My bf is gonna get married with another girl without love!!
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hai!!!
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Originally posted by curad:hai!!!
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5 yrs!!!n yet he asked 2 go out wif another fella n try out?excuse!!!he wana make his parents happy?n make himself sad?look gal....u got 2 look things on the rite side ok???he's trying 2 fool u!!!it's coz he noes u love him more than anyone else!!!!!he shld ^%&$**$&%!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!yr ex find u he angry,then the way he treat u u r not angry...HE"S TAKING FULL ADVANTAGE OF U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by Farahney:My relationship with my boyfriend is already 5 years. My problem is my boyfriend is gonna get married very soon (this year) with a girl whom he does not even really dating yet just bcoz his parents only wanted a chinese girl as their daughter-in-law.
My boyfriend is an engineer working with a German company in Singapore.His name is Wong Hoong Wern.Last night,he confess to me that he really loves me very much but he has to make more friends (girl of course) so that his parents is happy and he is recently dating 2 girls behind me. One of them is preety but jobless and the other one is slim and short but only work as an operator. Me myself is a degree student in one of the private college in Malaysia.
He also asks me to make new friends (boy of course) and try to date them. I really can't do this because everyone I met is not him. Recently, my ex-boyfriend contact me after so long and my bf seems to be jealous.You see...after 5 years of wonderful relationship without any big problem....suddenly this things happen.
But he said if his marriage is unsuccessfull and the same thing also happen to me,he will come back to me because he knows that I love him so much...I love him more than I love my own parents & sibblings....he always knew that....
Lastnight,he said to give ourselves a second chance to go out with another fella and he also wants to get married with any of the two chinese girl to make his parents happy.
Previosly,he agree to convert to my religion because he is a freethinker but now because of his his parents strong objection,he has to do this as he is the eldest son in the family and his younger brother already got married with a girl who is 8 years older than him and now his parents is very very upset. He is doing this only to make his parents happy.
Now I'm really upset and depressed and really don't know what to do to handle this case. I hope freinds out there could help me and give me some advice. Thank you. -
time does not conclude anything. but with GOd anything is possible.Originally posted by Parka:
To me, leaving to GOD would be equals to leaving to time. Where's the difference? -
Let's not get too religious here..? Afterall, this is not what this topic is all about...?Originally posted by oceanic:time does not conclude anything. but with GOd anything is possible. -
Hehe...Originally posted by Parka: Wah. Power lah, Yun. Got case study somemore! 
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Provided MUZ have faith in "god". If leave it to "him" but no faith... virtually wasting time...Originally posted by oceanic:time does not conclude anything. but with GOd anything is possible.
Besides... "wif "god" anything is possible"...?
U seem to be a christian or smth...
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(A bit outta topic & a bit sensitive...)Originally posted by Parka: I would leave it to TIME. I leave it to MYSELF. Not time nor "god". I dun wanna waste time OR let "god" control my life. I CONTROL my life. 
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Originally posted by loneryu00:(A bit outta topic & a bit sensitive...) I leave it to MYSELF. Not time nor "god". I dun wanna waste time OR let "god" control my life. I CONTROL my life.
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Its seems to me that your BF is a fillial son... so its quite a problem...unless he is willing to go against his parents... if not it'll be tough on u...u see him above everyone else but does he see u e same level too... if he sees his parents above u then its not up to u.
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Originally posted by oceanic:time.. hmm how much time? a few mths a few years still e same if he still choose to be with e other gal.. whereas lots of things depend on GOD and fate err..God and 'fate' don't mix leh.
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i think he's having you on.
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noted devil
yah i m a christian -
this is where filial piety has been used as a weapon...
so when does the responsibilities of a parent start? bringing a child into this world in order to control the child's life is NOT a parent's right... if they wanted something like that, they should have built a robot, not produced a child!
so, the bigotry and the selfish wants of parents destroyed the spirit and spine of their child.. and also destroyed the happiness of the poor girl, not to mention the would-be bride...
where is filial piety in this?
filial piety is a whole lot of BS... if the child was brought up right with the right values and morality, the parents would not need to even talk about it.. and the child would have the spine to stand up to them.. then, the parents would have succeeded...
now, it's an abject failure.. and look at the tragic consequences...
SCREW filial piety! it has degenerated into a filthy phrase...Originally posted by GIJOE:Its seems to me that your BF is a fillial son... so its quite a problem...unless he is willing to go against his parents... if not it'll be tough on u...u see him above everyone else but does he see u e same level too... if he sees his parents above u then its not up to u. -
Got it.Originally posted by oceanic:noted devil
yah i m a christian -
Actually I'm ok with all these things... It's just that I don't wish for them to turn into another meaningless religious debate or flaming...? Not among these threads please.....Originally posted by oceanic:noted devil
yah i m a christian
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he might be deeper than U think...but then again...I am not him...I dunno...Originally posted by Farahney:He is not a flirt type...I knew him very well...I also know and can catch hih when he's telling liars, when he is happy,sad or angry.. 
