shd i be DISAPPOINTED & UPSET with my bf...?
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Originally posted by Coco_Coco:hmmm a common case? how come? izit a normal human behaviour or just taking things for granted?
Somehow, I encounter several similiar cases. Its not about taking for granted - its about another source of psychological love error that one could have in love.
Difficult to explain, won't do it here. Anyway, let me guess - you and him had sexual relationship as well ya?
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it's really sweet and touching... all the best to both of you!Originally posted by ditzy:On the day we poured out our feelings we had for each other. I had to leave the country the next and come back a year later.
You can roughly imagine how she felt back then. So sad. Same went for me too.
For that past year, we could only communicate via phone and icq. Its not easy to communicate if you can't talk face to face. We had lots of miscomm and misunderstandings because of that. We quarreled, we argued, we nearly ended it all.
But both of us waited the past year before we could meet again.
Eventually, we got together again when I came back. She had waited for me all this time. For me, only for me. I'm sure you know how that feels.
I'll end the story here, i think its enough.
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she is very wei da loh... wait for u so long.... to a guy i think even more very touching loh.. cos usually guy wait for gal loh.... u r so fortunate to have her.... must treasure her...
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Thanks, but the sad thing is I have to leave her again for another year.Originally posted by Coco_Coco:it's really sweet and touching... all the best to both of you! 
I really treasure her. All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her. -
agree!Originally posted by Me0w Me0w:she is very wei da loh... wait for u so long.... to a guy i think even more very touching loh.. cos usually guy wait for gal loh.... u r so fortunate to have her.... must treasure her... -
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
NO NO NO! we don't have a sexual relationship... dun be mistaken... Somehow, I encounter several similiar cases. Its [b]not about taking for granted - its about another source of psychological love error that one could have in love.
Difficult to explain, won't do it here. Anyway, let me guess - you and him had sexual relationship as well ya?
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so sad u have to leave her again....Originally posted by ditzy:Thanks, but the sad thing is I have to leave her again for another year.
I really treasure her. All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her.
but if i were her i sad and happy loh.. sad bcos u leaving agin... happy cos u say those....." All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her" -
Originally posted by Coco_Coco:NO NO NO! we don't have a sexual relationship... dun be mistaken... Keep it that way, yet, until probably much later. At least, isn't as complicating. Things are straight forward and simple - learn to look upon it as it is.
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You have my blessings.Originally posted by ditzy:Thanks, but the sad thing is I have to leave her again for another year.
I really treasure her. All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her.
/me sprinkle raindrops on ditzy.
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all the best!Originally posted by ditzy:Thanks, but the sad thing is I have to leave her again for another year.
I really treasure her. All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her.
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Sincere thanks to all who shared my story. Coco_Coco, I wish you all the best in your r/s too. Dun worry too much and all will work out fine.
My gf was abit like how you described yourself earlier. But she eventually learned to accept the things that come to her in life.
Off topic, the reason why i'm leaving is whats keeping me from signing up for premier membership.
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both of us are still teenagers... we will not have a sexual relationship until at least we are over the age of 21. in the meanwhile, we still have problems to iron out and provide more stability and understanding to our rp...Originally posted by Yunhaier: Keep it that way, yet, until probably much later. At least, isn't as complicating. Things are straight forward and simple - learn to look upon it as it is. -
wishing coco and ditzy all the best..... -
thanks...Originally posted by ditzy:Sincere thanks to all who shared my story. Coco_Coco, I wish you all the best in your r/s too. Dun worry too much and all will work out fine.
My gf was abit like how you described yourself earlier. But she eventually learned to accept the things that come to her in life.
Off topic, the reason why i'm leaving is whats keeping me from signing up for premier membership. -
thanks!!!Originally posted by Me0w Me0w: wishing coco and ditzy all the best..... -
Originally posted by ditzy:Thanks, but the sad thing is I have to leave her again for another year.
I really treasure her. All I ask of her is to have the confidence that I'll be back only for her. to protect yourself, don't get your feelings too deeply involved before marriage. even a long lasting bgr or friendship can disintegrate just like that. 2 parties can be very sincere at 1 point of time. but time can change a person very VERY quickly. this is a very real world. all the best. -
Our r/s has reached a stage where it needs the end of this planet to put an end to us.Originally posted by boy in blues: to protect yourself, don't get your feelings too deeply involved before marriage. even a long lasting bgr or friendship can disintegrate just like that. 2 parties can be very sincere at 1 point of time. but time can change a person very VERY quickly. this is a very real world.
We are 2 very matured adults who know what we want in life and each other. Thanks for your concern. -
hmmm you have a very valid point here... always wondering how can a couple who were so in love with each other can change at some point in time... broken promises... disintegrated pact... i quite pessimistic about this actually...Originally posted by boy in blues: to protect yourself, don't get your feelings too deeply involved before marriage. even a long lasting bgr or friendship can disintegrate just like that. 2 parties can be very sincere at 1 point of time. but time can change a person very VERY quickly. this is a very real world.
sammi cheng's song 'mei li de wu hui' (beautiful misunderstanding) came to my mind here... the song is about a couple in a long term rp breaking up and sammi is singing about all the promises and pacts made before are just misunderstandings which are beautiful and romantic in an ironic way. -
that;s goodOriginally posted by ditzy:Our r/s has reached a stage where it needs the end of this planet to put an end to us.
We are 2 very matured adults who know what we want in life and each other. Thanks for your concern.
sometimes i really ponder deep and hard on what i want in life and from my rp with my bf... but i always can't come up with substantial answers.... -
Originally posted by ditzy:Our r/s has reached a stage where it needs the end of this planet to put an end to us.
We are 2 very matured adults who know what we want in life and each other. Thanks for your concern. ok. no problem. my advice is to marry her asap. this real world can be a real scam sometimes. -
hmmm.... has something like this happened to you before?Originally posted by boy in blues: ok. no problem. my advice is to marry her asap. this real world can be a real scam sometimes. -
actually marriage doesn't guarantee the couple will be together forever.... cos there's always a word called 'divorce'....Originally posted by boy in blues: ok. no problem. my advice is to marry her asap. this real world can be a real scam sometimes.
when people change, when their hearts change, a marriage cert and vows wun be able to hold them together too -
Marriage is in our books. But it ain't a simple affair. Marriage can't solve r/s problems either. For some, it could mean the start of bigger problems to come.Originally posted by boy in blues: ok. no problem. my advice is to marry her asap. this real world can be a real scam sometimes.
Its easy to say, but to contemplate something at this level is a totally different matter. -
Originally posted by Coco_Coco:that;s good
sometimes i really ponder deep and hard on what i want in life and from my rp with my bf... but i always can't come up with substantial answers.... you should know him better 1st. btw, my opinion about him was too harsh especially since i do not know him personally. because i'm not in a good mood. he probably didn't mean to break his promises to you but rather wanted to make you happy at the point of time when he made those promises. he probably intended to keep them when he made them, but eventually forgot over time or didn't have enough money.