why doesn't she ever know just how much i care for her?
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hayiah girls never appreciate anything...
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Hi life^stop,Originally posted by life^stop:Like this girl so much...bought breakfast...bought her gifts when i got my pay check... all i ever ask for is to be able to just talk to her or even go out with her even if its for just 1 hour... really care for her alot..
yet...she sounds bored everytime talking to me..Called her last night and she said called her back later...did as i was told..only to know shes sleeping...hate to admit it..but really juz cried in bed...i'm not someone very great..just an ordinary person looking to care for this girl whom to me is so special...i really hate the way she's treating me...yet all this while i hope that she at least sms me even a "Hi" one day... Can't sleep, can't eat..can only weep...why?
Why do you wan to treat her like an angel or a princess where she treated you jus like any guys out there who wanna chase her?? She's the best?? OH man.. I bet there are much more girls out there better than her.. Someone who kNOES how to appreciate you AT LEAST!
You cared for her... But that doesn't mean that you have to buy her things buy her breakfast etc etc... All this are jus your doings and being ZHI ZHOU DUO QING!
Why spend so much money on a preson who doesn't appreciate you AT ALL?? I don't see a point on spending money on girls jus to get her or to show your care and concern.. YOu told her that you like her.. This is a wrong move!!
YOu know her only for 2-3 months.. how well can you know from her during these time?? The most is only the outer shell of her.. How far can you proceed now?? Zero! Do she likes you also? If NO, then why in the first place you confess to her.. You scared her give her a shocked.. SOme girls feel proud when she knows someone is chasing her.. and then they will make use of that guy.. but some girls know liao.. they will back off.. cos they know they don't like that guy.. and All she treated you is jus a friend...
You buy her gifts and treat her eat.. which girl wont reject.. cos someone is there to pay everything for them.. and the worst thing is YOU aint HER BF... ANd there she can get all these from you.. YOu Arent an ATM!
At the beginning, she still can talk to you.. chat with you.. cos she's feels that is ok.. But as time goes by.. she feels that you are beginning to fall deep into this.. and knows that your feelings for her are strong.. The more you keep pushing her and doing things for her.. the more she wanna avoid you..
You treat like a friend but what's your motive and actions done doesn't seems like jus a friend to her.. For a guy who the girl doesn't even have a slightly feeling for him.. the more you keep on pestering her sms her.. ask her out buy things.. she will feel very irritated.. and then in the end.. she will stop replying your messages.. if you call.. she give excuses.. like what she did.. She said she'll get back to you later.. But what did you found out?? She went to bed...
Its a sign for you to ask you to back off a little while.. And if she really doesnt have any feelings for you.. then jus let it be.. Feeling this kind of thing.. is very hard to say.. it comes naturally.. You can force anyone to love you in return!
If she doens't appreciate what you have done.. then MOVE ON! Why still hang yourself in the air?? Crying?? Come on.. This is not goin to help you anyway..
Get up go get somethings to do.. carry on with your life.. make yourself occupied.. DOn't wonder that she's the only one in this world.. YOur social life and love circle.. doesn't only CIRCULATE around her..!! YOu have better more things to do than ONLY HER!
Give yourself some time.. and give her sometime too... DO some soul-searching for yourself.. and see if this girl is worth wat you've done! MEanwhile if you really wan to be her friend.. Jus treat her normallly as what you treat to other ppl.. Don't always put all your attention to her ONLY!! ANd another point - Girls are very sensitive over such things.. Try not to always call her and out of sudden jus buy a gift for her.. unless is special occasions.. Not as an when you like!
Btw how old is she??
Cheers!
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Firstly: As long as she is NOT your girlfriend, she has all the right to treat the way she wants, unless she con your money, beat you up, etc.Originally posted by life^stop:shes not my girlfriend..and as much as i hope for her to be, all i ever want is at least she can treat me better... its very painful everytime she does these things to me..i want to 'let go' but i can't...
"missing out on the good things in life" ? shes the best thing i've ever known...i don't want to lose her...do u think i'm missing out? I'm sorry...just thinking of her is so painful already... my first post here..hope maybe anyone can listen
You only known her for 2 - 3 months, fallen for her, and started the chase. Express yourself, and she seemed disinterested even though you shower your love and concern as if she is the only girl you ever gonna love this lifetime.......
What's the use of doing things you know it doesn't do you any good? What's the use of people who doesn't appreciate what you are doing?
You wanna seek for that kind of girl who will return that kind of attention and appreciation to you - obviously she is not that kind of girl. When speaking to her, she sounded bored - such a strong hint that she isn't interested in you.
In love - nothing is absolute. As long as you acknowledge a certain degree of liking within yourself and intiated the chase - there is always a risk of failing - this risk calulated by external evironmental factor, your personality, physical looks, etc - which will give rise to either a high risk or a low risk.
So you can't demand her to treat you the way you want regardless of how simple and small isn't it? Love comes willingly, and for the non-willings - it never works.
P.S: Liking someone who is not interested in you is still the only surface 'injury' to the heart - seek someone who appreciate you, and you will discover that love isn't just one-sided and you will be well-rewarded.
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back off...i think i really should back off... but i just cannot believe what i have done...i hate myself for doing all those actions...yet everything is to late...i can't do anything about it now... everythings my fault? i shouldn't have approached her...i shouldn't have known her...
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Sleeping at that moment?Originally posted by RebeL:Where's Yun when u need him?
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maybe hangover?Originally posted by Yunhaier:Sleeping at that moment? 
