would u carry on loving a person if his/her parents hate u..
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erm ya lo...they look down on u..then its kinda hurt loz..but..the one u like is the girl ma..not her parents...
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tried to.... but it didn't work out... her parents didn't like the sight of me..Originally posted by Gary25:y not sit down and have a talk with her parents?
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some parents are like that....
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is money really impt.... why do ppl regect a person cos he doesn't hv the vitamin m?Originally posted by sh|nY_BoY: some parents are like that.... 
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hey.. itz realli sad to hear tt u r in such a situation..sometimes realli wonder y are some parents so money-minded?i mean no doubt havin alot of money wil make the world go round in some sense..however tt shldnt b the main focus here..they shld b glad tt their daughter is loved by such a nice man..well..some situation happened for a reason..perhaps itz jz an obstacle tt u haf to overcome..so jz fight fight fight all the way ya??i believe one fine dae the reward wil b beri fulfilling!!
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Originally posted by echandra:well the thing is that her parents are so money minded... her previous bf has got a car.... well i don't... her parents kept comparing me with him... they really looked down on me manz....
they even call my gf a slut..... saying dat she's blind in chosing me... despite all the insults, i still take care of her family. well i'm not earning much, but i still buy stuffs for her family occasionally....even gave her money to bring her mom to the doc when she's unwell. i'm not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but wat i have..... i give.......
With this correct attitude - all you freaking need is time, to eventually win this race. Don't get disheartened when things don't go your way - you WILL be fine
Good luck pal!
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Originally posted by echandra:well the thing is that her parents are so money minded... her previous bf has got a car.... well i don't... her parents kept comparing me with him... they really looked down on me manz....
they even call my gf a slut..... saying dat she's blind in chosing me... despite all the insults, i still take care of her family. well i'm not earning much, but i still buy stuffs for her family occasionally....even gave her money to bring her mom to the doc when she's unwell. i'm not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but wat i have..... i give.......
dun worry lah..actually hor..her parents are blind that's why cannot see she's not blind..can only hear and smell the car vroom vroom..cannot see a sincere heart..material comforts are but temporal and perishable..your perseverance is your asset to last you in your pursuit of success. -
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*faints*Originally posted by boy in blues: dun worry lah..actually hor..her parents are blind that's why cannot see she's not blind..can only hear and smell the car vroom vroom..cannot see a sincere heart..material comforts are but temporal and perishable..your perseverance is your asset to last you in your pursuit of success.
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hey this type of parent hor rali canot make it, they treat their daughter as a spinng money tree iz... no $$ no talk....Originally posted by echandra:well the thing is that her parents are so money minded... her previous bf has got a car.... well i don't... her parents kept comparing me with him... they really looked down on me manz....
they even call my gf a slut..... saying dat she's blind in chosing me... despite all the insults, i still take care of her family. well i'm not earning much, but i still buy stuffs for her family occasionally....even gave her money to bring her mom to the doc when she's unwell. i'm not born with a silver spoon in my mouth, but wat i have..... i give.......
thru it may seem veri discouragin, bt i want u to noe tt nt everi love story has a gd endin.. i sincerely wish tt u n ur gf will be 2gether despite parental objection, gd luck man..
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how long u have been together? maybe need a more few years (perhaps 5 yrs) to win over their trust.... they maybe get nothing to say if both off u carry on r/s for the long term.. good luckOriginally posted by echandra:would u carry on loving someone even though his/her parents look down on you? things that u r not able 2 give her happines.. -
the worst thing is that my gf told me her older sis said that the only way her family gonna let me marry her is that i've to give them 20k cash....... this is like a ransom... i'm already at my wit's end trying to save up 4 marriage, now this.....Originally posted by [S]tay:hey this type of parent hor rali canot make it, they treat their daughter as a spinng money tree iz... no $$ no talk....
thru it may seem veri discouragin, bt i want u to noe tt nt everi love story has a gd endin.. i sincerely wish tt u n ur gf will be 2gether despite parental objection, gd luck man..
