Cheated on BF with his good friend last night...
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Hi Eagle,
Believe me, i had sat down with him many times to talk about what i desire... i even risk downing his ego by telling him how i feel in bed (gently though)...
But all he said was," sorry" for the bed stuff which i think it's not really his fault... and when i suggested getting a vibrator, he got unhappy... I know it isn't easy for a guy to get "replaced" by a piece of plastic, and so, i shut up...
As for the "going-on-dates" part.. i'd been saying it from gentle tone to joking, to whining to screaming.... none worked... -
1) You can always get a vibrator without him knowingOriginally posted by guilt-stricken:Hi Eagle,
Believe me, i had sat down with him many times to talk about what i desire... i even risk downing his ego by telling him how i feel in bed (gently though)...
But all he said was," sorry" for the bed stuff which i think it's not really his fault... and when i suggested getting a vibrator, he got unhappy... I know it isn't easy for a guy to get "replaced" by a piece of plastic, and so, i shut up...
As for the "going-on-dates" part.. i'd been saying it from gentle tone to joking, to whining to screaming.... none worked...
2) How about taking the initiative? Movies you buy the tickets first. Go to his house to pull him out... btw, is he addicted to gaming? -
I planned a date once and it was my last...
I made a card and put it against his computer and on it i wrote," Dinner at Fish & Co. at 7pm tonight... Love you..."
At 5pm or 6pm plus (i forgot), he called me and told me to go home coz he had raid that night... (if you play world of warcraft you'd know...)... -_-" -
ok so?
big deal, i wasted my 20 sec reading this thread -
This is really bad..but l can tell u, if ur guy noes this, u sure die one...
no guys can tolerate a gal cheating on him..if it is me, no matter how much l love my gal, she did this kind of thing wif another guy, 1 tight of slap and is over..throw away riaos
hmm, u complain abt ur guy 30 secs come, then did u tink abt urself, who noes he might complain inside his heart that ur body is not to his satisfaction.
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I know i sure die one.... That's why it'll remain a secret forever...Originally posted by xShevchenkox:This is really bad..but l can tell u, if ur guy noes this, u sure die one...
no guys can tolerate a gal cheating on him..if it is me, no matter how much l love my gal, she did this kind of thing wif another guy, 1 tight of slap and is over..throw away riaos
hmm, u complain abt ur guy 30 secs come, then did u tink abt urself, who noes he might complain inside his heart that ur body is not to his satisfaction.
And well, i wished he dun find me hot so that maybe he wouldn't come so fast? :p -
And then you wasted another 20 secs to post this...Originally posted by allentyb:ok so?
big deal, i wasted my 20 sec reading this thread
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hmm but to me la..l tinkOriginally posted by guilt-stricken:I know i sure die one.... That's why it'll remain a secret forever...
And well, i wished he dun find me hot so that maybe he wouldn't come so fast? :p
if u intend to keep a secret from him, and take this secret to ur grave..wont ur conscience keep bugging u all the time?
secondly even if u managed to keep this secret fro him, u sure u being fair to a person u like?
Thirdly, l hope u ask urself la..what if such scenario happens on ur bf? will u forgive him? if the answer is No, l hope u giv him the rights to noe abt this matter..at least giv him a chance to decide whether he want to be wif u, (but in most cases la..is wont)
l am a guy, and l noe all these de..no normal guy will be able to tolerate such nonsenses. Even if he manage to forgive u, nxt time, when quarrelling, he sure use this excuse to shut u up de
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And be sure abt this theory
"what comes around goes around"
u did a grave mistake this time, who noes, whether nxt time u will kana the same fate anot?
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Yet another insensitive post from allentyb. You know what? You wasted another 10sec posting a reply.Originally posted by allentyb:ok so?
big deal, i wasted my 20 sec reading this thread
You should stop that "attitude" of yours because it is just obnoxious. -
Hmmm.
Its good that u realise ur mistakes early and regret.
i knw its very hard to keep it a secret.
For it to be concealed W has to have very tight lips, but if its isnt tight enough, it may leak out in a drunken stupor when he is with ur BF. By then u will have to prepared for the worse.
So u have to be very careful. -
Hmm l still tink TS shld be honest and clean abt this matter bah
altot ppl often says sum secrets are best to be left untold, but plz lor.. if u and ur partner cant be true to each other, what is the use of this r/s? -
This is wad u get when u are in love with a gamer.Originally posted by guilt-stricken:I planned a date once and it was my last...
I made a card and put it against his computer and on it i wrote," Dinner at Fish & Co. at 7pm tonight... Love you..."
