What should I do!!!
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tell her she is much more fortunate than most of us here. want so much money for what? carry it into coffin?
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To be fair to my wife, she is thrifty and loves the kid. The problem is she has high expectation on me. I save about $8500 a month, she complained too little. I wanted to study financial analysis so as to improve my competency in value investment, she complained that I should get out to make big money. When she claimed that I am escaping from ‘problem’, I really die of heart failure.
I was very nervous whenever we watch financial news. Honestly, I hope the news report market crash so she will not stare at me. Whenever we are in the car, I intentionally divert the route to prevent the view of en-block sale sign. I donÂ’t know how long can I last. -
Choices you have :
Speak to her nicely and tell her that everyone has their own limits.
Slap her in the face and say "STFU OR GTFO!"
Divorce
Compare what you have to what the general public has in front of her
Get someone she trust to talk to her. -
she loves you more, or loves money more?Originally posted by letgostress:To be fair to my wife, she is thrifty and loves the kid. The problem is she has high expectation on me. I save about $8500 a month, she complained too little. I wanted to study financial analysis so as to improve my competency in value investment, she complained that I should get out to make big money. When she claimed that I am escaping from ‘problem’, I really die of heart failure.
I was very nervous whenever we watch financial news. Honestly, I hope the news report market crash so she will not stare at me. Whenever we are in the car, I intentionally divert the route to prevent the view of en-block sale sign. I donÂ’t know how long can I last.
Has she ever been really poor before??
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woah...u save 8.5k amonth n ur wife is complaining?that means u should earn at least 15k
some pple make less than 10% of that.
i think ur wife needs consultation and couselling. Not critising here but i think she has some psychological issues.
i dont have a wife yet. but my mum as my dads wife nvr complain or expect much even though we are poor. plus my dad used to be very rich (owned even a boat with kitchen) but blew it up during the 80s recession.
I think my mum loves my dad and not his money, U should ask ur wife the same question.
N also , is she making more money than u?
Money isnt everything. Once u reached a threshold of comfort, money is just numbers on ur account book. Am i not right? -
Originally posted by curryman:woah...u save 8.5k amonth n ur wife is complaining?that means u should earn at least 15k
some pple make less than 10% of that.
i think ur wife needs consultation and couselling. Not critising here but i think she has some psychological issues.
i dont have a wife yet. but my mum as my dads wife nvr complain or expect much even though we are poor. plus my dad used to be very rich (owned even a boat with kitchen) but blew it up during the 80s recession.
I think my mum loves my dad and not his money, U should ask ur wife the same question.
N also , is she making more money than u?
Money isnt everything. Once u reached a threshold of comfort, money is just numbers on ur account book. Am i not right?
She earns slightly more than me. -
Dont get a divorce.
Just ignore.
Divorce still must give her money. KNN -
why does she need so much money for? not feeling secure enough?
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True but it certainly makes me feel better and even luckier knowing I have chosen correctly the right and good woman to become the mother to my children, the love of my life who have gone through thick and thin with me for the past eighteen years and never once measure me of how much I'm worth by the money or assets I have. Sorry, can't help but to toot my own hornOriginally posted by ChingAlvin:By comparing, it does not make him feel any better
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Just tell her how you feel and how uneasy you are. Let her know that her expectations are "killing" you. Key - COMMUNICATION.
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just ask her.
"you want so much money for what, har?!! we already have roof over our heads, we eat well, we dun owe people money, enough for kid's overseas education etc etc, what else do you want?"
alternatively, be patient and wait for market to crash. then tell her, "see?" -
Buying a property isnt about having money.
Its actually a liability, since it minimise your liquidity of your finances.
Its an assets, yes. But it means that should you need cold hard cash. You arent getting it in a instant especially when you need it the most.
I applaud TS's financial soundness. Its just too bad that the wiffie is kinda stuck in her own reality and not looking at the bigger pictures. -
why you marry such a gal in the first place??Originally posted by letgostress:To be fair to my wife, she is thrifty and loves the kid. The problem is she has high expectation on me. I save about $8500 a month, she complained too little. I wanted to study financial analysis so as to improve my competency in value investment, she complained that I should get out to make big money. When she claimed that I am escaping from ‘problem’, I really die of heart failure.
I was very nervous whenever we watch financial news. Honestly, I hope the news report market crash so she will not stare at me. Whenever we are in the car, I intentionally divert the route to prevent the view of en-block sale sign. I donÂ’t know how long can I last. -
she wants more..
people say
shen zai fu zhong bu zi fu
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TS said his wife earns more than him.
