Originally posted by NUS_Superst@r:
You have a point here. A person must have the socialising skills but on top of that, the common area of interests is also impt. That's the reason why ppl from poly generally don't mix well with JC kids. If I am only interested in smoking and drinking while you are not into these areas and try to interact with me with other topics, will there be any bonds forming? A perfect example will be chicken talking to ducks.
I think I need to clarify something, bonding is pretty different from work relationships. You may establish a good working relationship with a person, but you only bond as friends. You may not exactly be friends with a person, but you may either have a good working relationship with that person or have a good professional relationship with that person. It's more about having common topics to talk about rather than common interests. It could be work-related topics or company-related topics.
Personally I don't see how the Poly and JC issue relates to smoking, many of my friends from JC smoke too. Poly and JC not mixing well is more of the exception to me rather than the norm. Not just in working life now or in my Uni days but even in my army days as well. I think sometimes people notice the negatives and the exception rather than positives.
JC and Poly not socialising much isn't so much of lack of common interests, there are JC people who smoke and drink as well (you're an example). But it may be harder to relate because of different experiences in life. JC students would have entered army after taking A levels where results are 100% exam based. Poly students would have been doing assignments, FYPs, projects. But this not being able to relate doesn't just stop at JC and Poly, it involves a lot of other things as well.
During my army days, my Uni days and now my working days, whether a person is from Poly or JC or even others has not had any bearing on whether I am able to get along with a person. In fact in all these areas, I've linked up with groups that a a mixture of JCs, Polys and others.
Maybe it's because I am not the type to let such things restrict me, as such I am surrounded by people that think likewise. During my BMT days, I was the only JC/Dimploma person in my bunk, the rest were 'O' levels, PSLE, 'N' Level, but it didn't stop me from become friends with them.
Sometimes such things are in the mindset, people are different and you need to understand the differences. But it doesn't mean you focus on them and amplify them.