matter of insecurities
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Originally posted by icyprincess:hehe I tot u MIA already...thank you for coming back to reply to this thread of mine
Anyway good advice I realize I have been closing my heart for quite sometime now, especially after the failed attempt with my ex-crush. So somehow I was afraid to commit myself to another person because I was afraid of loving someone too much again, because it will only mean I will get hurt just as badly as before...
But I remmeber what Devil1976 mentioned in one of his "enlightening" post, about the 4 ppl we will meet in life. Devil1976, thank you for posting that thread. Because somehow it makes me understand more now...I know now here is someone who has always been waiting for me patiently, someone who sees me beyond my flaws..someone who is willing to stand by me when I am happy or sad. Seeing him is like seeing myself in the past. Before I have given so much, maybe I gave it to the wrong person...but maybe this time..I would have a chance finally to give it to someone who would cherish it...
He is giving me a lot of chances now. I do not want to miss out those chances. So I think I will take the risk and go with it...maybe it is time for me to open my heart to someone else now...I have grieved enuff.
i.c.y
P/S: And yea, you are right on why I chose this nick when i first came here 
My last post would be on Thurs silly.
Love, is all or nothing. If you need time to recover, close whatever channels you have to mend your wounds. When you decide to love again, give everything. Don't have to calculate 67.245% giving, 32.755% playing safe - it usually doesn't work this way. (Unless AOS is involved)
P.S:
To love and win
Is the best thing,
To love and lose
Is the next best thing
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hehe..sorry I must have missed that part about your last post is on Thursday.Originally posted by Yunhaier: My last post would be on Thurs silly.
Love, is all or nothing. If you need time to recover, close whatever channels you have to mend your wounds. When you decide to love again, give everything. Don't have to calculate 67.245% giving, 32.755% playing safe - it usually doesn't work this way. (Unless AOS is involved)
P.S:
To love and win
Is the best thing,
To love and lose
Is the next best thing
Cheers
I think now I am ready to give it a try. I mean, I have no more regret now. Since I have confessed my feeling to my ex-crush and everything...I feel like I am ready to move on.
Here's to a brand new life. Wish me luck!
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Cheers to your brand new life!Originally posted by icyprincess:hehe..sorry I must have missed that part about your last post is on Thursday.
I think now I am ready to give it a try. I mean, I have no more regret now. Since I have confessed my feeling to my ex-crush and everything...I feel like I am ready to move on.
Here's to a brand new life. Wish me luck!
i.c.y
Cheers -
Accept yourself for who you are first.Originally posted by icyprincess:Why do I always feel so insecure??
I am always worried that even if I find someone who really like me one day, he might have a change of heart. Because once he saw all the flaws in me, he would think I am not so perfect after all. I always strive to hide the bad sides of me but I guess they will show sometimes. Especially when I start to let down my guard, when I have really fallen for a person..I would start to assume that it doesn't matter. But maybe it does...
I am really bad at expressing my feelings. I might act like an ice queen even if I really like someone. This had happened once to me when I was in high school. He was my first love. And he liked me too. But because I was too shy to give him any kind of encouragement...he decided to let me go and started to go after another girl. That was my first taste of pain in love...
I do not want this to repeat itself again.
I liked a guy and told him that I liked him- he freaked ...but I was direct and true to myself. So I said what the heck ...I might as well find someone who can accept all my faults and my strengths and never looked back since. I don't have a guy now but I have a cat who loves me unconditionally for bringing her up and she never argues with me ...cept for a MEOW!. -
Yeah...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Love, is all or nothing.
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Yeah... But REMEMBER... Life would probably not be a constant state...?Originally posted by icyprincess:hmm..this bothers me this morning..it makes me realize that he does matter to me after all..
but just talked to him just now..see my earlier on reply...
mebbe this time I will have a chance of finding someone who is true to me after all...
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It's not written by me... I just saw it from my e-mail and decided to post it... If you want, you can thank the person who wrote it....?Originally posted by icyprincess:But I remmeber what Devil1976 mentioned in one of his "enlightening" post, about the 4 ppl we will meet in life. Devil1976, thank you for posting that thread. -
Dear icyprincess,Originally posted by icyprincess:Why do I always feel so insecure??
I am always worried that even if I find someone who really like me one day, he might have a change of heart. Because once he saw all the flaws in me, he would think I am not so perfect after all. I always strive to hide the bad sides of me but I guess they will show sometimes. Especially when I start to let down my guard, when I have really fallen for a person..I would start to assume that it doesn't matter. But maybe it does...
