Just broke off...............
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Just dump him lah.......He is just not a gentleman. Not forgiving..small things like that also fed up...affectionate in fornt of people for? For show ar? Lame..Originally posted by jnifur:Well...it all started when we were invited to a fren's BBQ.
After that he started to be very cold to me.
Refuse to tell me wat happened till I probed.
Turned out that he find the BBQ very F*** up because he say all the gals are sitting there enjoying and not helping.
Somemore he is angry at me for not being affectionate to him enough. Say I didnt serve him food, didnt give him drinks. After that he apologised to me and say he is vexed at home (some personal problems) and at work.
End up I jus wan to cool things down before I talk to him again. But he just wan to get things over and done with. Very impatient. But he say he is willing to wait, yet keep bugging me and reminds me of the old things again and again.
He want a decision to be made. So....no choice -
i'll drink to that~~cheers!Originally posted by browniebaobao:Just dump him lah.......He is just not a gentleman. Not forgiving..small things like that also fed up...affectionate in fornt of people for? For show ar? Lame.. -
its not reli advisable to tell others hu comes here to seek for advices for their relationship problems to dump his/her partner... Be affectionate to doesn't mean onli doin intimate things , doing simple stuffs like getting him food/drinks etc can be consider as loving too...Originally posted by browniebaobao:Just dump him lah.......He is just not a gentleman. Not forgiving..small things like that also fed up...affectionate in fornt of people for? For show ar? Lame..
Natually when we r not in a gd mood , we tend to flare up even for the smallest things , so haf gotta be understanding in tis case... And its pretty unrealistic to always be the gentleman , its tiring.... -
eh.....we all hurt the ones who love us mostOriginally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:its not reli advisable to tell others hu comes here to seek for advices for their relationship problems to dump his/her partner... Be affectionate to doesn't mean onli doin intimate things , doing simple stuffs like getting him food/drinks etc can be consider as loving too...
Natually when we r not in a gd mood , we tend to flare up even for the smallest things , so haf gotta be understanding in tis case... And its pretty unrealistic to always be the gentleman , its tiring....
what to do..what to do.....humans have thrived on suffering since the dawn of civilization....sometimes it's better to jsut drop everything and run........facing a problem head on may not always be the answer.... -
that's right
personally, i hate it when people come up and tell others to "dump him/her"..
it's a decision only the couple have the right to make... if there are no positive and helpful things to say, just walk away from the thread..
even if you think she should dump him, advise her to think properly and then do what she thinks is right..Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:its not reli advisable to tell others hu comes here to seek for advices for their relationship problems to dump his/her partner... Be affectionate to doesn't mean onli doin intimate things , doing simple stuffs like getting him food/drinks etc can be consider as loving too...
Natually when we r not in a gd mood , we tend to flare up even for the smallest things , so haf gotta be understanding in tis case... And its pretty unrealistic to always be the gentleman , its tiring.... -
then...got to ask you ppl.......am i talking out of point?
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I know it is not right to tell people to break off. But, if a relationship makes u very tired, then it's not love. Both parties have to be understanding, to give in, in order to make the relationship last.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:its not reli advisable to tell others hu comes here to seek for advices for their relationship problems to dump his/her partner... Be affectionate to doesn't mean onli doin intimate things , doing simple stuffs like getting him food/drinks etc can be consider as loving too...
Natually when we r not in a gd mood , we tend to flare up even for the smallest things , so haf gotta be understanding in tis case... And its pretty unrealistic to always be the gentleman , its tiring....
Flare up because of small things like that, can be forgiven..maybe really in bad mood. To repeat reminding her times and again is a torture! Torturing her, hurting her and it's like fan1 jiu4 zhang4.. -
it's not your definition, but is it right to judge her relationship with your standards and definitions?Originally posted by browniebaobao:I know it is not right to tell people to break off. But, if a relationship makes u very tired, then it's not love. Both parties have to be understanding, to give in, in order to make the relationship last.
Flare up because of small things like that, can be forgiven..maybe really in bad mood. To repeat reminding her times and again is a torture! Torturing her, hurting her and it's like fan1 jiu4 zhang4.. -
untold rule of forum no 1:no suggesting of breaking up.... u r not bearing the consequences of that decision r u?Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:its not reli advisable to tell others hu comes here to seek for advices for their relationship problems to dump his/her partner... Be affectionate to doesn't mean onli doin intimate things , doing simple stuffs like getting him food/drinks etc can be consider as loving too...
Natually when we r not in a gd mood , we tend to flare up even for the smallest things , so haf gotta be understanding in tis case... And its pretty unrealistic to always be the gentleman , its tiring.... -
we do hurt the ones hu love us most even if we do not noe it ourselves.... look on the positive side , ain't we singaporeans leading a better life ? run ? where can u run to ? even if u run away to some other places , the problem will still be there in ur mind... so i dun see the point....Originally posted by ZenShin:eh.....we all hurt the ones who love us most
what to do..what to do.....humans have thrived on suffering since the dawn of civilization....sometimes it's better to jsut drop everything and run........facing a problem head on may not always be the answer....
sheesh ~ pot calling the cattle black..... (btw , me saying myself
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jnifur just wish you all the best lah.....