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Approaching is nothing, and nothing is your fault. How you can learn if you never attempt anything? Everyone ain't born in the world to find the suitable one right away you know?Originally posted by life^stop:back off...i think i really should back off... but i just cannot believe what i have done...i hate myself for doing all those actions...yet everything is to late...i can't do anything about it now... everythings my fault? i shouldn't have approached her...i shouldn't have known her...
Don't worry if you attempt fails - only regret if you did nothing.
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appreciates me? never once in my 20 yrs have i liked a girl so much..."what about your friends?" u might ask...Friends? Leave u alone when u r down to accompany their gf's...u call them friends?
just found someone whom i really care for alot..and now all this is happening to me... all i hope for is a friend to really confide in...but in my life, theres none.. -
Nah... just slept damn late.Originally posted by kopiosatu:maybe hangover?
No yuan to see Mr kopiosatu yesterday... see when our fate cross. -
its all...one sided..i must stop all this...but i can't..the thought of her just lingers... where r the people around me? why do i feel so alone...
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Never once in 20 yrs have like a girl so much? SO? The problem here doesn't lies with you - it lies with her. And the issue is that she is not interested in you, which in turn obviously she wouldn't appreciate what you are doing to chase her.Originally posted by life^stop:appreciates me? never once in my 20 yrs have i liked a girl so much..."what about your friends?" u might ask...Friends? Leave u alone when u r down to accompany their gf's...u call them friends?
just found someone whom i really care for alot..and now all this is happening to me... all i hope for is a friend to really confide in...but in my life, theres none..
This is a one-sided relation - and you only lived a 20 yrs - how do you know that the road down what you call life, you wouldn't meet anyone a thousand times better?
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i saw uOriginally posted by Yunhaier:Nah... just slept damn late.
No yuan to see Mr kopiosatu yesterday... see when our fate cross.
i was across the road where u and silver were talking -
You are putting yourself in a mental prison - people don't come to you like that because they are leading their own life. Like when you came into this forum to post about your problem, Parka, Rebel, Sunrise and others replied you.Originally posted by life^stop:its all...one sided..i must stop all this...but i can't..the thought of her just lingers... where r the people around me? why do i feel so alone...
People are around - it just that whether you want them to. -
Yun...
I hope that what u say will be true...really pray it will happen..if theres someone a thousand..no even 1% better than her and who cares for me..i'll be very happy enough...i'll wait..i always believed in fate...yet i do not know why it has not come yet... maybe one day it will? -
Sh|t.... you cheated my feelings. Aiya, skill not good enough, can't escape properly. Next time must look aroundOriginally posted by kopiosatu:i saw u
i was across the road where u and silver were talking
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i hear them...i really do...and i have to continue to type and type and type..or i will fall again and think of her...dunno how long i can keep it going..
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For this: I guarantee you. Its not hoping - its definiteOriginally posted by life^stop:Yun...
I hope that what u say will be true...really pray it will happen..if theres someone a thousand..no even 1% better than her and who cares for me..i'll be very happy enough...i'll wait..i always believed in fate...yet i do not know why it has not come yet... maybe one day it will? 
What astrological sign are you? Date of birth and place you are born in? (Sg?) -
Originally posted by life^stop:i hear them...i really do...and i have to continue to type and type and type..or i will fall again and think of her...dunno how long i can keep it going.. So difficult? Call me if you wish.
*/me use loud speaker - HE IS A GUY people - so don't anyhow say.* -
definite? if it really is than i'm more than willing to wait..but right now..its so tough to forget...
i'm a Leo... born on the 29th of july...in SG
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29 July? Well, close to Cancer neh... Can I have your time born?Originally posted by life^stop:definite? if it really is than i'm more than willing to wait..but right now..its so tough to forget...
i'm a Leo... born on the 29th of july...in SG
why?
Why? Let me see your birth chart lor.
Leo in distress... I am also Leo. If you wish you can call me lar... -
want to move on...i have to ..but it will take i dunno how long...
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not sure..i think in the morning 2-3 am ...close to cancer..yup she's a cancer...
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Originally posted by life^stop:not sure..i think in the morning 2-3 am ...close to cancer..yup she's a cancer... Pai seh... need exact timing, nevermind lar. Aiyo... be strong ok?
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Why are u so reliant on her? sheesh..
There is nothing more cruel than a one-sided love relationship.
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Hi.. Life^stop.. i'll share my experience about this.. last time.. i fell in love with girl A.. i was really in love with her.. ask her to go out.. but she always refused.. i bought her b'day present.. bought her dinner and sent it to her house.. and give another gift.. but she still didn't want to go out with me.. until one day.. she sms me said that please don't bother her again.. (btw: we've been friends for 4 years).. at that time.. i really feel shock... finally.. i make up my mind not to contact her... end of story..
2 years ago.. i met with girl B.. i oso really felt in love with her.. i'll do anything for her at that time.. she always wanted to go out with me.. i asked her out for dinner in fancy restaurants... ask her to go to church.. and give much attention to her family.. i remembered that time 2 o'clock her dog was sick... i drove to her house..then driving like crazy to find veterinarian.. we've been doing this almost 1.5 years.. we always went out together (me and her).. to cut the story short.. i've done lots of things for her... about 6 months ago.. she was trying to go out with one of my best friend.. and now.. she become my best friend's gf...
if you were me.. which one will u choose? girl A or girl B..
frankly.. I really appreciate girl A decision.. because with that.. she didn't waste my time.. my money.. my attention..
be grateful that currently she didn't make a response to you.. before u fell into deep sea of love
i knew how it feels.. but trust me.. as time passes by.. you'll forget about her...