I am really bad at expressing my feelings. I might act like an ice queen even if I really like someone. This had happened once to me when I was in high school. He was my first love. And he liked me too. But because I was too shy to give him any kind of encouragement...he decided to let me go and started to go after another girl. That was my first taste of pain in love...
I do not want this to repeat itself again.
Noone is perfect in this real world.. How can you possibly find someone who is so perfect.. even if there is.. Would you really want it??? You have seen many many threads in AA about ppl feeling insecurities and fearing this and that.. And i oso did saw some of your posts.. You can tell people how they should or can do for their love life/ relationship.. But then why do give yourself a chance to do so also..
Don't hide yourself in the shell.. You are hurt once doesn't mean that you have to shut the door and and keep yourself in a small space not wanting to know what's the world outside.. Have more comfidence in yourself... Don't be too negative.. This not only lead to insecurities.. but oso your happiness.. You won't feel happy in anyway..
Bad at expressing feelings.. well me too.. you can chose to wirte a small note to express yourself if you ain't good at speaking.. you jus have to learn to open yourself more.. Expose yourself more to the world... Intereact with people around.. If you don't wish that history will repeat.. then learned from it! You never learn you never move on.. you never realised what is wrong..
P.S.: Remember is time to move out of your shell.. peel off your old skin and start new.. Don't keep hiding in the world of yourself only..
CHeers..
Open your arms to change, but don't ever let go of your values! -
in another thread, i think princess is going to go for it!
everyone, wish her luck and pray for her! -
Hi.. Many of us noe that by being secure or insecure, it plays an impt part in our lives, not only in relationships.. Being secure will enable you to do something with much more confidence instead of thinking it over and over again with sometimes no results coming out of it.Originally posted by icyprincess:Why do I always feel so insecure??
I am always worried that even if I find someone who really like me one day, he might have a change of heart. Because once he saw all the flaws in me, he would think I am not so perfect after all. I always strive to hide the bad sides of me but I guess they will show sometimes. Especially when I start to let down my guard, when I have really fallen for a person..I would start to assume that it doesn't matter. But maybe it does...
I am really bad at expressing my feelings. I might act like an ice queen even if I really like someone. This had happened once to me when I was in high school. He was my first love. And he liked me too. But because I was too shy to give him any kind of encouragement...he decided to let me go and started to go after another girl. That was my first taste of pain in love...
I do not want this to repeat itself again.
Anyone of us has our pros and flaws.. Its how pple look at it.. To you, it may seem a flaw and that you may feel not good abt it.. But to another party, he/she may find that its ok and acceptable.. It does not really matter if you have thousand of flaws.. If that person really likes you and you have feelings for the other party, nothing will stop you 2 from falling in love..
Don't let a disadavntage in you stop you from doing things you like.. You still have your strengths.. Its how you look at it and utilise it. -
thanks evone for the reply
I no longer feels that insecure already now. Part of it is thanks to him. He said I deserve all the attention and care and doesn't understand why I feel so inferior most of the time. I have not shared with him yet all my past "injuries" and pain, so maybe he would not understand for quite sum time...then he told me that I am a unique individual in my own right so I asked him how am I special? He said I am funny, I make him laugh, that I am beautiful and I should stop thinking otherwise.
Then he decided to bring me out next next Friday (after all of our exams are safely over) to this show that I have been wanting to watch for sometime but never go to it cos I dun have enuff money lor
Told me that hopefully that would cheer me up and said that this is one of my advance birthday presents (cos he wudnt be here in decemeber when I celebrate my 21st birthday, he would be back home )
Indeed the sweetest guy I have ever known in my life until now. Maybe the time has come for me to forget my fears and just go for it.
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go go go!!Originally posted by icyprincess:thanks evone for the reply
I no longer feels that insecure already now. Part of it is thanks to him. He said I deserve all the attention and care and doesn't understand why I feel so inferior most of the time. I have not shared with him yet all my past "injuries" and pain, so maybe he would not understand for quite sum time...then he told me that I am a unique individual in my own right so I asked him how am I special? He said I am funny, I make him laugh, that I am beautiful and I should stop thinking otherwise.
