About Plationic Friendships

• skythewood

  9 Nov 08, 22:23

  too bad for him.

  it will be worse if you don't even give him chance to try to impress you.

• Cowbaycowboo

  9 Nov 08, 22:28

  dun be....

  

  if liddat can get hurt...that person obviously cannot take any relationship. It is only during difficult times then the truth prevails

• Deino

  9 Nov 08, 22:37

  platonic friendship? why not...
  it could go as far as you think it can...

• cherrycola

  9 Nov 08, 22:50

  Originally posted by Cowbaycowboo:

  dun be....

  

  if liddat can get hurt...that person obviously cannot take any relationship. It is only during difficult times then the truth prevails

  ok. its jus that i treasure our friendship a lot. dun wanna lose a friend becos of tt.

• whiskers

  9 Nov 08, 22:54

  Why dun u tell him? in a mild jus to be sure type of tone... so u let him know you are not interested in him, but wants to keep the friendship.

• cherrycola

  9 Nov 08, 23:06

  Originally posted by whiskers:

  Why dun u tell him? in a mild jus to be sure type of tone... so u let him know you are not interested in him, but wants to keep the friendship.

  
  How?

• kopiosatu

  9 Nov 08, 23:09

  one to one date with platonic friend is to go far?

• cherrycola

  9 Nov 08, 23:11

  Originally posted by kopiosatu:

  one to one date with platonic friend is to go far?

  
  Maybe I belong to a different era. lol

   

• CannyOng

  9 Nov 08, 23:13

  Originally posted by mother-of-pearl:

  i have many guy frens .. very close ones .. they share secrets n problems with me de .. So i believe tat it can be as good as a BGR , minus the other couple things. ..
  Holding hands, hugging is fine though

  
  What???

• kopiosatu

  9 Nov 08, 23:14

  Originally posted by cherrycola:

  
  Maybe I belong to a different era. lol

   

  if the guy is a platonic friend

  and u can go out 1 on 1 with a girl

  then i don't see any issue with going out 1 on 1 with a platonic friend

  it ain't platonic when all this BGR ideas start coming in

• whiskers

  9 Nov 08, 23:15

  *on the date....
  Cherry : "erm... we are friends right, you didnt think too far right? cos i am afraid you might think there is something btw us"
  Friend : "Haha ofcourse not, jus normal friends, u tink too much"
  Cherry: "great, cos i dun want u to get the wrong impression"
  
  See the situation ba... but i think best to let him know ur position asap.

• CannyOng

  9 Nov 08, 23:15

  Originally posted by cherrycola:

  ok. its jus that i treasure our friendship a lot. dun wanna lose a friend becos of tt.

  
  Give hint to him like u always treat him just like an brother.

  Or Maybe u tell him, u like another guy(definitely is not him)....

• kiseki

  9 Nov 08, 23:34

  Sigh. This is the 525325432632 thread on platonic relationships. Lol.

  Yes. It's possible.

  I think he's just trying to know you a little better?

  Sometimes we really think too much. Haha.

• burndog85

  9 Nov 08, 23:58

  It is possible.

  Probably he just trying to know you a bit better.

  You probably might not like him at first but then afterwards, who knows you will probably fall for him or like a certain aspect of him.

  I used to like this girl and she told me directly that she doesnt want a bf and just want to be friends, so i just its okay. Just tell him directly and don't hurt his feelings about it.

• cathykitty

  10 Nov 08, 00:10

  it's possible to have platonic friendship between men and women. it's ok to go out ba, esp if both are still single. it really depends on the individual to make sure the line is not crossed.

  if the guy has developed feelings for u and wants to be a couple, he might be more obvious.. e.g. do many things for u.. try to put his arm ard ur shoulder... or hint to u abt getting tog...

  if he's already done these things, then maybe do what whiskers has suggested. sounds very diplomatic. and it can also give the guy a way out if he's really fallen for u and is feeling embarrassed tt u dun like him back. :)

• seotiblizzard

  10 Nov 08, 02:23

  I believe.

  How far depends on indiv, if tht girl/guy is touchy naturally, then as far as a hug would go. If the latter is conservative then keep the hands to themselves.

