The "why are guys so cheapskate" new chapter
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i don't understand
hes already bombing you with mail and icq msgs
why don't you just say you forgive him
and don't talk to him again
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I know that your heart can be easily melted with these love letters.Originally posted by winky:what does this mean if you are the one that have sent it? is it a sincere apology or another mean of getting my trust so that he can fcuk me again? should i ignore it or be more forgiving (by forgiving it doesn't mean i forget what he did, just that i dun blame him anymore)?
If you read in-between the lines... it is read as "Forgive me, Let's be friends." Sounds innocent but... -
u dun like him anymoreOriginally posted by winky:yeah. i think the best thing to do is just ignore his email.
he is no longer impt
write him outa ur life
u dun need to worry wat he thinks
wat is impt is wat u think
be firm, be strong
and thus shall u be victorious -
that is what i tell myself and others. but subconsciously, its hard to erase someone off your memory just like that. it takes time.Originally posted by whiteillum:u dun like him anymore
he is no longer impt
write him outa ur life
u dun need to worry wat he thinks
wat is impt is wat u think
be firm, be strong
and thus shall u be victorious -
It doesn't just take time.. I think it would take time away from him.
Don't forget the lessons learnt.Originally posted by winky:that is what i tell myself and others. but subconsciously, its hard to erase someone off your memory just like that. it takes time. -
hey Senior u same as me ar~~~~Originally posted by loneryu00:Oic... I noe I got heartburn...... then if got 2 leh? (As in both palms got...) any difference?
Sorry dat I had to deviate from original topic... BUT Mr. Peppermint here very hard to find... cannot let go!
got heart burn problem~~~ -
Yep!! Just stick to your resolution. Do things that will make you happy and Life will be better. OK?Originally posted by winky:that is what i tell myself and others. but subconsciously, its hard to erase someone off your memory just like that. it takes time.
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ok let me clarify this..Originally posted by IamAngeline:hey Senior u same as me ar~~~~
got heart burn problem~~~
i read from somewhere that heartburn is NOT a cardiac problem; rather it's a gastric prob caused by indigestion..the end-result is that the person will feel a stitch near the cardiac region..so your heart should be working fine..
if u still have doubts abt it, go check up on the ailment..do rectify me if i've got the wrong perception. -
Once bitten twice shy. You are sensible enough to understand and make your own decision now because your feelings and thoughts are cleared from confusion and filtered from delusion. I don't believe in giving people one more after first and the only chance - chances are, he would still be the same.Originally posted by winky:Hi friends,
got second chapter now. i just recieve this email from that bastard ex of mine:
"I've been wrecked with guilt for the past few days knowing how much I have hurt u by treating u like that. I really believed that u wanted to go to bed with me just for the act alone and not because of other reasons....from the hp msgs to the icq msgs, I was rather sure it was only that. If I had known u were hoping for something else I wouldn't even go over ur place because I know its impossible.
I most certainly did not see u as a prostitute but as a willing partner in this act......I saw it as though u had needs and I had needs so we agreed to satisfy those needs. I dunno how I can make it up to you for this terrible sin I have committed. I have written this mail with the utmost care not to upset u with any words....but I know the act of sending u the mail is upsetting enough but I need to tell you these feelings I have.
I really wish to remain friends with you. I beg for your forgiveness. I know it will take u very long before u are able to do so.....but I hope u would drop me a mail or msg when u are willing to talk to me again. I promise never to treat you like that ever again."
what does this mean if you are the one that have sent it? is it a sincere apology or another mean of getting my trust so that he can fcuk me again? should i ignore it or be more forgiving (by forgiving it doesn't mean i forget what he did, just that i dun blame him anymore)?
Think about this: 'Wah... so now then feel gulity? Then what about the time when he was in the process of fuilfilling his lust? What was he thinking? Does guilt ever run across his mind? Or his mind is being control by his d|ck and lost his so called sense?
You are intelligent lady and mistress of your own fate - you KNOW what to do and how you should handle it THIS TIME ROUND. I won't be naggy this round, because I said enough the previous time and experience had taught you the meaning behind the mask of your ex.
Yunnie's Precautionary words : He will try other ways to make you forgive him, etc - this is only the beginning. Ignore and avoid TO THE END. Tell him this: if he ever camp at your house, wait for you, etc (or any situation where you can't avoid him because he is there and force you to speak with him.)
"Since that day, the *name of the guy* I know is dead.* AND WALK OFF. (Start screaming if he tries to block you because it always works. He will definitely let you go, if you scream.)
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Woah.. relax man!Originally posted by loneryu00:I apologize too... I felt too emotional whenever some "gal" wld comment on "guys r bad" & such... hurt our pride & shattering out faith... I guessed I tired of these so-called "battle of da sexes..."
not all guys tink like him... but after wat he done... U tink can trust him again? I sae his "explaination" is only 1/2 1/2 credibility... cannot really trust him... anywae... guys reputation dat bad... I tink DUN TRUST him... stand firm on yr gnd.