Then he decided to bring me out next next Friday (after all of our exams are safely over) to this show that I have been wanting to watch for sometime but never go to it cos I dun have enuff money lor Told me that hopefully that would cheer me up and said that this is one of my advance birthday presents (cos he wudnt be here in decemeber when I celebrate my 21st birthday, he would be back home )
Indeed the sweetest guy I have ever known in my life until now. Maybe the time has come for me to forget my fears and just go for it.
i.c.y -
GO for it.. I'm sure you can handle this! Good luck to ya!!Originally posted by icyprincess:thanks evone for the reply
I no longer feels that insecure already now. Part of it is thanks to him. He said I deserve all the attention and care and doesn't understand why I feel so inferior most of the time. I have not shared with him yet all my past "injuries" and pain, so maybe he would not understand for quite sum time...then he told me that I am a unique individual in my own right so I asked him how am I special? He said I am funny, I make him laugh, that I am beautiful and I should stop thinking otherwise.
Then he decided to bring me out next next Friday (after all of our exams are safely over) to this show that I have been wanting to watch for sometime but never go to it cos I dun have enuff money lor Told me that hopefully that would cheer me up and said that this is one of my advance birthday presents (cos he wudnt be here in decemeber when I celebrate my 21st birthday, he would be back home )
Indeed the sweetest guy I have ever known in my life until now. Maybe the time has come for me to forget my fears and just go for it.
i.c.y
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will do so..and will be back with a report of how evthing goes.Originally posted by the Bear:go go go!!
seems like everyone around me is also very intereted whether I would give him a chance or not...my roomie and his bf must have asked me like 10 times today..
i.c.y -
thanksOriginally posted by SunRisE:GO for it.. I'm sure you can handle this! Good luck to ya!! hope i will be able to handle this..dun wan to hurt sumone who is so nice to me...
i.c.y -
well, people do careOriginally posted by icyprincess:will do so..and will be back with a report of how evthing goes.
seems like everyone around me is also very intereted whether I would give him a chance or not...my roomie and his bf must have asked me like 10 times today..
i.c.y -
yea, esp abt this kinda thing. i tink they are curious bcos apparently this guy has been after me since last year and I haven't given any finite answer yet...Originally posted by the Bear:well, people do care
i.c.y -
Originally posted by icyprincess:thanks hope i will be able to handle this..dun wan to hurt sumone who is so nice to me...
i.c.y -
Don't worry lahhh u be okie icy...but try to focus your studies at US also ohhh... your parents pay u to go US to study and get good grades not find a hubby...(unless a rich hubby kua)hehhehehe...Originally posted by icyprincess:hehe I tot u MIA already...thank you for coming back to reply to this thread of mine
Anyway good advice I realize I have been closing my heart for quite sometime now, especially after the failed attempt with my ex-crush. So somehow I was afraid to commit myself to another person because I was afraid of loving someone too much again, because it will only mean I will get hurt just as badly as before...
But I remmeber what Devil1976 mentioned in one of his "enlightening" post, about the 4 ppl we will meet in life. Devil1976, thank you for posting that thread. Because somehow it makes me understand more now...I know now here is someone who has always been waiting for me patiently, someone who sees me beyond my flaws..someone who is willing to stand by me when I am happy or sad. Seeing him is like seeing myself in the past. Before I have given so much, maybe I gave it to the wrong person...but maybe this time..I would have a chance finally to give it to someone who would cherish it...
He is giving me a lot of chances now. I do not want to miss out those chances. So I think I will take the risk and go with it...maybe it is time for me to open my heart to someone else now...I have grieved enuff.
i.c.y
P/S: And yea, you are right on why I chose this nick when i first came here -
i'm thinking... "lucky guy!"Originally posted by icyprincess:yea, esp abt this kinda thing. i tink they are curious bcos apparently this guy has been after me since last year and I haven't given any finite answer yet...
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of cos i focus on my studies oso la..dats y i din go out with him until next next friday after all my exams are over ma..Originally posted by ahmike:Don't worry lahhh u be okie icy...but try to focus your studies at US also ohhh... your parents pay u to go US to study and get good grades not find a hubby...(unless a rich hubby kua)hehhehehe...
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haha..actually I am thinking.."lucky girl.."Originally posted by the Bear:i'm thinking... "lucky guy!"
i.c.y -
Ahahaha...okie lah... both also lucky loh... fair right???...Originally posted by icyprincess:haha..actually I am thinking.."lucky girl.."
i.c.y
Love-Dun be a giver or taker but be a Sharer...heheheh -
yea now it is fairOriginally posted by ahmike:Ahahaha...okie lah... both also lucky loh... fair right???...
Love-Dun be a giver or taker but be a Sharer...heheheh hehe..
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hmmmm just noticed something when reading icy post...when in college/uni its easier to find dates...compare to working life.Originally posted by icyprincess:yea now it is fair hehe..
i.c.y
Now working life its like required to have fren recommend gals or vice versa... unless going to club/pub lah.