• cherrycola

  10 Nov 08, 08:37

  Originally posted by CannyOng:

  
  Give hint to him like u always treat him just like an brother.

  Or Maybe u tell him, u like another guy(definitely is not him)....

  
  I already told him that Im single. That's e prob.

• cherrycola

  10 Nov 08, 08:48

  Originally posted by burndog85:

  It is possible.

  Probably he just trying to know you a bit better.

  You probably might not like him at first but then afterwards, who knows you will probably fall for him or like a certain aspect of him.

  I used to like this girl and she told me directly that she doesnt want a bf and just want to be friends, so i just its okay. Just tell him directly and don't hurt his feelings about it.

  
  I can't jump into telling him that I don't want a bf out of nowhere right? a little too abrupt i think.

   

• BadzMaro

  10 Nov 08, 08:48

  I think its more.. complicated .

  U sometimes  may start off plutonic then over time, u know.. shit happens. Or either of you have feelings but wont work out, so become plutonic friends.  But both have possibilities of convulsing together and as opposite attracts . boom. happens.

  I got quite a few 'plutonic' girl friends. Go out , one on one. Even ones with bf. But as long as nothing happens, u keep it that way, then its all good. Like i may jio some girls, n she will help etc. But i admit , u have to remind urself that just friend only etc.. think with the big brain n all will be well. Hopefully. hahaha

  Anyways , if its so simply , i wouldnt be so stress also at times. hahaha

• cherrycola

  10 Nov 08, 08:58

  Originally posted by BadzMaro:

  I think its more.. complicated .

  U sometimes  may start off plutonic then over time, u know.. shit happens. Or either of you have feelings but wont work out, so become plutonic friends.  But both have possibilities of convulsing together and as opposite attracts . boom. happens.

  I got quite a few 'plutonic' girl friends. Go out , one on one. Even ones with bf. But as long as nothing happens, u keep it that way, then its all good. Like i may jio some girls, n she will help etc. But i admit , u have to remind urself that just friend only etc.. think with the big brain n all will be well. Hopefully. hahaha

  Anyways , if its so simply , i wouldnt be so stress also at times. hahaha

  I agree that it is complicated. In fact, I have lost many guy friends because of such "platonic" issues. I dun wan it to happen again

• kopiosatu

  10 Nov 08, 09:00

  i go out with my friend, i don't even touch her

  what so hard?

• BadzMaro

  10 Nov 08, 09:04

  Originally posted by cherrycola:

  I agree that it is complicated. In fact, I have lost many guy friends because of such "platonic" issues. I dun wan it to happen again

  Its not easy ah. Especially for a straight single dude. They have to deal with a few core issues, n frankly sometimes just not turning up is way better then having to navigate through the mind field. I also lost some friends also, but unfortunately it will happen. It depends on the guy/girl , then also the relationship conditions between ur friend n thier partner..  .  yup.. it gets complicated. lol

  Unless the guy see's u as totally unpleasant , undesirable , ugly walking talking piece of crap.... but u wouldnt want a guy to think of you in those terms right ? hahahah

  Or maybe i am putting t bit too much effort in thinking too much ? LOL!!! Anyways la... i think that overtime, things may happen. So try to move around, as in dont just ask this 1 girl or guy out , go out with a few of them different times to keep those plutonic relationships. Easier said then done. lol

   

• av98m

  10 Nov 08, 09:05

  Originally posted by cherrycola:

  I agree that it is complicated. In fact, I have lost many guy friends because of such "platonic" issues. I dun wan it to happen again

  
  I think, as long as you are upfront about your intentions with regards to them, and any others that might be involved in some way or another, there is really no reason for them to stop being friends with you.

   

  whatever you do, don't give some vague half-assed answer that will confuse the guy even more.

• BadzMaro

  10 Nov 08, 09:08

  Originally posted by kopiosatu:

  i go out with my friend, i don't even touch her

  what so hard?

  You pro ma.. we noobs.

  Besides ,  is she desirable ? U often go out with her ? She got bf liaw ma ? Single ? =D

  anyways.. teach me the ways that is easy n not hard. kekeke

• BadzMaro

  10 Nov 08, 09:09

  oops dbl post