Might not be oobvious coz he bold his own words when replying me. -
go get a life insurance for her..... then arrange to get her killed.... money + get rid of pest..... best of both world
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No wonder he feels very tired, the wife got 60% lifesteal.Originally posted by snop_coolz:brood mother?? insatiable hunger...
spend ur money la..u got money..take ur family to a holiday oversea..or even better..time to fly high and say goodbye to singapore.. -
aiyo ... ask her wats she really wants ... if u dare ask her go buy one condo (freehole ) and w8 to lor .. see lar .. if she fail ... go make a will lor all give ur kkids
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Don't read this the wrong way ...
Have you spoken to your lawyer yet?
With girls like that you can never be too careful; best to seek pre-emptive advice on how you can best reduce your liabilities should divorce occur. The way it sounds, seems like she's going to be able to take at least 50% + ongoing maintenance of an incredulous sum. Not to mention that courts very often award custody to the mother (and I don't base this on any medium of mass media either (i.e. true facts)).
Seek therapy with your wife. You sound like a big successful guy; put your ego (and hers) behind each other and seek out therapy together. It's the best way to resolve differences, find new understanding and it will save you alot of legal/ancillary costs in the long run.
I'll be happy to put you in touch with competent family law litigators; and contrary to another of my post, will be from a different firm instead (cannot take sides!). -
BTW, just wanted to let you know your wife is not wrong in asking you to purchase properties.
If you were to die tomorrow and assets of yours which fall into certain categories total up to be over a specific government specified figure, a tax will be applied, leaving your family with less.
Don't read into this any evil conspiracy by our government; it's a system that works and keeps our economy in good shape -> Singaporeans reinvesting into Singapore. -
Also, you do realise that you can set up a trust for your son that will be tax-free right? That's an easy way to get the missus off your back; take out policies/long term investments (e.g. consistent buy-ins) that pay out for your retirement. That way, you don't have to be overtly paranoid and worried because the risk profile is usually very low, and you get insurance for yourself, your wife and your kids. If your wife cannot appreciate the stability in your decision, then you ....
good luck.
EDIT: Since you have so much liquid cash, just pass an amount to your partner, let her go play forex or do web-based speculation:
2-fold:
1) She realises that speculation is gambling.
2) She will find something else to do besides bothering you.
BTW, with so much cash, I'm guessing you're with some premium divisions of certain banks (or have a p.banker) .. how come your wife still bothers you? Don't you bring her to see your relationship manager ... those guys shd be able to easily help you get her to see straight. -
Thanks for your concern.Originally posted by rmyfrm:Also, you do realise that you can set up a trust for your son that will be tax-free right? That's an easy way to get the missus off your back; take out policies/long term investments (e.g. consistent buy-ins) that pay out for your retirement. That way, you don't have to be overtly paranoid and worried because the risk profile is usually very low, and you get insurance for yourself, your wife and your kids. If your wife cannot appreciate the stability in your decision, then you ....
good luck.
EDIT: Since you have so much liquid cash, just pass an amount to your partner, let her go play forex or do web-based speculation:
2-fold:
1) She realises that speculation is gambling.
2) She will find something else to do besides bothering you.
BTW, with so much cash, I'm guessing you're with some premium divisions of certain banks (or have a p.banker) .. how come your wife still bothers you? Don't you bring her to see your relationship manager ... those guys shd be able to easily help you get her to see straight.
I did propose to give her $100k to invest whatever way she wants, but she deny.
We do have private bankers from some big banks. After talking to them, I realise their competencies in wealth management is very superficial. No offence, how can I trust a 'fresh graduates' or young rookie to manage my wealth. Most of the time, they cannot answer my query about investment.
Ok, I think this is my problem that I have to manage myself.
Thanks. -
Boys and girls....this shows that money cant make pple happy.
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I understand your concerns. Citigold is a fine example of choosing young and beautiful relationship managers to be the public face of that division.
But don't forget also that the banks don't just hire anyone; usually only the most competent of the graduating cohort gets employed, and of that entire batch that enters the firm on orientation day ... only a few get chosen to be at the frontline, especially for the premium divisions like Citigold where your assets/investments have to be *cough*.
If they cannot answer your questions, I think they usually call their supervising manager (usually a VP) in ... and he should be able to clear all your concerns and queries. As far as I'm aware, the PS citigold branch always has a senior r'ship manager on standby incase "young and beautiful" does not render satisfactory assistance; besides, you get free parking at PS too!(paragon branch as well)
Of course, you cannot expect them to answer questions like "do you think I should short sell (insert currency) now?"; their job is only to advise, and beyond that, it's your call and your call only. No bank will provide that kind of service, only p.bankers.
Anyway good luck! If you really need to let off steam you could always punch her in the face and then say you're sorry -
Originally posted by FireIce:divorce?
...tats bad for the kid...