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exactly..
easy to say, but you're not around to pick up the pieces...
that's why i hate organisational consultants too.. they tell people, pick up their cheque and then go away.. they have no stake in the organisation..
just like people have no stake in anyone else's heartbreak if they should break up..
going separate ways should be the right of only the couple.. and instigators of breakups? i'd be censored if i stated my opinion of them...Originally posted by harryryan:untold rule of forum no 1:no suggesting of breaking up.... u r not bearing the consequences of that decision r u? -
hard to say mah....some people find running off a better option?Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:we do hurt the ones hu love us most even if we do not noe it ourselves.... look on the positive side , ain't we singaporeans leading a better life ? run ? where can u run to ? even if u run away to some other places , the problem will still be there in ur mind... so i dun see the point....
sheesh ~ pot calling the cattle black.....
either that or be like me loh......hai~~~
ppl threaten you with suicide how?
tho i managed to talk her out of it.......i still wonder.... -
Well...it all started when we were invited to a fren's BBQ.
After that he started to be very cold to me.
Refuse to tell me wat happened till I probed.
Turned out that he find the BBQ very F*** up because he say all the gals are sitting there enjoying and not helping.
Somemore he is angry at me for not being affectionate to him enough. Say I didnt serve him food, didnt give him drinks. After that he apologised to me and say he is vexed at home (some personal problems) and at work.
End up I jus wan to cool things down before I talk to him again. But he just wan to get things over and done with. Very impatient. But he say he is willing to wait, yet keep bugging me and reminds me of the old things again and again.
He want a decision to be made. So....no choice
She said no choice leh.
Let her decide lor..Anyway...What is love nowadays anyway? True love can break up because of a small case like that meh? Just the guy being impatient and petty mah. -
wah.....I was off for dinner and got some debate here...oops
Seriously...I dunno wat to do now. Every bit of the advises helps. Thanks everyone. Maybe I dunno how to love. I dun deserved to have a bf after all lah.
I jus wan to cool off and let things settled down. I know I will still pin for him deep down inside my heart. Cried so much.......very tired both physically and mentally.
I'll just let nature takes its course. Certain things, if it is meant to be, it will be. Dun wish to do anything now. Just wan to rest a while and see how in a few weeks time.
Thanks everyone here. U guys and gals are a wonderful lot
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HeyOriginally posted by jnifur:wah.....I was off for dinner and got some debate here...oops
Seriously...I dunno wat to do now. Every bit of the advises helps. Thanks everyone. Maybe I dunno how to love. I dun deserved to have a bf after all lah.
I jus wan to cool off and let things settled down. I know I will still pin for him deep down inside my heart. Cried so much.......very tired both physically and mentally.
I'll just let nature takes its course. Certain things, if it is meant to be, it will be. Dun wish to do anything now. Just wan to rest a while and see how in a few weeks time.
Thanks everyone here. U guys and gals are a wonderful lot 
Im glad tt u r doing well. Cry all you want if you feel lousy abt eveything, shall feel better later.
YOu deserve to be loved by someone, n everyone learns to love another. If you have the chance now, juz remember not to throw it away
I broke off with my bf after i tried all my means. I told myself it was not meant to be coz i've tried all i can for the person I love & the r/ship i cherish. If you have done so, you'd feel better. 'Meant to be' is when you do something to help as well
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all the best~~~hope everything turns out alright~~Originally posted by jnifur:wah.....I was off for dinner and got some debate here...oops
Seriously...I dunno wat to do now. Every bit of the advises helps. Thanks everyone. Maybe I dunno how to love. I dun deserved to have a bf after all lah.
I jus wan to cool off and let things settled down. I know I will still pin for him deep down inside my heart. Cried so much.......very tired both physically and mentally.
I'll just let nature takes its course. Certain things, if it is meant to be, it will be. Dun wish to do anything now. Just wan to rest a while and see how in a few weeks time.
Thanks everyone here. U guys and gals are a wonderful lot -
everyone deserves to love and to be loved...
if he is not the one, then i hope you find him one day..
i wish you peace and happiness -
The greatest thing u ever learnt, is to love and be loved in return?
A phrase from Moulin Rouge -
in a way, yes... and if it does not work out, it's a painful lesson...
but love anyway, it's what makes us human
myself, learning to live with a broken heart... but there are no regrets.. my personal philosophy (written in here ad nauseum) is Love! and to hell with the consequences!
i hope you find happinessOriginally posted by jnifur:The greatest thing u ever learn, is to love and be loved in return?
A phrase from Moulin Rouge -
rite. yet the hardest thing to achieve n then to maintain.Originally posted by jnifur:The greatest thing u ever learnt, is to love and be loved in return?
A phrase from Moulin Rouge -
Love........I dunno wat is it ah....
Something that cannot be eaten lah.
hahahaha
I am getting hilarious.... -
if u r, i am too...Originally posted by jnifur:Love........I dunno wat is it ah....
Something that cannot be eaten lah.
hahahaha
I am getting hilarious....
well nvm, love is sth i dun u/stand, i will never but i'll learn to love each one who comes my way -
well said....Originally posted by reallieRAW:if u r, i am too...
well nvm, love is sth i dun u/stand, i will never but i'll learn to love each one who comes my way -
Sounds like a man who can't take a setback.
I think he just wanted more attention from you, but maybe its better for you. After all this kind of people, if they suffer a setback the person who would the most is their spouse for sure