At 5pm or 6pm plus (i forgot), he called me and told me to go home coz he had raid that night... (if you play world of warcraft you'd know...)... -_-" -
If my intention now is to keep him and never to do this again... Should i still tell him? Wouldn't it be something that will be between us for the rest of our lives? Would it be better if i keep it a secret but make it a point NEVER to do it again?
I know i have broken something very precious, TRUST.... If he knows about it, we'll never be the same again, would we? -
IT DOESN'T MATTER WHEATHER YOU ARE GOING TO REPEAT THAT MISTAE AGAIN OR NOTOriginally posted by guilt-stricken:If my intention now is to keep him and never to do this again... Should i still tell him? Wouldn't it be something that will be between us for the rest of our lives? Would it be better if i keep it a secret but make it a point NEVER to do it again?
I know i have broken something very precious, TRUST.... If he knows about it, we'll never be the same again, would we?
HE HAS AND DESERVE EVERY RIGHT TO KNOW WHAT U HAVE DONE
USING WHAT U ARE GOING TO LOSE TO JUSTIFY YOUR REASON OF HIDING YOUR BLUNDER IS CHEAP
HOW RELEVANT AND RIGHT IS IT FOR A ROBBER TO SAY HE SHOULD BE LET OFF BECAUSE HE NEEDS TO FEED A FAMILY? -
Caps lock button broken?Originally posted by boka:IT DOESN'T MATTER WHEATHER YOU ARE GOING TO REPEAT THAT MISTAE AGAIN OR NOT
HE HAS AND DESERVE EVERY RIGHT TO KNOW WHAT U HAVE DONE
USING WHAT U ARE GOING TO LOSE TO JUSTIFY YOUR REASON OF HIDING YOUR BLUNDER IS CHEAP
HOW RELEVANT AND RIGHT IS IT FOR A ROBBER TO SAY HE SHOULD BE LET OFF BECAUSE HE NEEDS TO FEED A FAMILY? -
There are 2 sides to this:Originally posted by guilt-stricken:If my intention now is to keep him and never to do this again... Should i still tell him? Wouldn't it be something that will be between us for the rest of our lives? Would it be better if i keep it a secret but make it a point NEVER to do it again?
I know i have broken something very precious, TRUST.... If he knows about it, we'll never be the same again, would we?
If ur intention is to keep it then keep it. But u will have to keep it as a secret for the rest of ur life and nvr do it again that is u if u wanna keep this relationship as it is. Rmb Not only ur relationship with ur bf but ur bf relationship with his good friend will also be affected if u tell him.
But then if u tell him, the relationship may take a turn for the worse or it maybe better. The worse case senario is that he could not take it and break with u and u will nvr see him again. The better senario is that he could have taken it in a diff way. He will maybe get pissed at u for a long period of time till he could finally accept the fact that u did it cos he couldnt satisfy u and reconcile with u, maybe he will work with u on his premature. That is a more positive thinking but it would take a very gracious bf to do it. A broken vase will still have hairline cracks no matter how well u super glued it.
Thats all i can say to u. -
NOOriginally posted by guilt-stricken:Caps lock button broken?
I'M TELLING U THAT U CAN HAVE ALL THE EXCUSES YOUR CREATIVE MIND CAN MAKE UP BUT THAT ALL DOESN'T MATTER CUZ YOUR BF DESERVE THE TRUTH.
AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH U GONNA LOSE AFTER TELLING SHOULDN'T BE AN AFFECTING FACTOR OF YOUR DECESION TO ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES.
LIKE I SAID,ADMITING ONE'S FAULT HAVE BEEN TAUGHT SINCE YOUNG UNLESS UR PARENTS SUKS AT DOING SO. -
not for her to chose but for her bf to.Originally posted by seotiblizzard:There are 2 sides to this:
If ur intention is to keep it then keep it. But u will have to keep it as a secret for the rest of ur life and nvr do it again that is u if u wanna keep this relationship as it is. Rmb Not only ur relationship with ur bf but ur bf relationship with his good friend will also be affected if u tell him.
But then if u tell him, the relationship may take a turn for the worse or it maybe better. The worse case senario is that he could not take it and break with u and u will nvr see him again. The better senario is that he could have taken it in a diff way. He will maybe get pissed at u for a long period of time till he could finally accept the fact that u did it cos he couldnt satisfy u and reconcile with u, maybe he will work with u on his premature. That is a more positive thinking but it would take a very gracious bf to do it. A broken vase will still have hairline cracks no matter how well u super glued it.
