I hate my BF!!!
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dun think ur relationship is that shallow right?
just some vulgarities and u thought of breaking up. do u feel ashamed to even think of that?
i am not saying that he is right in throwing vulgarities at u. vulgarities have been like part of the guy's speech since we learnt abt it. u should feel good that he had not scolded any vulgarities since when he got together with u.
it just a spur of anger that he unwittingly sprouted those words. its hurting we know but the best solution is just tell him how u feel. sit down, have some coffee and talk things out.
we dunno what the other party likes of dislikes until he/she communicated their "preferences". be glad that he is still treating u fine. u should be more forgiving and liberal.
good luck! all the best and a good morning!
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jus showing my temper when he reply me qns like dun wan to reply like tat lo.....Originally posted by shaunlaw: slap? wat did u say to him or do to him tt make him want to slap u? -
is tt really all? u nvr say anything other than tt? cos it seems tt hes really angry.Originally posted by whoofwhoof:jus showing my temper when he reply me qns like dun wan to reply like tat lo..... -
no pt digging the arguement up and making her more frustrated. just hoped our advices rubbed on her.
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what quarrel?Originally posted by shaunlaw:Dun start another quarrel lah!! -
wat have u done to make him tat angry??...i think he said tat cos he's really mad, but doesnt really mean wanna slap u lar...Originally posted by whoofwhoof:i forgot to add in jus nw... actually he wanna to slap me tat day after i show my temper to him. he said" if u r nt my gf, i definitely will slap you"...
anyway, tell him u feel hurt n ask him not to do tat again... -
quite normal to see a guy having such behaviour.. i think u can consider yourself lucky that he never really slap u..
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whoof....
if your bf tells you that he'll slap you if you not his gf... then this is something worrying... first, what if one day he doesn't think you're his gf anymore, will he really slap? think you really have to talk to him about this... but then again, if he's already giving you an indifferent attitude when you talk to him, why waste your time to even talk to him...
maybe its about time you move on.... not rubbing it in, but if you will ever post your pic here, trust there may be a lot more sensible and understanding guys out here. I think the 3 yrs has really grown into the 2 of you. He thinks he's owned you enough to say these to you, while you've been with him long enough to think you can throw your temperaments to him anytime assuming he should bear with it.
sit down, find out how much the two of you still feels for each other. When you realise that the "fire" in the 2 of you has died down... look elsewhere.... but if there are still hopes to relinquish the hopes and the fire, explain to him how you felt and make him understand how it feels when
1) when he talks to you, you give him the SBC attitude (Simply Boh Chap)
2) when he gets upset and you still tell him that you'll slap him if not because of bf/gf relationship
3) screw him with lots of vulgarities...with assortments of languages...
You must know how to let him understand without doing the same thing back to him.... in a relationship, nothing helps when you are vengeful...
cheer up.... you can tell there are still lots of people out there who will listen to you and cares.... -
ouch what crappy advice. stop doing ppl into ur twisted world.
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wow edseeker31 u explained until very "luan". i 100% agree with T-711 that u r talking crap man!!!Originally posted by edseeker31:whoof....
if your bf tells you that he'll slap you if you not his gf... then this is something worrying... first, what if one day he doesn't think you're his gf anymore, will he really slap? think you really have to talk to him about this... but then again, if he's already giving you an indifferent attitude when you talk to him, why waste your time to even talk to him...
maybe its about time you move on.... not rubbing it in, but if you will ever post your pic here, trust there may be a lot more sensible and understanding guys out here. I think the 3 yrs has really grown into the 2 of you. He thinks he's owned you enough to say these to you, while you've been with him long enough to think you can throw your temperaments to him anytime assuming he should bear with it.
sit down, find out how much the two of you still feels for each other. When you realise that the "fire" in the 2 of you has died down... look elsewhere.... but if there are still hopes to relinquish the hopes and the fire, explain to him how you felt and make him understand how it feels when
1) when he talks to you, you give him the SBC attitude (Simply Boh Chap)
2) when he gets upset and you still tell him that you'll slap him if not because of bf/gf relationship
3) screw him with lots of vulgarities...with assortments of languages...
You must know how to let him understand without doing the same thing back to him.... in a relationship, nothing helps when you are vengeful...
cheer up.... you can tell there are still lots of people out there who will listen to you and cares.... -
i agree with striker83 and T-711, look, if u wan ppl to read and understand wat u writing, pls at least divide it into paragraphs... one big piece of words puts ppl to sleep.. i din even bother to read it....Originally posted by Striker83:wow edseeker31 u explained until very "luan". i 100% agree with T-711 that u r talking crap man!!! -
for the past 3 years, he has been the one who keep giving in to u? for guys to use vulgarities is quite usual but depends on the "degree" of wat vulgarities that he had used.. but rather u have to sit down and think whether are u in the wrong?
mabbe he is not in a good mood or wat... have a tok with him.. dun just because of a vulgarity or wat den tink of a break up... 3 years relationship definitely a long time.. and u shld understand him well...
remember.. guys also have tempers one wor.. not onlie we gers ..
