what if i suspect my ex & his frenz raped me?
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GREAT.... Can't see a SH|T?Originally posted by darrendon:The story below is taken from a website.
Joey, Please look foward and don't look backwards...
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hey joey can u juz make a post to let us know u didn't take ur own life?
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too late..
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darrendon your story quite nice wor. War... so much chinese, font so small, very diff to read.
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Joeytay,
can you please put your ex-bf name here???...at least let the other gals know who he is...
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i donno why some ppl don believe u. but in case its true. why don u phone ur ex's parent or pay them a visit and ask them if that day did their son bring some male frens home. and i don think this incident is ur fault becos u are drunk. u were drunk maybe becos u felt secure dat ur bf is around u, u tot he can protect u even if u are drunk. it is not ur fault. remember dat. so please don commit suicide. juzz becos u thrust the wrong man doesnt mean death.Originally posted by joeythay:all,
wat if this is true??? i was drunk & was brought to my ex's home, which i was blind-folded....... ...etc...... :*(
everyone noe dat a bank contain alot of money, does it mean if they were rob, its the bank fault becos they a rich?
same with rape case lah if ger dress sexy, is it their fault if they are rape?
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hmmm i beg to differ, a bank has alot of money becos pple deposit their money there, the bank can't say "dun deposit money here becos i dun wanna b robbed". but if a gal dress sexy, its totally her own choice and she has herself to blame for being a "bait" for the rapist.Originally posted by Son:i donno why some ppl don believe u. but in case its true. why don u phone ur ex's parent or pay them a visit and ask them if that day did their son bring some male frens home. and i don think this incident is ur fault becos u are drunk. u were drunk maybe becos u felt secure dat ur bf is around u, u tot he can protect u even if u are drunk. it is not ur fault. remember dat. so please don commit suicide. juzz becos u thrust the wrong man doesnt mean death.
everyone noe dat a bank contain alot of money, does it mean if they were rob, its the bank fault becos they a rich?
same with rape case lah if ger dress sexy, is it their fault if they are rape? -
Originally posted by F.O.S:nothing much we can help, but advise you to change your charecter.
1) you say he is your ex
2) & disgustingly enjoyed tat session.
if he is your ex, or after that you break off with him, this only happens 1 month ago, you enjoy ?
I wonder how old are you, if you don't know how to protect yourself there were be worst on the way.
rite on bro....!!!! play this pitiful victim here...she shudnt be drunk in the first place...
For your own good, please love yourself. Can't beleive you can choose a boyfriend like that in the first place. -
After reading all the previous entries, i feel very sorry for u facing this kind of problem at such a young age. ( Looking at her profile she is only 18 this year.) But... Ending your life is not a good way to solve the problem... u are just trying to escape from the fact, u will regret for sure... And i would like to tell u, partly oso also your fault. U really shouldn't get so drunk.. and shouldn't go clubbing and pubbing at such a young age... ( looking at her profile, her hobbies are clubbing and pubbing ) Hiaz... Girl u are too young... u are not mature enough to take up responsibility. i know it is cruel to said it... but i want to tell u, learn your lesson from this incident... learn to protect and love yourself more.. pls... If u really can solve this problem, forgot this incident and lead a new life... U WILL BE A STRONGER PERSON. God bless u...
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If this really happened you have to report it to the police, there is a chance you could get molestation charges if not rape charges.. against every person at the party..( I am assuming you somewhat know at least whom you were with before the blindfold was put on )
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aiyah its better to report to police.
Don't let those idiot xiao yao fa why
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I guess she is gone, let this thread ends.
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Havent lar... i check the obiturary columns everyday... dun ve young gals dying ler....She havent commit suicide lar. Or rather she wasnt discover yet?Originally posted by F.O.S:I guess she is gone, let this thread ends. -
Originally posted by TrAnQuILiTy:Havent lar... i check the obiturary columns everyday... dun ve young gals dying ler....She havent commit suicide lar. Or rather she wasnt discover yet?
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x 2.Originally posted by chguy:Joeytay,
can you please put your ex-bf name here???...at least let the other gals know who he is...
Let's name and shame that bloody bastard(s)....
please name that barstard sonofabeatch right here. reply leh. i believe you...... -
x 2.Originally posted by chguy:Joeytay,
can you please put your ex-bf name here???...at least let the other gals know who he is...
Let's name and shame that bloody bastard(s)....
please name that barstard son-of-a-beatch right here. reply leh. i believe you.... -
i'm willing to bet that the chance of that happening would be lesser by 75% if she listened to good advices. i may sound harsh.. but i'm really tired of giving good advices to whores who don't give a hoot, thinking that its old fashion ideas, or i'm square, or wtf. then get into trouble, then come here whining abt wanting to commit suicide.Originally posted by Prasang:Such thing happen already still scold until so jia lat!
Crazy ah!