Thats all i can say to u.
i don't care about what the outcomeis,justice still have to be served.
wrong acts=punishment -
if she keep it the bf wont knw wad.Originally posted by boka:not for her to chose but for her bf to.
i don't care about what the outcomeis,justice still have to be served.
wrong acts=punishment
so that is for her to choose.
but if she tells him then its for the bf to choose. -
OK I GOT UR POINT AND I ACCEPT WHAT YOU SAY AS YOUR POINT OF VIEW. BUT MAYBE YOU'D LIKE TO IMPROVE ON YOUR LANGUAGE AND LEAVE PARENTS OUT OF YOUR POSTS.Originally posted by boka:NO
I'M TELLING U THAT U CAN HAVE ALL THE EXCUSES YOUR CREATIVE MIND CAN MAKE UP BUT THAT ALL DOESN'T MATTER CUZ YOUR BF DESERVE THE TRUTH.
AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH U GONNA LOSE AFTER TELLING SHOULDN'T BE AN AFFECTING FACTOR OF YOUR DECESION TO ADMIT YOUR MISTAKES.
LIKE I SAID,ADMITING ONE'S FAULT HAVE BEEN TAUGHT SINCE YOUNG UNLESS UR PARENTS SUKS AT DOING SO.
COZ FOR ALL IT MATTERS, YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS WITH MY PARENTS AT ALL.
IT'S PERFECTLY ALRIGHT TO FLAME A THREAD WHEN THE TS DESERVES IT, BUT DO IT IN A MATURE WAY TO HONOUR YOURSELF.
AND ALSO YOU MIGHT WANT TO ASK YOURSELF AS WELL IF YOU HAD CONFESSED TO EVERY MISTAKES YOU HAD DONE SINCE YOU WERE A KID.
I AM FINE WITH PEOPLE GETTING AT ME FOR DOING SUCH A TERRIBLE THING TO MY BF, BUT I CAN'T STAND IT WHEN YOU R TRYING TO SOUND LIKE A SUPER HERO SAINT HERE...
THANK YOU.
BTW ARE YOU 14 YET? -
U admit your mistakes and then not commit them in the future and not hide the mistakes and tell yourself there's no more next time.Originally posted by seotiblizzard:if she keep it the bf wont knw wad.
so that is for her to choose.
but if she tells him then its for the bf to choose. -
I'M 18 AND I'M NOT BEING A SUPER SAINT.Originally posted by guilt-stricken:OK I GOT UR POINT AND I ACCEPT WHAT YOU SAY AS YOUR POINT OF VIEW. BUT MAYBE YOU'D LIKE TO IMPROVE ON YOUR LANGUAGE AND LEAVE PARENTS OUT OF YOUR POSTS.
COZ FOR ALL IT MATTERS, YOU HAVE NO BUSINESS WITH MY PARENTS AT ALL.
IT'S PERFECTLY ALRIGHT TO FLAME A THREAD WHEN THE TS DESERVES IT, BUT DO IT IN A MATURE WAY TO HONOUR YOURSELF.
AND ALSO YOU MIGHT WANT TO ASK YOURSELF AS WELL IF YOU HAD CONFESSED TO EVERY MISTAKES YOU HAD DONE SINCE YOU WERE A KID.
I AM FINE WITH PEOPLE GETTING AT ME FOR DOING SUCH A TERRIBLE THING TO MY BF, BUT I CAN'T STAND IT WHEN YOU R TRYING TO SOUND LIKE A SUPER HERO SAINT HERE...
THANK YOU.
BTW ARE YOU 14 YET?
I HAVE A PERSONAL CODE WHICH I ABIDE TO.
ANOTHER OPTION FOR U IS..
IF ONE DAY YOUR BF HAVE AN AFFIAR OUTSIDE,U MUST FORGIVE HIM AND THAT JUSTIFICATION WOULD STEM FROM YUR PAST ACTIONS.
FAIR?
CUZ I HATE IT WHEN THERE IS NO JUSTICE. -
The crux of the matter is that your secret is already in a very shaky position. Two people know the secret, you and W. Although you can answer for yourself, who knows whether W will leak out the secret in the future many years down the road over a few cans of cheap beer. Will this destroy your marriage? Assuming you intend to get married to your current bf that is.
Another thing is that there is no chemistry in your relationship with your bf. Hence the itch to stray. What you are probably feeling now is that you owe your bf something. Love isn't about obligation or whatever...it is supposed to be a happy thing. You're happy together with the person. You do things together. Housework, playing computer games, hanging out or going shopping. -
rather i believe the crux of this isse is about telling the bf what she has done.
she might lose her bf in the process,creates more complexity and tarnish her image but so?
When one does something wrong,they should say admit their blunder and not make excuses like what if he leaves me,what if friendship between the 2 friends are lose.
These don't matter.
Only thing that matters is your boyfriend has been given justice.
I can imagine her bf still in the dark and being with a friend who had tried to take advantage of his gf and also being with a gal who has been touched.
now where's the puke smilies?