Thought we suppose to spread the 'faith' instead of getting all worked up because of such people?
Like I said before "The existence of bad guys is to give all glory and honour to good guys."
LOL
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Quotes from Topic 'Why are guys so cheapskate'Originally posted by winky:its so miserable. i loved him, so i gave him. but all he wanted was some thirty minutes of pleasures and thats it. he knows i still love him, and made use of me, knowing that i will let him have it. what a bastard.
Originally posted by winky:everybody says move on. but what can i do in reality to move on?
i know i have to move on. move ahead. but can give me more detailed advise on how exactly to move on.
God??? Hmmm....Originally posted by winky:i'm just glad God gave me another chance. gave me some one i can anchor onto to help me.
i dun need a lot of suitors, i just want one who is good to me. many suitors but if they are all shallow bastards, also no point. i'm not greedy anymore.
I hope it'll be my first and last post to you.Originally posted by winky:i think tis is going to be the last update. my ex came over to my place just now. we had sex. finish already he went off. okie, i know exactly what you gonna say, that i made a big mistake. but then i agree to have it with him then he told me that its going to be a purely sexual relationship. so, i finish off the deal with him and that is the end.
anymore pursue from him to have another more rounds will be ignored by me.
i am truely heart broke. 3 years of relationship now turn into a free sex session. i am going to muster as much courage and strength to move on.
You know why i say you're a contridicting person?
Cos thru your post(s), you're definitely a very witty girl, to further praise you, you're a intelligent girl(quote Yun)
You seemed to have all answers to your sufferings and problems within yourself and between your Ex.
You also seem to like the attention and support you're got in A.Agony.
(Please let me clarify that everyone is entitled to their POVs and it's a great place to share problems, for others to help and get people out of trouble)
Getting back to what i typed from above.
I know that it's easy to have all the answers, but not knowing how to go about doing it. Answers may not lead to Solution. Cos you're still in the midst of nursing your hurt and hatred.
I have observed from your few topics including the lastest topic you have. You seem to enjoy nursing the hatred you have with the boy and yet it's tormenting. Physically splitting yourself into a happy go lucky person, smiling as though it's no big deal and a very miserable, self-pity and hurting girl.
I would say thru M© theory - Numbing your 'within' thru tormentation and hatred.
I personally feel sorry that you have to resort to it so to temporally ease your heartache.
You may try as hard as possible to call him whatever you want and write nasty mails to him.
But all i could say is....your acts will amount to nothing.
By this time i guess you would be nodding your head and telling me that you know what i'm talking about (hopefully )
I would guess that you still will be numbed and care less of what i've said.
I personally do not know what happened to your ex. and what made him changed.
Whatever which made him change, could be a factor which made him lose his senses.
Personally i would think his mail towards you had a shown guilt-stricken person asking for forgiveness from a girl he had hurt so much.
I don't know how much he has realised he's sorry, to write you the letter.
Sometimes a man can do senseless things for a period of time and regret for his wholelife. (i hope i'm still making sense )
I'm sorry i might be saying the wrong thing cos i'm neither your personal friend nor his, so my deduction may not be right
In regards to the think both of you did the last time.
It takes two hands to clap.
Enough said.
Lastly friend, i'm not trying to get you out of these mess you're in.
Please do not post things which you know people contribute fire to.
It'll just make you hate him more. Don't go thru that phrase any longer.
Promise yourself to get a good life and have all your friends to stand by you. Give much time to think and love yourself.
My last to you. Goodbye -
Its a prank to get u into believing him again...Originally posted by winky:Hi friends,
got second chapter now. i just recieve this email from that bastard ex of mine:
what does this mean if you are the one that have sent it? is it a sincere apology or another mean of getting my trust so that he can fcuk me again? should i ignore it or be more forgiving (by forgiving it doesn't mean i forget what he did, just that i dun blame him anymore)?
B*stard!!!! -
Dear winky,
WE give u all the courage to move on......
Jia you! You always haf us to support u all the way...
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Har...? I tot gastric is gastric... heartburn is more like... nvm... juz read da dictionary... but I remember I felt pain in da heary area... & no its no heart attack or wat...Originally posted by Syusaku:ok let me clarify this..
i read from somewhere that heartburn is NOT a cardiac problem; rather it's a gastric prob caused by indigestion..the end-result is that the person will feel a stitch near the cardiac region..so your heart should be working fine..
if u still have doubts abt it, go check up on the ailment..do rectify me if i've got the wrong perception.
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I didn't noe MC Sq can read thru dat... well, as wat MC said... forgive & FORGET... no point hating dat "guy" any further... hating sum1 requires lots of energy & in da end hurt both parties... (dunno how many time I said liao...) So do heed MC's advice... let go...
& Yun... not dat I dun wanna spread faith... I tink U shld read da "Why like dis" thread in Bar... Dis is 1 MAJOR topic dat fueled da power to shatter my "faith"... now slowly regaining back da confidence & faith...
