This good good GAL and its just ME
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seems like only u dun have this kindda problems.... so many "WIVES"Originally posted by sgboy2004:love...wat is love?
haiz...another love sick...wish u good luck
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Hmm,.... how cpme this thread is not close yet......haha
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I share the same sentiment as you (bro night young) but it happens to me in a different way tats all.
Anyway the taught of it can still hurt me and bleed me from inside... you noe.
For about four years now I am too busy to think of it and all these could be a blessing in disguise my friend. Be firm and be yourself bro nightyoung.
Cheers!
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Sighed..... when i said that i want to let go.. i think and miss her more... what's got into me???Originally posted by WSL:I share the same sentiment as you (bro night young) but it happens to me in a different way tats all.
Anyway the taught of it can still hurt me and bleed me from inside... you noe.
For about four years now I am too busy to think of it and all these could be a blessing in disguise my friend. Be firm and be yourself bro nightyoung.
Cheers!
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the more wives u have the more problems u have...Originally posted by shirurinu:seems like only u dun have this kindda problems.... so many "WIVES" -
its just like parents and kids.. the more u want to control the more u cant!
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Anyone can teach me how to let go??Originally posted by lolsuck:its just like parents and kids.. the more u want to control the more u cant!
or am i really trapped ??? -
im facing the same problem too..but i think i just play along till someone comes in to replace her..
another way is to not have contact with her.. but can u do it? i cant~ -
Anyone can teach me how to let go??
or am i really trapped ??? [/b][/quote]
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Hello, wake up and face it.
When such things cross your mind again try telling yourself "I don't like what I am becoming"? Be yourself as in, be what you have been before the unwanted memory. Unless you want this event to haunt you? Keep busy with other activity that is of your interest...
Just my one cent worth of contribution.
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she sms me today.... and i replied...Originally posted by lolsuck:im facing the same problem too..but i think i just play along till someone comes in to replace her..
another way is to not have contact with her.. but can u do it? i cant~ -
bro, maybe u just do how u feel,depending on mood if can try to treat her like a good fren like what im doing now.. once a while got feeling.. just let it be.. i mine that.. and she agreed... now life is much better
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bro,Originally posted by nightyoung:Anyone can teach me how to let go??
or am i really trapped ???
u have 2 options, either u forget abt all of this and move on with ur life knowing that this will never happen at all and consistently tell ur self that or u go ahead and persue wat ur heart wants.
u have already tried to forget her and know that u can do it, its only when she sms u or when u see her then u start to imagine stuff and like how it would turn out. theses are the thoughts that make u sad and depressed as you also know that she is not yours.
but u also see the small spark of light at the end of the tunnel. if u choose to walk towards the light hoping to reach wat ur heart wants then u better have a bullet proof game plan were u are ready for all obsticles.
women know then guys are deperate and lack of confidence and that is wat they dun like and that is the thing that causes them to no look at u twice. a man of confidence and shows that he is in control( need not be the situation but at least him self) will make them look more then twice.
let me give u an example. something u can relate to. lets says she msg u and u dun reply, wat are the chances that she will be wondering y u did not reply? if u were to reply her, that would be doin the expected. not replying would be doin the not expected.
well thats alot of crap to take in. any way no matter how u still have to decide on which road u want to take b4 any one here can give u proper advise. no one is goin to tell u which road to take cos at the end of the day, its ur life and u will be the one walking it.
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Thanks for the advise..Originally posted by Dodobirdie:bro,
u have 2 options, either u forget abt all of this and move on with ur life knowing that this will never happen at all and consistently tell ur self that or u go ahead and persue wat ur heart wants.
u have already tried to forget her and know that u can do it, its only when she sms u or when u see her then u start to imagine stuff and like how it would turn out. theses are the thoughts that make u sad and depressed as you also know that she is not yours.
but u also see the small spark of light at the end of the tunnel. if u choose to walk towards the light hoping to reach wat ur heart wants then u better have a bullet proof game plan were u are ready for all obsticles.
women know then guys are deperate and lack of confidence and that is wat they dun like and that is the thing that causes them to no look at u twice. a man of confidence and shows that he is in control( need not be the situation but at least him self) will make them look more then twice.
let me give u an example. something u can relate to. lets says she msg u and u dun reply, wat are the chances that she will be wondering y u did not reply? if u were to reply her, that would be doin the expected. not replying would be doin the not expected.
well thats alot of crap to take in. any way no matter how u still have to decide on which road u want to take b4 any one here can give u proper advise. no one is goin to tell u which road to take cos at the end of the day, its ur life and u will be the one walking it.
cheers
She sms me again... and i replied. this time i ask what she was doing and i replied. .. and wish her good nite.....
On my way back, i saw a funeral process goiing on under the void deck and think of how life is so miserable..... husband or wife... in the end.. either one of them will go and be lonely again... come to think of it... we only live once.. and i really want to let er know how i feel but everytime i saw her bf in her phone/wallet or when her bf called.. I kept mum and treat it as nothing has happened.....