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everyone has a limit...maybe during these 3 yrs,he feel tt he has enuf of yr nonsense?sorry if i'm wrong..so he gets very frustrated???Originally posted by whoofwhoof:my bf scold me vagurities which is the 1st tiime he said so after 3yrs plus being together. i wanna a break up but it is non-mature way of doin. if you r in my shoes, wat'll u do? i cant supress my anger nor the hurt in my heart... i hate him!!!
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i think you should forgive him cause, sometimes for us guys, to see someone throwing their temper especially after we also not had a good day is really very tiring , its like "wah lau, i so tired i accompany u, then u treat me this way ??? " try to spend a thought for ur bf cause when u throw ur temper just like that, how will he feel??? u want him to spare a thought for u , spare a thought for him first lah!!!! dun throw ur temper over un nucessary things... throwing ur temper doesnt only make u get noticed, it makes us go "" SIANNNNnnnnn , shes doing IT AGAIN !!!!! " surely...... thats not the kiind of attention u want right ?????
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come me teach u some vulgar to scold him back
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well, it's good that you admit that you are wrong in the first place. But we are ONLY hearing one side of the story.....so to give you the benefit of doubt...........Originally posted by whoofwhoof:my bf scold me vagurities which is the 1st tiime he said so after 3yrs plus being together. i wanna a break up but it is non-mature way of doin. if you r in my shoes, wat'll u do? i cant supress my anger nor the hurt in my heart... i hate him!!!
I would recomemend that you say a sorry to him, just a simple sorry....over the phone or meet up with him. DON'T tell him that "it's is wrong to scold me Valgur Language" or " it's wrong to threaten to slap me". SIMPLY, don't correct him. We guys have big ego and it's a big mistake that you start out bysaying our faults together with the apology; like chewing on our ego and protraying yourself that you are still right and all the apology by you are just for publicity.
Let him decide the next move.....
1)If he is a gentleman and and regret what is has done, he will apologise to you and treat you nicely afterwards........yos, that's your bf!
1) If he just apologise briefly and nothing else, let just say he has behaviour problem dealing with gals........(Sam Seng).
2) If he doesn't apologise, man, your relation is on the tip of the egg!
*Some people have difficulties expressing themselves, and probably when you show your temper, that's when he cracks and unleash all his furry on you. Doesn' mean that he totally at fault, just that it's the wrong person and the wrong time* -
hey peppermint! 2 points!!!tingting..!!Originally posted by Peppermint:i think the guy should leave u...since the relationship is so fragile such that just profanity will make u consider thinking of breaking up
haiz..relationship are so fragile nowadays... -
U ah ..... Very bad. xiao long nu should learn to be gentle.....Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:come me teach u some vulgar to scold him back -
Originally posted by Xiao Long Nu:come me teach u some vulgar to scold him back
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shaun, t-711 & striker... nothing personal.... but I think the confused ones are you guys...
this topic is posted by whoof... advise is to go to her.... but you guys are giving me your advise? wake up man... If you ain't got nothing better to write...then don't waste our time.... keep your comments to yourself if you think its not going to help the situation..
thats why girls always think we men are insensitive... here's one classic example. When someone needs the consoling and advise, you guys add salt to the wound by commenting on other people and forget the host. -
shaun...
come to think of it... if you had not read... how the hell did you know that what was said has been confusing and not para-phrased sequentially.....
sad....you're a sad man that does not understand of feelings of others.... both of whoof and the person you commented.
since you cannot contribute to any good advise here...why bother to come here and complain of others?
get a life and start something yourself.... maybe how about me giving you one? TYPICAL SINGAPOREAN: CRITICS - they will only criticise others but never circumspective and reflect upon themselves... -
like what they say....
Are you here for a solution?
or...
Are you the root to the problem? or....
maybe you guys are only here for gate-crashings....
Shaun, T-711 & Striker... you go into every topic and only comment on others? I'd wish you'd contributed something constructive here instead... but what can we expect from you?
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this is wat happens wen u dnt go aunt agony to ask for r/s advice. bar fight...
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HOw can he say " slap u not his gf" so other girls he can slap lar..but maybe u push him too far so guy finally lose it!we are living in stressful times u know..
well, forgivenss is answer..up to you..So many threads I forgot ur name n who u are liaoz..hey come to think of it..where am I ah?>
shucks..i tot i was in CAR forum...
HArrrrrr hAHAHAHAHA..
hey peppermint..tink!! 4 points buddy!! -
what a contradictory bastard. aint u doing the same f*ucking thing trying pull s*hits over us. if u read i did post some advice though not necessary useful to her. and which s*hit full eyes of urs see us posting nothing in other threads except commenting on how others write their posts?Originally posted by edseeker31:like what they say....
Are you here for a solution? or...
Are you the root to the problem? or....
maybe you guys are only here for gate-crashings....
Shaun, T-711 & Striker... you go into every topic and only comment on others? I'd wish you'd contributed something constructive here instead... but what can we expect from you?
read the post b4 u post something. and from what i read, u only set to aggravate the situation instead of making it better. if u are not happy abt me, start a thread and start b*itching abt me and for godsake dun ever reply here again.