& Junior... eat more... or rather... eat REGULARLY...... -
Well being friends is ok loh but stay away from him and be weary of wad other sweet talk he might come up with
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the end of love is not hatred. that i know.
i also know what things i ought to do, and what things i ought not to. to err is human. sometimes i do wrong things, sometimes i do them right.
i come to Aunt Agony to seek not just advise but affirmation ans support that what i ought to do is right, and the 'stupid devil who always ask me to do stupid/wrong things' inside will become smaller.
i can't yet tell him that i forgive him, but i dun feel so much hatred for him, much less love. when i finally can stand up and pull the knife off my heart, i will let him know that he's forgiven, and we draw the line at that. -
u are a sensible person from what u have written... hope that e replies so far have help u in any ways...whether support or advises. Its hard to forget a person..its harder to forget bad memories more than good. Hopefully one day, u can finally be reborn and put e past behind u.... which is what i hope to achieve too.Originally posted by winky:the end of love is not hatred. that i know.
i also know what things i ought to do, and what things i ought not to. to err is human. sometimes i do wrong things, sometimes i do them right.
i come to Aunt Agony to seek not just advise but affirmation ans support that what i ought to do is right, and the 'stupid devil who always ask me to do stupid/wrong things' inside will become smaller.
i can't yet tell him that i forgive him, but i dun feel so much hatred for him, much less love. when i finally can stand up and pull the knife off my heart, i will let him know that he's forgiven, and we draw the line at that.
But from e words of your ex... u should have long forgotten him. He is just using your weakness against u... which happen to me.. its so painful to have your love one using and taking u for granted like that. I think u are still young so there's a lot more ahead awaiting u... don't hold on to e past...receive e future -
winky girl.... all i can sae... he juz wants another fÃœck in the future...
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I 2nd to da "Action Hero" here (U lah G.I.Joe...) Da best form of hatred is to forget. To forget is to let go... It is hard but wif grit & determination... Y not? I used to hate a pri sch mate of mine for 3 yrs... but slowly my hatred disappears... whenever I tink of it... I felt silly... How I can manage to harness so much energy to hate for 3 yrs? & 1 more thing when I remembered dis case... can be called a form of self condolence: is dat pri sch mate WORTH my hatred?Originally posted by GIJOE:u are a sensible person from what u have written... hope that e replies so far have help u in any ways...whether support or advises. Its hard to forget a person..its harder to forget bad memories more than good. Hopefully one day, u can finally be reborn and put e past behind u.... which is what i hope to achieve too.
But from e words of your ex... u should have long forgotten him. He is just using your weakness against u... which happen to me.. its so painful to have your love one using and taking u for granted like that. I think u are still young so there's a lot more ahead awaiting u... don't hold on to e past...receive e future
Now I have no particular hatred towards any1 or anything... but who noes wat will happen in da future? 1 thing for sure... learn to let go... there r many waes to do so... I got some waes dat can assist U. But for now I stop here & see wat other replies pop up... -
I agree with GI JOE and loneryu00.Originally posted by loneryu00:I 2nd to da "Action Hero" here (U lah G.I.Joe...) Da best form of hatred is to forget. To forget is to let go... It is hard but wif grit & determination... Y not? I used to hate a pri sch mate of mine for 3 yrs... but slowly my hatred disappears... whenever I tink of it... I felt silly... How I can manage to harness so much energy to hate for 3 yrs? & 1 more thing when I remembered dis case... can be called a form of self condolence: is dat pri sch mate WORTH my hatred?
Now I have no particular hatred towards any1 or anything... but who noes wat will happen in da future? 1 thing for sure... learn to let go... there r many waes to do so... I got some waes dat can assist U. But for now I stop here & see wat other replies pop up...
Sometimes when ppl do things to hurt us badly, we develop hatred towards them. Becos they leave us witha hurt, we hate them for bringing us the hurt. Forgetting is one of the best way to overcome hatred and also one of the most difficult one. EVeryone has memories, no matter gd or bad. Memories are the hardest to forget.
I was hurt deeply by my best fren in my sec sch days and then by my ex when i was in army. All these cause me to haf hatred in one way towards them. But believe me, time will heal things and u will learn more things and see more gd ppl. Get new and happy memories to replace old and sad ones.
For some years now i haf no contact with the 2 person tt hurt me alot. Spend most of my time on finding new frens and helping them out. Now i haf gd memories of my frens to kick away those bad things. Come to think abt it, i was silly in a way too.
I am sure u are a sensibel person. So u will do the rite things. Hope this helps u in a way.... -
Huh?Originally posted by winky:and the 'stupid devil who always ask me to do stupid/wrong things' inside will become smaller.
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Yup!
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NOt refering to u lah... she refering to the xin mo inside her....Originally posted by Devil1976:Huh? -
Originally posted by shaunlaw:NOt refering to u lah... she refering to the xin mo inside her....
Dev tio shocked!