What if i die somehow..... ?? or under certain situation we never see each other again?
i never been so miserable before.. last time forget is really forget but this one keeps coming back..... i will try to keep myself as busy as possible..
I keep telling myself its over... and i really want to strike a career out there.. 5 yrs time is all i need.. no distraction i told myself...... then i said.. what happen if i really succeed.. will i be happy without her? or what... hahaha
its like a chicken or egg game to me ...
can choose only one.....
spiderman says
"sometimes to accomplished great things, you must sacrifice, even means giving up the thing you love the most"
I followed Spiderman's advise.... still working on it but i still miss her every single day..... -
hey bro,do remember not to try and control if u still have contact with her.. i experince it and sincerely think that its important that u can control..or things go out of hand.. i did that i regret it,seeing people around me experince it too.
i guess u should have experince it too!
lets not only keep ourselfs busy,but try to get more friends! -
Best to be a friend than to lose it all.
If she really love her bf, wish her the best even if u feel like dying inside u.
I had once confess my love for a gal friend who is attached of my feeling for her and in the end, she rejected me and treated me like a stranger after that.
I tried to win her love and end up losing the friendship, it really isn't worth it.
So think about the consequences before u act. Hope u don't regret yr final decision. -
errm.. this topic had been going on for half a year?!
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Yes.. in fact.. the actual day is on 1st of Jan 04..Originally posted by Cyberj:errm.. this topic had been going on for half a year?!
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topic is online 6mths.. prob is more than years.. i think we have a brother here having this prob for 10years?
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Luckily I hv it for almost 5 years only b4 I got over it.... is tis suppose to be gd or bad har???......Originally posted by lolsuck:topic is online 6mths.. prob is more than years.. i think we have a brother here having this prob for 10years? -
5 years?? OMG!!Originally posted by stupidjoe:Luckily I hv it for almost 5 years only b4 I got over it.... is tis suppose to be gd or bad har???...... -
i'm 1 year behind u..
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it`ll just come back to huant you..
it jus nv ends...
it jus nv.................... -
AGREE,me story ard same as night,i starting to drift away from her since i know that it is impossible.......Originally posted by stupidjoe:morale of the story... sometimes we muz really let it go... if not, we'll be tied down by this knot in our heart forever...
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well as u can see, u have already made up ur mind, so just do it. stop contacting her.Originally posted by nightyoung:Thanks for the advise..
She sms me again... and i replied. this time i ask what she was doing and i replied. .. and wish her good nite.....
On my way back, i saw a funeral process goiing on under the void deck and think of how life is so miserable..... husband or wife... in the end.. either one of them will go and be lonely again... come to think of it... we only live once.. and i really want to let er know how i feel but everytime i saw her bf in her phone/wallet or when her bf called.. I kept mum and treat it as nothing has happened.....
What if i die somehow..... ?? or under certain situation we never see each other again?
i never been so miserable before.. last time forget is really forget but this one keeps coming back..... i will try to keep myself as busy as possible..
I keep telling myself its over... and i really want to strike a career out there.. 5 yrs time is all i need.. no distraction i told myself...... then i said.. what happen if i really succeed.. will i be happy without her? or what... hahaha
its like a chicken or egg game to me ...
can choose only one.....
spiderman says
"sometimes to accomplished great things, you must sacrifice, even means giving up the thing you love the most"
I followed Spiderman's advise.... still working on it but i still miss her every single day.....
she sms u, u reply it in the most simple way u can think of. like yes or no or yah, or maybe. ok that will piss her off after awhile abt this way it keeps wat u want to say unsaid. just make sure u dun talk cork or meet.
then start goin out with other girls. this will shift ur attention to another person of the same gender. chances are u will never get hooked up with another girl for awhile but hei u got to get ur self out of this first.
then make sure u avoid anything and everything that reminds u of her. well for the time being only lah. abt 3 mths or so.
this should basically get you on ur way to emotional freedom.
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Bad news.. today she called me out of the blue... i look at the number and thought who's that then i pick up.. then for a few seconds i realises its her!Originally posted by Dodobirdie:well as u can see, u have already made up ur mind, so just do it. stop contacting her.
she sms u, u reply it in the most simple way u can think of. like yes or no or yah, or maybe. ok that will piss her off after awhile abt this way it keeps wat u want to say unsaid. just make sure u dun talk cork or meet.
then start goin out with other girls. this will shift ur attention to another person of the same gender. chances are u will never get hooked up with another girl for awhile but hei u got to get ur self out of this first.
then make sure u avoid anything and everything that reminds u of her. well for the time being only lah. abt 3 mths or so.
this should basically get you on ur way to emotional freedom.
good luck and may the force be with you
She asked me whether she want to go gym.. and i was reluctant to say yes but i want to go so i agreed.. then when i was in the train... she called me and changed her mind and we went to orchard..... we ate and talk and after that we watched a movie after that... it was a very funny show. After that i sent her home.. oh god... i did it again. i met her and actually went out with her once again today before i left for my overseas trip tomorrow...
Sorry Superdude2004...i just can't do it...