Make pple feel worse rite.
Whether or not it's her fault, an unfortunate incident had happened.. pple made mistake, and by the way it's MADE (past tense) and scolding is not going to change anything in the past.
Even u at home u do something wrong your mother socld u also will du lan rite.. it's like "wtf! then dun do also do liao u kpkb i also bo bian!" isn't it like wat's done cannot be undone..
So,
We should look forwards and not backwards, y not say things that can help her move on instead of rubbing salt into her wound to inflict more pain in her???
simple equation, don't wanna get raped? don't invite that sorta attention, don't sleep around, save yourself for marraige. do that, chances of trouble are reduced so much more. but does anyone listen? no~ so serves her right if its true. -
you really got check obituary is it? or just joking only? anyway, suicide victims are not as hard to find as murder victims.Originally posted by TrAnQuILiTy:Havent lar... i check the obiturary columns everyday... dun ve young gals dying ler....She havent commit suicide lar. Or rather she wasnt discover yet? -
though i haven't the darnedest clue what you could possibly be grinning at, i gotta agree with you that even if a girl dresses in a way beyond legal dress code, it can't amount to pointing a gun at a guy to rape her. i mean, every tax-paying citizen's gotta feel secure and free to at least dress as they deem comfortable without some horny guy going out of control right? so if i leave my wallet on my desk, somebody else's the right to just grab something they know very well doesn't belong to them? how can there ever be any excuse for the rapist? obviously the rapist's gotta bear 100% of the blame. the girl's 100% the victim to be sympathized with.Originally posted by Son:i donno why some ppl don believe u. but in case its true. why don u phone ur ex's parent or pay them a visit and ask them if that day did their son bring some male frens home. and i don think this incident is ur fault becos u are drunk. u were drunk maybe becos u felt secure dat ur bf is around u, u tot he can protect u even if u are drunk. it is not ur fault. remember dat. so please don commit suicide. juzz becos u thrust the wrong man doesnt mean death.
everyone noe dat a bank contain alot of money, does it mean if they were rob, its the bank fault becos they a rich?
same with rape case lah if ger dress sexy, is it their fault if they are rape? -
Originally posted by TrAnQuILiTy:Havent lar... i check the obiturary columns everyday... dun ve young gals dying ler....She havent commit suicide lar. Or rather she wasnt discover yet?
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Originally posted by Devil1976:GREAT.... Can't see a SH|T? ...........X 2
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just 2 share something here... i got 1 fren who was rape about 3mths ago.. after hearing the incident, i got very pissed off and brought her to the police.. after questioning her and everything, she was brought to a hospital for medical checkup and results were proven thaT she had sex.. investigations went on and about a mth after that the police brought her to a lie detector test.. she failed the test and the guy passed the test.. she could not charge the guy in the end, she was devastated.. i brought her to the police 1 week after the rape happen.. police could not find evidence against that guy.. my fren's bra and panty were lost and could not be found..
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U really DO NOT know how to comfort a ger in sadness and facing alot of stress, dont u? So wat even if u are tired of giving good advices? If u are then just shut up and dun give. Y speak and then complain u are tired of giving??Originally posted by dumbdumb!:i'm willing to bet that the chance of that happening would be lesser by 75% if she listened to good advices. i may sound harsh.. but i'm really tired of giving good advices to whores who don't give a hoot, thinking that its old fashion ideas, or i'm square, or wtf. then get into trouble, then come here whining abt wanting to commit suicide.
simple equation, don't wanna get raped? don't invite that sorta attention, don't sleep around, save yourself for marraige. do that, chances of trouble are reduced so much more. but does anyone listen? no~ so serves her right if its true.
No matter how tired or how sick we are of giving watever advices, no matter how many times we haf to repeat it, we stil haf to do it to help others. Look, ppl in this society depends on one another. Like it or not, u may haf to ask for help one day from someone. So do her a favor, if u dun wan to give gd advices, at least dun speak things to make her more sad. Use ur brain a little and dun let it get rusty!! -
i disagree wif u. if u leave ur wallet ard and it gets snatched, u are partly to blame for giving the robber a chance to do it, same goes for the rape, if the gal dress sexily, she is partly to blame for attracting tt kinda attention, so no one is 100% to blame or 100% to b sympathized wifOriginally posted by boy in blues:though i haven't the darnedest clue what you could possibly be grinning at, i gotta agree with you that even if a girl dresses in a way beyond legal dress code, it can't amount to pointing a gun at a guy to rape her. i mean, every tax-paying citizen's gotta feel secure and free to at least dress as they deem comfortable without some horny guy going out of control right? so if i leave my wallet on my desk, somebody else's the right to just grab something they know very well doesn't belong to them? how can there ever be any excuse for the rapist? obviously the rapist's gotta bear 100% of the blame. the girl's 100% the victim to be sympathized with.