for health... both U & yr wife & most IMPORTANT... da child... -
Divorce or not isn't scope of my conclusion lar. Its about my conclusion about WHY he did married her.Originally posted by loneryu00:I believe yr "conclusion maybe a GOOD 1" (I do), but if yr conclusion includes really have to divorce... then I MUZ object.
Tink abt da child, Mr. holymann... Dun solve a prob by replacing it wif a new prob... bad for health... both U & yr wife & most IMPORTANT... da child... -
Oh...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Divorce or not isn't scope of my conclusion lar. Its about my conclusion about WHY he did married her. 
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feeling counts
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Love is not always about feeling. It's also about commitment - just like the commitment you made on your wedding day, to love and cherish her until death parts you.
It seems that for some reason, you are going thru a dry patch in your marriage. Sometimes, it happens when you have a kid, and one (or both) of you spend too much time and energy on the kid and forget your relationship. I could suggest many things you could do to re-kindle the love, eg going out at least once a week, eg, but I seriously think that you should see a marriage counsellor. There are many around, eg Family Life, etc. Many churches also offer this service. Go and see the counsellor alone first. Bring your wife later only if you are comfortable.[/u] -
U r rite when it comes to r/s...Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:feeling counts
lost of feelings
But to marriage, its more of commitment... -
yah lor...alot of commitment....and compromise....heh heng i decide nt to marry
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U waiting for Yang Guo izzit???Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:yah lor...alot of commitment....and compromise....heh heng i decide nt to marry
I tink need to wait 16 yrs... -
Originally posted by loneryu00:U waiting for Yang Guo izzit???
I tink need to wait 16 yrs... no leh...best is single most free one anyway other than love stil gt many tings in world to do mah -
U r very liberal, lady.
*2 thumbs up!*
But I can guarantee U in da future U may change yr "idea"...
"Yao Chi Wo De "An Ran Xiao Hun Fan Mah?" -
Originally posted by loneryu00:U r very liberal, lady.
*2 thumbs up!*
But I can guarantee U in da future U may change yr "idea"...
"Yao Chi Wo De "An Ran Xiao Hun Fan Mah?" perhaps everyting is fated -
It q sad to hear tat..
At time do wonder, if that marriage might end up in divorce.. wats the point of getting marry? weird...
Well, atleast for me, i feel that love dont last forever. But to make love last forever. Effort need to be put in to make love last. Both party have to put in effort to make the relationship work and to strengthen it.
Juz like, we will do simple things (catch up with fren with phone calls/ over coffee session etc) to keep friendship going, need not say a marriage... But people take things 4 granted.. feel that, he/she is already mine, so why should i put in extra effort.. or even no effort is put in at all to maintain the relationship.. And to think of it, things that are dear to us, we should take care of it but we neglect it instead... sigh Have to add some "Spice of life" ( holiday is good, learn new hobbies together, take time off to have quiet time with just you and her, movie etc) into the marriage, if not it will be dull.. and soon go down the drain...
Its not late to save the marriage. You marry her, cos you love her in the 1st place, cos she is that special someone. So why not give your best all over again.. you will perhaps find joy in loving again... And definately she deserve the best don't she... -
Why u dun love her anymore? Is it because of new love
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Fated? U have a hand in yr own fate. (Happy waiting for 16 yrs, lady!Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu: perhaps everyting is fated 
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Yes, loves dun last forever... but then how those old couples stay together, noeing love DUN last forever? U gotta ask them, ppl.
I noe da "ans" *sort of any wae...*, & posted DAT ans many times liao... but in da end, U ppl got to find out how to stick wif yr "loved" one for ... life? -
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i wld strongly advise u to seek professional help fr marriage counsellors...
they r professionally trained to help u on watever marriage issues u r facing...
for me... i wld jus say to u tat u r nt putting enuff effort to create surprises in ur marriage thus resulting in a dull marriage...
and... u r nt being grateful to ur wife whom has done a lot for u... u r veri fortunate but u r nt satisfied! tis is BAD!
shen zai fu zhong bu zhi fu!