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we've been 2gether 4 almost 3 yrs.... planning 2 settle down in 2yrs time... but looking at the current situations.. i wonder if its possible.Originally posted by millienium_bear:how long u have been together? maybe need a more few years (perhaps 5 yrs) to win over their trust.... they maybe get nothing to say if both off u carry on r/s for the long term.. good luck -
have faith
do what you have to do, try to improve your lot.. not for her folks but for herOriginally posted by echandra:we've been 2gether 4 almost 3 yrs.... planning 2 settle down in 2yrs time... but looking at the current situations.. i wonder if its possible. -
Originally posted by echandra:the worst thing is that my gf told me her older sis said that the only way her family gonna let me marry her is that i've to give them 20k cash....... this is like a ransom... i'm already at my wit's end trying to save up 4 marriage, now this.....
of course you must be joking right? this is really the ultimate, man! you gotta get your gf outta that insane family! what kinda background her family? -
RUBBISH.... As long as your gf's above 21 and a willing party... With just 2 witnesses, both of you can get MARRIED with OR without her parents' consent....?Originally posted by echandra:the worst thing is that my gf told me her older sis said that the only way her family gonna let me marry her is that i've to give them 20k cash....... this is like a ransom... i'm already at my wit's end trying to save up 4 marriage, now this.....
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i wish i was joking, but i'm not... i'm trying my best to get her out, but at the mean time, her parents still need her... i can't say anything to that. its a daughter's respondsibilities......Originally posted by boy in blues: of course you must be joking right? this is really the ultimate, man! you gotta get your gf outta that insane family! what kinda background her family? -
if it happened to me, i'd hold down 3 jobs to earn it, surviving on bread and water if i have to...
then go there, throw the money in their faces, and say: "I'm buying your daughter her freedom from her slavery. She is worth more than the world to me... I hope you're happy with the money, you greedy monsters."
walk out of there with her... cleaning the dust from my feet
since when was a daughter, any human being at all, to be counted in monetary terms??Originally posted by echandra:the worst thing is that my gf told me her older sis said that the only way her family gonna let me marry her is that i've to give them 20k cash....... this is like a ransom... i'm already at my wit's end trying to save up 4 marriage, now this..... -
true...but i guess any couple would wish to marry with the blessings of both sets of parents...i guess echandra is one of these pple....which explains the headacheOriginally posted by Devil1976:RUBBISH.... As long as your gf's above 21 and a willing party... With just 2 witnesses, both of you can get MARRIED with OR without her parents' consent....? 
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*CLAPS*!!!Originally posted by the Bear:if it happened to me, i'd hold down 3 jobs to earn it, surviving on bread and water if i have to...
then go there, throw the money in their faces, and say: "I'm buying your daughter her freedom from her slavery. She is worth more than the world to me... I hope you're happy with the money, you greedy monsters."
walk out of there with her... cleaning the dust from my feet
since when was a daughter, any human being at all, to be counted in monetary terms??
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the first thing i did was to impress her parents.
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Some people are NOT hungry... They're ALWAYS STARVING... How can ya expect to SATISFY such a DESIRE?Originally posted by Gary25:true...but i guess any couple would wish to marry with the blessings of both sets of parents...i guess echandra is one of these pple....which explains the headache -
dontknow why also lah..but to me is like..they dont want their duaghter to suffer with u lor..becos u`re poor or something...but what they bother so much.....both happy can liao ma....aiya....
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following your argument, stressing the children to pieces and into misery, scarred psyches and emotions is wanting them to be happy?
i think it's just the immaturity, selfishness and greed of the parents being disguised as "parental love"...
and the folks repeated this to themselves so many times that they believe it themselves...Originally posted by sh|nY_BoY:dontknow why also lah..but to me is like..they dont want their duaghter to suffer with u lor..becos u`re poor or something...but what they bother so much.....both happy can liao ma....aiya.... -
ever try with food ??? i mean .. bring delighted foods for them whenever you visit. sometimes it works. well.. it works for me.Originally posted by echandra:tried to.... but it didn't work out... her parents didn't like the sight of me..
is it because of race ? i mean you two are from diff. race or religion ??
does yr g/f ever try to explain to their parents and said all the good things abt you ?? i mean if yr g/f can convince them that u're the right one, they'd understand. or .. maybe most of the times you made yr g/f sad/cry/whatever that made her parents worried. if so.. no wonder they hate you. my parents oso hate (very very much) my ex-b/f since he made me cry more less 3 times a week (finally.. i hate him too).