Do women their hide sexual history?
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You probably might be equally disappointed if his answer is YES..? Cause a MALE VIRGIN nowadays is INDEED a RARE species!!Originally posted by shan_cai:Dun mind if a ger replies over here ya?
Actuali when i was wif my bf i oso wanted v much 2 ask him, but didnt haf e courage 2... Until a few wks ago i msg him n ask him if he's a virgin b4 we did tat thing together. His ans was NO. Maybe he's open or wat loh, but i felt disappointed somehow... He stil said he oso dun mind if im not a virgin. But b4 i gave it 2 him he knew tat i was loh... Den stil sound like i lied 2 him or wat.
But i nv regret givin my 1st time 2 him coz i reali love him alot. Wat i regret is askin him tat ques... I agree itz better not 2 noe loh. But i reali reali felt disappointed loh. Now itz oso hard 2 find a guy who's a virgin lah... Haiz... Suan le... Im tryin 2 4get it n try not 2 let it reflect on our current relationship. As u ppl said, everyone's got a past, but wat matters most is e present loh...
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ya..it's ok if the gal does not tell u her past. ..or you dont intend to know her past because u lot claimed that you love her sooooo muchi that you dont mind her past..ok i get your point... Ignorance is a bliss...hahah what happened if your best/close friend or your friends' friends had a wonderous nite together with yr current gf before she becomes yr gf??
Wah...how will you react when yr buddies tell u this that they tasted yr gf be4 and later the news spread like fire..even yr families know?? I bet u lot will consider your gf as temporary partner until you find a better one.huh? -
To Burt: If you have nothing to share, dont just F**k around. I 'm not interested if my english is grammatically correct or not....I'm not here to write essays..but pls dont come in here and type bull that your english is good enuf to F**K people around.
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exactly! i dont wanna know but what if someone tells me things... wah piang! better if i had known right?Originally posted by chaicka:But bear in mind, "paper cannot wrap a fire"...It is worst to discover it thru someone else than to him/her personally. -
Originally posted by swallowed:Do women hide their sexual history when they get together in a proper relationship? Like one-night stands, group sex, phone sex, etc? if virgin..nothin 2 hide
if not..use scotchtape.. -
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i agree wif u....but smtimes im juz so curious wat she has been doin b4...but to tell the truth...if u cant take it...then better dun try to find out....if not will turn out like wat u said...it will constantly haunt u........Originally posted by King Fisher:Ha... better to be in the dark then know everything. Then every single time you are free, then you will think of the stuff she did with other guys and whether she will do again behind you.............. hee -
im on the side of cguy and crazykoala....Originally posted by CrazyKoala:History is part of her dude!
Contradiction!
u guys r so cool...say tat if u really love her...juz let the past go...love her and not her past....yes there is truth in this
but tink abt it...a person's past depicts wat kinda of a person he or she is....so whiteillium is contradicting himself....cos everybody has history and its indeed part of them...and smtings u juz cant send to the recycle bin and hit the delete button...
to each his own...but for me...i whd take this into consideration....and if she has been sleeping ard...then she's not the one i wanto marry and hv kids wif....which is oso part of the reason y ppl say u dun usually end up marrying the one u really love... -
i dun believe these kind r really considered as mistakes....at the age when they r hving sex...they shd be young adults oredi...and answerable to their own actions....Originally posted by chaicka:Everyone has a past, and there is nothing to be ashame about.
Loving a person ain't juz worrying about his/her past but should be worrying about things in current and future...
Com'on....who dun make mistakes, we are afterall humans and not saints...What matters most between two person is being able to be frank and communicate with their heart. Everyone has their little secrets, telling it or not to ur partner is a choice of individual. But bear in mind, "paper cannot wrap a fire"...It is worst to discover it thru someone else than to him/her personally.
they wanto hv fun during their youth...by all means go ahead...but dun cover their own ass by saying they were not mature enuf and made mistakes.....they know the full consequences b4 committing the acts.....but they oso cant blame ppl when they judge u from ur past....juz do wat u like...cos nobody can force u to do wat u dun wanto do....and be answerable for it...dun gv stupid excuses or push the blame.. -
Well, I am a virgin before i gave it to my gf who happened to be a virgin too!
And I will stay with her to the end of time and not go fool around or find another girl. Nope, i wont shag with another girl!Even if the other party gave herself to me!
And I really do mind if that girl has slept with others before. My apology girls, it's really my thinking though. That's why i really wont sleep around either! -
Yup, kawa... We share e same tinkin. As mentioned in my postin at pg1, im oso a virgin b4 givin it 2 my bf. But he doesnt turn out 2 b a virgin too loh... Mi not like u so fortunate. Haha.Originally posted by kawa:Well, I am a virgin before i gave it to my gf who happened to be a virgin too!
And I will stay with her to the end of time and not go fool around or find another girl. Nope, i wont shag with another girl!Even if the other party gave herself to me!
And I really do mind if that girl has slept with others before. My apology girls, it's really my thinking though. That's why i really wont sleep around either!
I oso wont go foolin ard my bf's back, n i do mind abt my bf's past loh, seriously.
1 thing i wanna say is, if u reali love n wanna b wif tat person, meanin u consider marryin him/ her, u shd at least haf an understandin abt his/ her past. U wont wanna regret makin e wrong decision n end up divorcin or wat rite... -
To ShanCai
That's correct Miss Shan Cai. But will u submit urself to a guy who is super good than ur bf?
What i mean that mayb ur bf has rating 6, this guy got 9. He's got money, buy u small gifts and flowers everyday, see u at work everyday as he's ur colleague, got car to send u home, go makan together where he offers to pay. He's a gentleman and dont mind that u r not a virgin.