when u lost her ... u will evetually realised tat nt every WOMAN can sacrifice so much for U!
ur wife has gone thru a painful delivery for u n ur family... n she sacrifice a lot for her marriage n in the end U r the 1 who lets her dwn!
take a sip of ice water... sit dwn... relax... take a piece of paper n write dwn all the things tat r bothering u...
then take the piece of paper to ur wife... sit dwn wif her n assure her tat tis r ur thoughts...
discuss together wat solutions can both of u cum out wif...
remember... if u r to be ungrateful to wat ur loved 1 has done for u... u will get retribution on wat u did...
ps: some ppl wanted a lovely marriage completed by hving a baby but they cant hv cos of certain obstacles... in other words "some ppl wan oso cannot gt... u gt it u shld treasure it!" -
oh geez. pain and misery? Ur parents broke up, big deal. think you're throwing it out of proportion here. Would u rather live in a house where ur mom and dad both hate each other and fight every day? When u think abt it, divorce is good.Originally posted by loneryu00:U dun love yr wife? Love yr KID...
IF U 2 divorce, da 1 suffering is da child...
I've been thru dis, so I noe it (dun give sarcastic remarks abt dis, ppl...)
If U cannot love yr wife, channel yr love to yr child... let yr child be a happy kid & grow up to be a happy person. I grew up from a single parent, so I noe da pain & misery...
Da most INNOCENT party is yr child, trust me... -
and as for you, you're a bastard, just divorce her and dun make her go through more pain.Originally posted by holymannn:I just married 2 years and having a kid now, but i dont love my wife anymore. what can i do? i dont even want make love with her... please help
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and leave ur kids in her custody please... i shudder to think wad they'd learn abt marryin ppl from an ass like u.
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Save the kid to yourself and Give your wife to me... i accept and take it second hand...Originally posted by holymannn:I just married 2 years and having a kid now, but i dont love my wife anymore. what can i do? i dont even want make love with her... please help 
well holymannn.... if u dun like ur wife why u marry her in the first place? if u still dun like her... talk to her then file a divorce... and go snatch the kid in court. See who get the kid to live with... 
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hai i pity ur wife ....
so fast ur love for her die liao... i guess it gonna be hard to have that feeling back again.. but no matter wat do think abt ur kid before doing anything -
hi darling slayerger...long time no c..Originally posted by sLaYeRgEr:hai i pity ur wife ....
so fast ur love for her die liao... i guess it gonna be hard to have that feeling back again.. but no matter wat do think abt ur kid before doing anything
/mi climb onto sLaYeRgEr's lap and kiss kiss ...
mi miss u
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Originally posted by Venus:
u making my venus angry liao.....
i wld strongly advise u to seek professional help fr marriage counsellors...
they r professionally trained to help u on watever marriage issues u r facing...
for me... i wld jus say to u tat u r nt putting enuff effort to create surprises in ur marriage thus resulting in a dull marriage...
and... u r nt being grateful to ur wife whom has done a lot for u... u r veri fortunate but u r nt satisfied! tis is [b]BAD!
shen zai fu zhong bu zhi fu!
when u lost her ... u will evetually realised tat nt every WOMAN can sacrifice so much for U!
ur wife has gone thru a painful delivery for u n ur family... n she sacrifice a lot for her marriage n in the end U r the 1 who lets her dwn!
take a sip of ice water... sit dwn... relax... take a piece of paper n write dwn all the things tat r bothering u...
then take the piece of paper to ur wife... sit dwn wif her n assure her tat tis r ur thoughts...
discuss together wat solutions can both of u cum out wif...
remember... if u r to be ungrateful to wat ur loved 1 has done for u... u will get retribution on wat u did...
ps: some ppl wanted a lovely marriage completed by hving a baby but they cant hv cos of certain obstacles... in other words "some ppl wan oso cannot gt... u gt it u shld treasure it!"[/b]
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x2....Originally posted by sLaYeRgEr:hai i pity ur wife ....
so fast ur love for her die liao... i guess it gonna be hard to have that feeling back again.. but no matter wat do think abt ur kid before doing anything