Should you reveal all your saving to your future spouse?

• relax_crown

  27 Sep 07, 13:43

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  i wont tell my husband but he must tell me his.
  

  eee selffish........
• noahnoah

  27 Sep 07, 13:45

  Originally posted by Master -_-:

  sounds like my auntie...when she divorced my uncle(who's my father's brother), we later found out she owns 3 terrace houses and a condo in 6th avenue and Dalvey estate all these while, she said she stayed in a 3 room flat at redhill

  Can i get to know your auntie bo
  
  
• relax_crown

  27 Sep 07, 13:46

  no one can be trusted. but wife can trust la but not completely......
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:26

  Originally posted by Fatum:

  can you profess to truly love a person you cannot even fully trust ? .....

  ....of cos there are trust and love, but the wife or husband should respect each other for some private stuffs? As a man I m you want to have some control on the money matter?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:27

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  i wont tell my husband but he must tell me his.
  

  .....are you a norn or the exception?
  
  You sound like a feminist...
• Fatum

  27 Sep 07, 14:29

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  ....of cos there are trust and love, but the wife or husband should respect each other for some private stuffs? As a man I m you want to have some control on the money matter?

  no .... to me trust and love comes hand in hand ......
  
  they are both absolute, implicit, total ........
  
  if wifey is the sort who anyhow spends money and cannot take care of the family finances well, then she's not the one, neh ? .....
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:30

  Originally posted by noahnoah:

  frankly speaking if have a fixed monthly income
  
  very easy to know how much savings left one
  
  but for sales comission basis hor
  
  can hide until no one know one
  
  

  .....how about investment in shares? the profits also nobody knows right?
• noahnoah

  27 Sep 07, 14:31

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....how about investment in shares? the profits also nobody knows right?

  yep lor no one knows too
  
  act poor but actually cash rich
  
  till no one knows
• Spartans

  27 Sep 07, 14:32

  Dun tell is better.
  
  Let say the marriage ends in divorce, at least the wife wont get much of your assets.
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:32

  Originally posted by noahnoah:

  Can i get to know your auntie bo
  
  

  .....what can you offer to his auntie?
• Fatum

  27 Sep 07, 14:33

  
  if you start planning for divorce already .... then you didn't put in absolutely 100% into the marriage, right ? .....
  
  should it be any surprise at all when it does fail ? ....
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:34

  Originally posted by noahnoah:

  yep lor no one knows too
  
  act poor but actually cash rich
  
  till no one knows

  .....so your opinion is not good to tell? Just open a joint account and keep the rest on your own?
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:37

  Originally posted by Fatum:

  if you start planning for divorce already .... then you didn't put in absolutely 100% into the marriage, right ? .....
  
  should it be any surprise at all when it does fail ? ....

  .....personally I think other assets like property and buiness dealing should tell, but personal saving in the bank account shouldn't...
• NeverSayGoodBye

  27 Sep 07, 14:39

  Originally posted by relax_crown:

  no one can be trusted. but wife can trust la but not completely......

  .....so you won't reveal all saving, dats what you mean?
• Fatum

  27 Sep 07, 14:40

  
  personally ... the only secret stash I'll keep would be a little account that I'll use to pay for birthdays, anniversaries, valentine's day, dirty weekend getaways etc ......
  
  for nice surprises for her .....
  
  I think she deserves to know everything else ....
  
  
• noahnoah

  27 Sep 07, 14:41

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....so your opinion is not good to tell? Just open a joint account and keep the rest on your own?

  Frankly speaking i do know
  
  a lot of ppl dun tell their wives or husband one
  
  all got secret accounts
  
  one
  
  It is up to one to tell or not tell lor
  
  
• Lorry`

  27 Sep 07, 16:05

  no no no
  
  dont reveal everything
  
• Zarks

  27 Sep 07, 16:09

  the money i earned is my OWN money !!!
• jiaminjolin

  27 Sep 07, 16:23

  Originally posted by NeverSayGoodBye:

  .....haha was curious should married couple need to reveal all their personal saving to each other? Besides money in the bank, others can be investment, i.e shares or property?

  nid a bit of money eurself barh. in case lorh. my future hubby hslal memme keep his $$ but i shant let him keep xD
• selfobliged

  27 Sep 07, 16:28

  why not? I'm going to marry him anyway. From there, we can discuss about financial planning.
• Xcert

  27 Sep 07, 16:55

  Originally posted by selfobliged:

  why not? I'm going to marry him anyway. From there, we can discuss about financial planning.

  better discuss 1st before marriage.
• Xcert

  27 Sep 07, 16:58

  Originally posted by Cool-gal:

  i wont tell my husband but he must tell me his.
  

  Originally posted by Zarks:

  the money i earned is my OWN money !!!

  Originally posted by jiaminjolin:

  nid a bit of money eurself barh. in case lorh. my future hubby hslal memme keep his $$ but i shant let him keep xD

  I think the answer can be seen from above.
• Wanda

  27 Sep 07, 17:03

  Originally posted by Fatum:

  my money is her money ... her money is her money ....

  Ya.
  
  If you're a guy, the answer is yes.
  
  If you're a woman, the answer is no need.
  
  
• Hello Kitty

  27 Sep 07, 17:06

  me will be 100% honest wif him.
  
  on wat/hw much hv i spent. n hw much more wil i b spendin.
• Cool-gal

  27 Sep 07, 18:43

  Originally posted by Hello Kitty:

  me will be 100% honest wif him.
  
  on wat/hw much hv i spent. n hw much more wil i b spendin.

  cos must let him prepare the cash in the acct for u to spend first ma...