guys can't just be friends?

• DriftingGuy

  3 Apr 05, 22:20

  
  Another way is to make friends with guys who already have girl friends but if all girls are like that then the single guys out there will be very sad...
• Gordonator

  3 Apr 05, 22:32

  then like that how does a guy knows whether the girl he like also like him in return? u know, to avoid any misunderstanding like the case study mentioned here.
• starblue

  3 Apr 05, 22:35

  er.... if she doesn't remind him she only sees him as a friend??? lolz...
• HENG@

  3 Apr 05, 22:38

  best way is to find gay guys to be friends with. less trouble with them.
• FadeToBlack

  3 Apr 05, 22:41

  Sometimes feelings grow out of nowhere...
• starblue

  3 Apr 05, 22:43

  are there any tips for me to prevent future guy friends from doing that??? i hate to lose friends like that...
• FadeToBlack

  3 Apr 05, 22:44

  Originally posted by starblue:

  are there any tips for me to prevent future guy friends from doing that??? i hate to lose friends like that...

  no tips this is human world, welcome to reality...
• HENG@

  3 Apr 05, 22:44

  Originally posted by starblue:

  are there any tips for me to prevent future guy friends from doing that??? i hate to lose friends like that...

  er, convince them to become gay?
• DriftingGuy

  3 Apr 05, 22:45

  
  Talk things out with your guy friends... Tell them that you love your bf a lot and will never leave him etc... but would still like to remain good friends with them... most guys will understand
• starblue

  3 Apr 05, 22:45

  HENG ah.. why u keep bringing up gays ah???
• starblue

  3 Apr 05, 22:46

  er... prob is, i don't have a bf now... then how??
• HENG@

  3 Apr 05, 22:48

  Originally posted by starblue:

  HENG ah.. why u keep bringing up gays ah???

  becos i find them easier to get along with compared to straight guys.
• LazerLordz

  3 Apr 05, 22:50

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  becos i find them easier to get along with compared to straight guys.

  Shocking.. Ah hah.This is definitely going somewhere..
• DriftingGuy

  3 Apr 05, 22:50

  Originally posted by starblue:

  er... prob is, i don't have a bf now... then how??

  that answers a lot of your question :"Why ur guy friends are like that..."
  
  The next question instead of "why" should be "why not?"
  
  Worse to worse just say that you are currently interested in someone else... but "why not" keep your options open?
• HENG@

  3 Apr 05, 22:57

  Originally posted by LazerLordz:

  Shocking.. Ah hah.This is definitely going somewhere..

  shocking? not really. straight guys are too competitive and testeronely charged up. i'd like to relax around my friends, instead of having to be defensive all the time. Besides, its sad to say but many gay guys i know here seem more gentlemanly to gals than straight guys.
• vito_corleone

  3 Apr 05, 23:02

  i have female best friends leh..... why do you have the idea that all guys are such desperate slobs?
• starblue

  3 Apr 05, 23:02

  er.. but sometimes i got tell them i like another guy also. still they can still turn out so funny... and HENG, i think there's truth in those line of yours.
• kaobeikaobu

  3 Apr 05, 23:09

  Originally posted by HENG@:

  shocking? not really. straight guys are too competitive and testeronely charged up. i'd like to relax around my friends, instead of having to be defensive all the time. Besides, its sad to say but many gay guys i know here seem more gentlemanly to gals than straight guys.

  ahh....raging hormones.....
  what if ur gay guys likes your bf one day?
• dragg

  3 Apr 05, 23:12

  when guys get too close to a gal they have a tendency to mistake the closeness to love.
• spencer99

  3 Apr 05, 23:13

  Originally posted by starblue:

  guys don't really know how to maintain a platonic friendship with girls huh?? i got quite a few guy friends last time. but then at some point or another, they turn to like me more than a friend. i swear i didn't do anything to mislead them!!! and i made sure they know clearly that they are just friends to me.. but why still liddat ah?? made me dun dare to face them again...
  
  how come guys cannot be just friends with you ah???

  hello hello.... are u saying you are very "attracive".
• nOrmalbOi

  3 Apr 05, 23:24

  figures... ur guy pals mostly/all from NUS? i dunno true anot but... i heard that there r plenty of desperate guys there.. tho i dunno true anot.. but i did hear it from more than 1 source... but 1 thing i wanna be clear about... i am not trying to put NUS guys down hor.. just stating what i heard..
  
  and..
  
  i myself have close girl pals... and i noe other guys who do too.. i guess u just chose the wrong ones to hang out with.. either that... or u may think that u r not giving the wrong signals.. but u r doing so... coz different ppl see things differently... so some would read a "stay put" sign as a "come on" sign..
• oldbreadstinks

  3 Apr 05, 23:32

  funny leh, i never like any girl i'm close with, and all those i like one is those suddenly appear in front of me one
• kaobeikaobu

  3 Apr 05, 23:35

  Originally posted by oldbreadstinks:

  funny leh, i never like any girl i'm close with, and all those i like one is those suddenly appear in front of me one

  u like ghost arh? must scare u then u like?
• deathscythe99

  3 Apr 05, 23:35

  Originally posted by starblue:

  of cos i wanna remain friends with them even after knowing that... but hor.. i feel very bad leh.. cos after knowing their thing for me, i feel like the next time i ask them a favour, they will surely do for me. but i don't wanna make use of their feelings for me mah... then i cannot help it but keep a distance from them loh... then i also know they're upset cos of this also.. how ah???

  Let them know where they stand in this friendship between the 2 of you. Make it clear to clear their doubts. I'm sure they will revert back...?
• deathscythe99

  3 Apr 05, 23:38

  Originally posted by starblue:

  er... prob is, i don't have a bf now... then how??

  Let them know you are not ready for a r/s now yet ?