Moroever, u feels that ur love with ur bf has died off. And he really listen to u when u confide in him and u are attracted to his good looks and good body and character(loving and caring).
Qn: Would u break off with ur current bf?
If u ask me this qn, I would be a bit moved, tempted but i yet to met this case myself, so really unable to say that i would be steadfast with the relationship of me and my gf. -
me same tactic. but diff situations.. i ask my bf whether he got how many partners.. 6 ex.. 2 pros = 8 partners.. after this i noe tt he visited prostitues.. i abit sianzation liao.. but haiz.. i mean he got all the best thing frm geylang liao.. doing it wif mi ish like no longer special. i dun haf their boobs, looks, skills, body.. of coz i felt i lost out... but regardin the topic, i wun hide my sexual history..
/me dun like to lie..
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Originally posted by CrazyKoala:Seriously I will mind her past.I'm not so heroic as some of ya to be able to accept her cos I really love her and all that bullshit.
If she has been sleeping around then she's just not the girl I'm looking for.Simple as that.
Question is ... do/did YOU sleep around
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Honestly i think it would unrealistic to say that if you love a person you wont mind his/her past cause whether you like it or not you will be affected by it.
Yes should love a person for who he/she is but i guess sooner or later the past is going to catch up with us. Can you honestly say that if your gf/bf told you they had a thing with another one of your friend or something alike that you wouldnt be affected? I will not hate the person but i sure will be affected it by it emotionally...
It takes great courage and alot of trust for a person to revel their sexual history to their partners but when that person does its a good sign that hes/shes willing to open their selfs up to u and you should be greatfull -
if u love her should accept lor as long or she remain faithful while with u..it doesen't matter what she did in the past..cos is now u n her 2gether n the past.
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Everythings is a choice, slping with alot of guys/gers watever. I think that women shld be honest abt their sexual history, i thought that trust was important in a relationship. Just let it out and see how the guy feels, i mean if he were to find out 1 day and you all have a heated argument over it and break up. Won't it be better if he knew in the beginning and you never started?
Whats the pt, don't tell me you feel good hiding abt your past from someone you want to wake up and see everyday -
I don't really agree with the above statement. From what I see, romantic love usually doesn't last very long between couples. After marriage, the 'love' turns more into mutual trust and respect. Also read somewhere that there's where kids come in. With children, both parties would have a common goal to strive for and hence keep the marriage together.Originally posted by can'tgetover:if u love her should accept lor as long or she remain faithful while with u..it doesen't matter what she did in the past..cos is now u n her 2gether n the past.
Therefore I feel that if any party can't accept their gf/bf's past, a break would be most appropriate. All this stuff on if you really love her you should accept her past and all that is usually unsustainable in the long-run. As stated in some of the previous posts, a person's past is important as that determines his/her present state and has a great influence on his/her future. It would also be a guage on the person's character and moral integrity. -
kawa u r still a child...can c from ur replies....Originally posted by kawa:If u ask me this qn, I would be a bit moved, tempted but i yet to met this case myself, so really unable to say that i would be steadfast with the relationship of me and my gf.
And I will stay with her to the end of time and not go fool around or find another girl. Nope, i wont shag with another girl!Even if the other party gave herself to me! -
Hi, it seems to me everyone likens someone who is not a virgin is someone who sleeps around. However, if the girl or even guy, for that matter, sleeps only with his/her partnet, then I think its OK. Look at it this way. You are currently having sex with your partnet (not married). So, it doesn't make any sense if you do not accept that person initially just because he/she is not a virgin. One more thing, a non virgin does not equal someone who sleeps around, if they only sleep with the partner they once love.
As for the question, I don't have any sexual history to hide. And, I don't know if I mind if my bf is not a virgin. -
Doing wif Pros is not Making Love, it's pure Having Sex.Originally posted by `wAwA`:me same tactic. but diff situations.. i ask my bf whether he got how many partners.. 6 ex.. 2 pros = 8 partners.. after this i noe tt he visited prostitues.. i abit sianzation liao.. but haiz.. i mean he got all the best thing frm geylang liao.. doing it wif mi ish like no longer special. i dun haf their boobs, looks, skills, body.. of coz i felt i lost out... but regardin the topic, i wun hide my sexual history..
/me dun like to lie..
There is a great difference. I dun noe about other guys, but I can SWEAR the feeling of making love is never comparable with having sex...even if the ger has great tits, nice butt, good skills....nothing compares to LOVE MAKING. -
Nice one...How abt if she is unfaithful while being with u. Will u forgive her?Originally posted by can'tgetover:if u love her should accept lor as long or she remain faithful while with u..it doesen't matter what she did in the past..cos is now u n her 2gether n the past. -
Nope it's not childish but it only reflects the moral value, discipline and culture instilled and inculcate into u since young by ur parents, teachers and elders...Originally posted by dookie:kawa u r still a child...can c from ur replies....
I can say that remaining faithful is a form of moral value, so far as i can c from my parents, relatives and gf parents. -
my gf n I dun lie, I sleep around so she oso sleep around............................................... wif each other.Originally posted by swallowed:Do women hide their sexual history when they get together in a proper relationship? Like one-night stands, group sex, phone sex, etc?
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hmm......gers dun mean to hide...but bear this in mind will guys mind..and answer is 99 % mind...even if they say they dun mind...
and wat and when is the best time to tell their partners.... noo definate asnwer.... depends alot on ur relationship and situation.....
so just say in appropriate time..... and u feel needed....