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This is how I see your situation as a gal. Sorry, for being harsh but no offence intended.
Firstly: u said he helped u pay for the study fees, hp bills and stuffs. To put it in another manner, maybe he's investing on u? Hoping to reap more than what he forked out initially?
Secondly: You said he'll travel all the way to see you every wk, then I just need to ask you this, during the time he didn't call you, didn't meet you, do you know what he's doing behind you?
Thirdly: You mentioned he told me he love u still but bcoz of parents he has no choice but to get a wife whom his parents like. It seems to me throughout the whole situation. HE is the one who told you everything, ranging from parents to the gals to the marriage.
Have you met the gals yourself before you completely trust what he said? Now everything seems so one-sided. He told you he didn't even date the gals, but how can you be sure???
I feel you've alot of trust in him. I don't know about this, but guts feeling tell me you placed your trust on the wrong person.
You also mentioned you can catch him lying, everything he does, doesnt fall beyond ur eyes.. hm.. but love is blind. Are you already too blinded by him to see clearly?
He wanted you to look for your 'next guy' and if things don't work out both for yourself and him, he'll take you back. This is rubbish to me. I can tell you straight in the face, this is just an excuse to break away from you.
To you he may be a nice goody-2 shoes.. sorry that's not how i see him. I'm not trying to be negative, but shouldn't you cast aside your trust in him for once and think about it thoroughly? If you cannot think it in a cool headed manner, then tell urself if your friend is in a position like yours, what can she do to lead a more deserving life?
No offence really, just my 2 cents. Take it with a pinch of salt please. -
Originally posted by ^cereal^:This is how I see your situation as a gal. Sorry, for being harsh but no offence intended.
Firstly: u said he helped u pay for the study fees, hp bills and stuffs. To put it in another manner, maybe he's investing on u? Hoping to reap more than what he forked out initially?
Secondly: You said he'll travel all the way to see you every wk, then I just need to ask you this, during the time he didn't call you, didn't meet you, do you know what he's doing behind you?
Thirdly: You mentioned he told me he love u still but bcoz of parents he has no choice but to get a wife whom his parents like. It seems to me throughout the whole situation. HE is the one who told you everything, ranging from parents to the gals to the marriage.
Have you met the gals yourself before you completely trust what he said? Now everything seems so one-sided. He told you he didn't even date the gals, but how can you be sure???
I feel you've alot of trust in him. I don't know about this, but guts feeling tell me you placed your trust on the wrong person.
You also mentioned you can catch him lying, everything he does, doesnt fall beyond ur eyes.. hm.. but love is blind. Are you already too blinded by him to see clearly?
He wanted you to look for your 'next guy' and if things don't work out both for yourself and him, he'll take you back. This is rubbish to me. I can tell you straight in the face, this is just an excuse to break away from you.
To you he may be a nice goody-2 shoes.. sorry that's not how i see him. I'm not trying to be negative, but shouldn't you cast aside your trust in him for once and think about it thoroughly? If you cannot think it in a cool headed manner, then tell urself if your friend is in a position like yours, what can she do to lead a more deserving life?
No offence really, just my 2 cents. Take it with a pinch of salt please.
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Yesterday,on my conversation with him....he said now he dont want to hurt both sides (myself & his parents)....so he decided to be a bachelor forever. Now he said, he don't want to see/date both of the girls (as I mentioned in my first story) and any other girls and will not get married for the rest of his life to make every one happy.
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I can't quite believe his words you know, frankly speaking.
How not to make everyone happy if he dont get married to the girl his parents like? By saying that he's going to remain a bachelor means they he's going break up with you? gosh...Originally posted by Farahney: Yesterday,on my conversation with him....he said now he dont want to hurt both sides (myself & his parents)....so he decided to be a bachelor forever. Now he said, he don't want to see/date both of the girls (as I mentioned in my first story) and any other girls and will not get married for the rest of his life to make every one happy. -
men suck!
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i concur..
in order not to make everyone miserable, he's going to make everybody miserable...
sheesh!
i think he lacks a spineOriginally posted by ^cereal^:I can't quite believe his words you know, frankly speaking.
How not to make everyone happy if he dont get married to the girl his parents like? By saying that he's going to remain a bachelor means they he's going break up with you? gosh... -
and all women are b1tches?
don't tar all with the same brush... it is an injustice ultimately to yourselfOriginally posted by poppi:men suck! -
Originally posted by poppi:men suck!